#and yet how queer ppl talk abt relationships w/o kissing or sex as miserable and repressed and sanitised and *unrealistic* and Barely Alive

[tyrannuspitch]

i'm gay but i'm also kiss repulsed and sex repulsed so if i ever get a bf we're just gonna have to queerbait to show our affection

#ace tag #joke post over genuine Complicated Feelings abt how queerbaiting is often more Like Me than any hypothetical resolution #and yet how queer ppl talk abt relationships w/o kissing or sex as miserable and repressed and sanitised and *unrealistic* and Barely Alive #like yeah ofc i know what they mean but like #it's just obvious that *i* know what *they* mean while they have no idea ppl like me exist and might not believe me if i told them #and like what do u do if ur ideal looks like everyone elses self loathing #what do u do if the template for an ideal is so wrong for u that u cant even work out what u DO want #what do u do if u run from straight society bc it demands something u cant give and it terrifies u #and then u get to queer society and it expects the exact same thing #:( #and then the ace community. well. hhh. i dont wanna get into it rn :(