#and the environment there is so toxic too

[melyzard]

The World is Amazing, Actually (Part 11 or 12, I lost count)

It's been awhile since I made a post about how fucking rad the world actually is, and amidst all the pandemics and climate change and economic troubles, I felt the need.

So:

Today’s Wild Place (The Earth is An Alien Planet):

The Danakil Depression, Ethiopia:

The Danakil Depression is probably the closest you'll ever be able to come to standing on the surface of Venus (without the crushing atmosphere, of course). Choking sulphuric acid and chlorine gases fill the air, while acid ponds and geysers pepper the landscape. 

- Daisy Dobrijevic, published July 4, 2022

(BTW scientists recently discovered microbes capable of surviving in this toxic, extremely hot environment, which means...well, even if we kick the bucket, life will continue. There's something comforting in knowing that no matter how bad we screw up...life will go on.)

Today’s Incredible Feat of Engineering (look! at what! we made!):

Ouarzazate Solar Power Station in Morocco, which has gone solar in a big way.

(Which means they are making a huge contribution to helping fight toxic pollution, noise pollution, water use, land destruction, and carbon emissions. No really, there are charts. Reducing carbon emissions charts. Reducing irresponsible land use charts. Charts! Graphs! Data samples!)

Today’s Cool Life Form (the rare, the weird, the beautiful):

The Hispaniolan Solenodon.

A very rare, nocturnal, shrew-like creature that is one of the few mammals able to produce venom. Look at him! Look at his snout! He's just a little guy! He will bite you and run away on his back legs! He's rare, and endangered, but not gone! Not gone yet, bitches!

(Bonus: 10 Fun Facts About the Solenodon)

Today’s Bizarre Mystery (no, seriously, wtf?):

The Great Unconformity.

Hey, remember the Grand Canyon? Remember how we can see the passage of time through each layer, going back hundreds of thousands of years?

Did you know that apparently, on this massive record of earth's geological history, there's a chunk of time missing? Science has some hypotheses about how and why this happens (and yes, it's been found in more than one place), but they are really only hypotheses, and no one's really sure what happened to, oh, 1.6 billion years, give or take.

Today’s Act of Humanity (yes, we are worth the effort):

After fleeing a war, Ukrainians rush to help Mississippi tornado victims.

"They made the 16-hour drive south to donate bottled water and volunteer with aid workers, buoyed by the idea that they could help a community facing a similar struggle to theirs.

“We had to leave our home,” Pavliuk told The Washington Post in Ukrainian, in an interview interpreted by Hrebenyk. “And they don’t have a place to go back, either.”"

NEW CATEGORY:

Today's Good News About The Future (No, It's Not Too Late and Anyone Who Says Otherwise is Selling Something):

The Saiga Antelope, a species critical to the continued survival of huge swathes of grassland, that in 2003 was down to 6% of it's population and already extinct in it's natural habitat of China and Ukraine, has rebounded back to almost 2 million strong thanks to conservation efforts.

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#the world is amazing #planet earth #nature #good news #animals #danakil depression #Ouarzazate Solar Power Station #morocco #Hispaniolan Solenodon #little creature #saiga antelope #climate change #climate conservation #hope #ukraine immigrants #people are okay #mississippi tornado #look for the helpers #I'm so tired of being worried about the world #but it's not all bad

[teeth-cable]

Have you seen The Amazing Digital Circus yet?

If so, what's your opinion on it?

I LOVE TADC! It’s my favorite indie show at the moment! There’s just so much I like about it but my main ones are

1. The setting and execution being unique. A horror-like project taking place in an late 90s/early 2000s digital game is not a new idea and same goes with characters being stuck in a purgatory however it’s how the artists reinvent those idea that makes it new. The digital Circus made its own aesthetic that makes it stand out from other projects with similar concepts and designs. When I first watched the pilot, one of many things that stuck out to me was how new the story ideas felt. I couldn’t think of any other pieces of media similar to TADC beside for surface-level comparisons. The TADC created its own aesthetic and knows what it wants to be and I like it!

2. Soundtrack. Speaks for itself, the soundtrack for the pilot is so good especially Your New Home. That song is very catchy and emotional too. It has such a unique melody, everytime you hear the first few notes you instantly recognize it. It does a great job highlighting the dread and existentialism crisis of Pomni’s situation. I recommend to give it a listen if you haven’t.

