#and underestimates his infant ability to eat and root and cry

[alexandrium]

my mom bought a pillow for my infant's bassinet and then got upset when I told her absolutely not. and then didn't believe me when I told her about safe sleeping and that he's my kid anyway, so I'm deciding what's worth the risk and what isn't. she sends me a post like "look at how good the pillow is" and it's just. the ad for the fucking pillow. her source is the ad.

she did this again about gripe water. I tell her it works and that it's relatively safe but considering how worried the hospital was about his kidneys and thst we haven't had results yet for his ultrasound so i'd rather not risk his kidneys by giving him anything not milk unless he truly needed the stupid gripe water. and then she sends me a "source" about how it does no damage at all and it's from. the company she was recommending. like dude. and every pediatrics/hospital based site clearly talks about how those drops should be a last resort. bc for the reasons I said. a baby this small can only handle milk

#and then she wanted to use these simethicone drops right #and im like well he hasnt pooped in 2 days so i want to make sure hes not constipated first because simethicone doesnt do anything for it #and a common side effect IS constipation #and she responds about how out of ALL the reviews she read only one mom talked about constipation #and how babies NEVER get constipated from it #and im like wow what a great source #the thing is my baby has been okay so far just normal infsnt troubles and so far he calms down easily #if he was actually cryng hours at a time and not able to sleep well then this would be a different story #i just hate the parental 'oh no! lets skip to the most intense option!' ppl do #and also she doesnt consider him a person she only exclusively talks to him like hes a fucking dog #and underestimates his infant ability to eat and root and cry #like shell insist hes in pain when hes not even crying or anything #idk how she raised 3 kids #also shes scared of tummy time and didnt want me to do it?