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If you use it, if you like it, then why not pay for it? It’s only fair. Make a Contribution Close Skip to main content Advertisement sign in search jobs US edition The Guardian - Back to home home › opinion US politics world sports soccer tech arts lifestyle fashion business travel environment all Television Opinion 13 Reasons Why is being devoured by teenagers. We must understand why Nancy Jo Sales The show has sparked a debate about whether it is appropriate for middle-schoolers to watch. But we must also talk about why it resonates so much ‘Is any of this uncommon? Over-the-top? Unfortunately, no’ Photograph: Beth Dubber/AP View more sharing options Shares 5,604 Monday 8 May 2017 08.30 EDT Last modified on Tuesday 9 May 2017 06.57 EDT “Guys talk at our school and they do shit,” says Jessica, a character on the controversial new Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. “They do things to girls that no one ever talks about and no one ever does anything about.” “Like what?” asks an adult. “Like what do you think?” Jessica says ruefully. Yes, like what? 13 Reasons Why is about misogyny, rape culture, casual sexism and the kinds of things that go on in the lives of girls, but “no one ever does anything about” – or is even willing to acknowledge, much less discuss. It has been interesting to see, in the firestorm of debate that has followed the show, so much emphasis being placed on the series’ graphic depiction of the main character’s suicide, yet so little attention paid to those “13 reasons why” she actually decides to end her life. If festival crowds can unite to help a crowdsurfer, they can unite against sexual assault Jonathan Seidler Read more Hannah Baker is raped. She witnesses her friend Jessica being raped by the same boy. Prior to this, Hannah is photographed during a make-out session – a photo of a private moment which is then non-consensually shared by the boys on the basketball team at her school. After that, she becomes known as a “slut”. She is put on a “Hot List” and described as having the school’s “best ass” – something boys tell her she should be proud of. Her behind is grabbed in public. When she goes to tell her school counselor about her rape and she refuses to name the boy, he tells her that without a name he can’t report the crime, and counsels her to just get over it. Advertisement Is any of this uncommon? Over the top? Unfortunately, no. Over two and a half years, talking to more than 200 girls for my book American Girls, I heard story after story that echo Hannah’s experience – stories of cyberbullying and sexual assault, of sexual harassment on and offline, of anxiety, depression and suicidal ideation caused by abuses stemming from what can only be described as sexism. Girls in Los Angeles told me about a girl whose naked image was screenshotted by a boy who then non-consensually shared the photo with “the entire baseball team”. “He still has it and won’t delete it,” said the girl in my book. There is ample evidence to support the verity of the stories of these girls, research charting a precipitous rise in cyberbullying, sexual harassment, sexual assault and, yes, suicide in recent years. And while there are many wonderful school counselors and administrators who do their best to help kids in trouble, there is also an extensive body of reporting on how institutions fail girls and young women when they try to report sexual assault. “It’s reality,” said a girl in a post on Seventeen.com about girls’ reactions to 13 Reasons Why. “And the people that don’t like it are super clueless to what high school and middle school are like.” Is the show appropriate for middle schoolers to watch? In my view, no. As a parent myself, I don’t think it would be advisable for anyone under the age of 16 to see the show, especially without an adult on hand to discuss it. But both high schoolers and middle schoolers are watching 13 Reasons Why. It's not groping or fondling – it is sexual assault Laura Bates Read more At a middle school in New Jersey last week, when I asked an auditorium full of nearly 600 seventh and eighth graders whether they had seen it, almost every hand went up – something which surprised the principal and teachers. Schools around the country have been issuing advisories warning parents not to allow their children see the show, for fear that it could trigger vulnerable kids and inspire them to commit copycat suicides. Advertisement And while I think that such concern is valid, I also think we are missing an opportunity in centering the discussion on Hannah’s suicide alone. If we talk to kids about this show, we need to talk to them about the experiences that led up to her suicide. We need to talk to them about misogyny. Because girls are having experiences that no one is talking to them about, and all of us – both boys and girls, as well as adults – are implicated. For 13 Reasons Why is not only about misogyny, it is about having accountability for misogyny. “It has to get better, the way we treat each other and look out for each other; it has to get better somehow,” says Hannah’s friend Clay, in the last episode of the show. It will only get better by recognizing what girls go through, and having frank discussions about what we can all do to change our behavior, our attitudes and our culture, so that they won’t have to go through such things anymore. I dedicated American Girls to my friend Alyson, who took her own life in 2014. Although she was in her thirties, I believe her suicide was provoked in part by experiences that were very similar to those of the girls in my book, and to Hannah’s. Every day I ask myself: what more could I have done to help her? 13 Reasons Why is about those of us who are left behind, and how we wish we had done more to be there for a young woman in pain. There is much we can do, starting with listening to girls, hearing them and seeing the world they live in. In the UK, the Samaritans can be contacted on 116 123. In the US, the National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1-800-273-8255. In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is on 13 11 14. 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