3. The characters dynamics. I just love how the characters interact with each other. The majority of the jokes comes from characters’ interactions and dynamics and how well everyone plays off of each other. The best example is Jax with everyone, Jax is a funny jerk who likes bullying his peers. It’s funny to see what creative ways Jax will bully the other people whether it’s being sarcastic and making quips at them, or though goofy pranks and how the characters react because of their contrast in personality. Every character beside Jax is openly stressed or worried in someway while Jax, at first seem like a chill layback dude.

4. The characters differences. I adored the differences between each character from how they talk to their poses. After watching HH and HB, I learned to have an appreciation for character differences. It’s just refreshing to see characters allowed to be different instead of the same tired reused tropes and repeating the same type of dialogue again for every character.

5. Mystery and lore. There is so much to explore in the pilot, it’s make you wanting more. When going in to watch the pilot, I made the mistake of thinking the series will be predictable. I didn’t see how they could make this premise work because by the end of it, Pomni will go insane but then I watched the pilot and was speechless. The pilot does a good job setting up questions for the audience to ask. If Caine lied about the exit, what are other things did he lied about? How long has the cast been stuck in the circus? Who are these people? Are they previous game developers? Who were they in their previous lives? What is the company’s motivation to create the headset? What are the abstractions in game? Are they viruses to the game program? Who were the former cast? What horrors has Kinger seen to be as paranoid and easily frighten as he is now? Do the abstractions still have a consciousness? You just want to find out more about the lore to solve the many mysteries in the show. I find it impressive Gooseworx was able to stir up the theorists because they have admitted in an ask, there are already theories floating around that are almost right about the show.

One problem I did have for the pilot were the scenes containing the Gloink Queen. The pacing of the pilot was fine until we got to her then it was slow. I feel it dragged longer than it needed too but beside that, my issues for the pilot ends.

I can’t speak for the fandom on other platforms but the tumblr one is great! Most of the time everyone is being respectful towards each other and I love seeing what creative theories, AU, fanfics, and art the fans created. The only people causing drama are the anti-shippers, and it’s just dumb. All of the cast are adults, if age gaps ships makes people uncomfortable, that’s valid but they shouldn’t make it into other people’s problems. Gooseworx themselves admitted they don’t care for romance and they don’t want fans in the fandom getting harassed over shipping.

Overall despite what issues I had for the pilot and fandom, they’re overshadowed by the positives and I can’t wait to see the full show and the fandom’s growth.

#꧁rambles꧂ #➥asks #the amazing digital circus #The TADC is the indie show and fandom I needed #After a year of critiquing Viv and her shows and being a fandom as toxic as HH & HB I just needed a break #I’m still active as you can see but barely posting and critiquing the shows anymore #I do check the critical tags every now and again to catch up and I’m just not interested in consuming any Viv’s content anymore #The last Ep I saw from HB was Unhappy Campers and the last video related to HH was the Happy Day in Hell one #I kinda don’t see the point of being very active on my HH amounts when I’m no longer watching Viv and I think everything to Viv is regressi #Viv is getting more careless about how she presents herself online and people are starting to noticed how much of an ass she really is #responding on a funny shitpost of “If the TADC was written by Viv” lightly making fun of her and she blew up once again #I’ve seen creators with a decent size following in other platform not just Twitter called her out and Viv and the fandom is be the- #reasons why Hazbin will fail #Her fandoms are notorious for being toxic/ fans going out of their way to attack not just haters but anyone who doesn’t praise Viv 24/7 #Viv is actively creating toxic environment in her fanbases so she can protect herself from criticism and allegations behind her fans #But because of this Viv is contributing to the future downfall of Hazbin because no one wants to be associated with her because of her fanb #There’s just no reason to stay around #If the reaction to the Prime’s video Happy Day in Hell from outsiders is mixed then the reaction will be too for the full release #Plus the general attitude towards Viv has changed over the last three years #Despite her previous controversies she was see as a respectful creator but now views are mixed #People see her as the indie creator whose show took a nose drive in season 2/doesn’t pay her employees/is immature/and is now seen in a- #more negative light

[volstruckerz]

it is so funny to me that margaret is only 24 years old but since most of the party has either been alive for way less than that (barry was "born" as a 25 year old super soldier, sid is a super new protoype droid) and everyone else is so new to living the Spacer lifestyle or just living on their own at all (riva and gunnie and skip and also kind of everyone) that she is by process of elimination the Most Experienced member of the gunner channel and somehow both the Fun Aunt and the "we have mcdonalds at home" mom. and she is also truly having a quarter-life crisis the entire time.

#like she is Actively Spiraling and also the most responsible out of the gunner channel #like the dynamic is truly so hilarious i adore them #sometimes if i think about it too hard im like huh. 18 year old savant working at UFTP for six years and climbing the corporate ladder #with estranged family in a toxically competitive and dehumanizing work environment that basically becomes her whole Life #but deeply unhappy and knowing its so fucked up and Unethical #and only staying because you've come This far and to leak info and to stay with her Good Friend #and it does hurt a lil #a starstruck odyssey #margaret encino #the gunner channel

[idealest-of-ideals]

Enemies to lovers kousano.

Thats all.

#To ME their relationship would be sooooo sskk coded #They would hate each others guts and talk shit about one another behind their backs #I saw this one art of them both beating each other up and I can't stop thinking about it #Like obviously they're not that action oriented but I think they would still pull some shitty stuff over one another #Yosano would hate kouyou bc she thinks she's a cocky prissy bastard in the same way she kinda hated on chuuya that one ep #Also the fact that she works so loyally under mori. who. we all know what. #And also kouyou abusing and manipulating kyouka in a similar way as to how mori manipulated her #Kouyou would hate yosano too. not to as much of an extent as yosano would #But. enough #It would probably be similar to akus jealousy towards atsushi #How yosano was able to grow and leave the toxic environment she was in (mori) and become a person who can love themselves and shit #And how kouyou couldn't escape the mafia as a kid #So she convinced herself into believing she didn't really deserve a normal life #But her hatred of yosano is wayyyyy more repressed #Since she's more on the logical side #And since kyouka cares for yosano too #So she wouldn't deprive kyouka of another person in her life #But as time goes on and kyouka heals and learns to accept and understand kouyou for her (undoubtedly) toxic actions #This is where the shin soukou-esque shit comes in #They obviously don't partner up and shit #Since they have basically nothing to do with each other in their respective organisations #But they try to get to know each other??????? #Idk how romantic relationships work but from here on they get all competitively flirty and lovey dovey #And yeah #Idk #These are a fuck load of tags #I should've just wrote this in the post itself #Bsd #Bungou Stray Dogs #Kousano

[simplyghosting]

And in starting off the new year in typical workplace fashion, we have me once again, not working as the bookkeeper’s assistant I was hired to be, but as “Yes, I can listen to your problems. No, I am not licensed as a therapist; all I can do is listen and give my personal thoughts. No, I cannot give medically-approved advice. No, you cannot hire me for mental health purposes regarding your family.” for 5hrs and having someone start crying.

#ghost posts #Ive mentioned it before but get paid for the time anyway #so it doesn’t bother me too much since I don’t mind listening #not toxic workplace environment btw I’ve been in that before #this is the real ‘we are family’ workplace #my boss keeps asking me to get certified so she can officially hire me as a therapist #and then after work my boss’s kid asked me to beat a character in smash bros

[bonebabbles]

im curious, do you think there is any good way to portray a redemption by death? like, can a character truly be made a better person by dying? or is it just an all-around bad trope? i vaguely saw what the authors were trying to do with tom and sandgorse's situations, but they just sucked too bad and gave it the absolute wrong effect imo

I think there's a way to make anything work! So I won't say "NO NEVER." But personally, I have a big bone to pick with it so I avoid it

A redemption death doesn't give the character time to meaningfully change, imo, or truly make up for their actions. That all has to come before the death itself. And even the very idea of giving your life up to "redeem yourself" just... sits uncomfortably with me.

Dying never makes a person better. It just kills them. A person who's dead is not changing nor growing.

So Tom and Sandgorse... what their deaths are supposed to do is re-frame everything they did before that point. With no apology on Sandgorse's end for how badly he hurt his son or wasn't there for his mate, he was a good enough person to die for someone else and thus must be forgiven. Tom thrashes two women and they both die because of him, but he was still willing to heroically throw his life down for his child, and so he is 'worthy' of being avenged and honored.

No growth. No change. No acknowledgement. The death is supposed to add sympathy to them, while there's no actual reckoning of how they hurt their victims. Not even a real consequence. "Their intentions were good, and this is proven through the ultimate sacrifice." As if that changes anything. It doesn't.

I think if there's an decent example of a redemption death in warriors, it's Bluestar's. I still have problems with how it believes Stone and Misty have to "forgive her" for some reason, REALLY don't like the fact that this series has always equated redemption and forgiveness... but that aside? Just focusing on Firestar, ThunderClan, and Bluestar?

I think what makes the moment so strong is that it is a moment of clarity through her cruelty arc. We saw the heroic person she was at the start of TPB. We know that her actions are coming from anger, spite, and paranoia. That is never shown as a thing to be excused. But while she's wrapped up in her own misery, Fireheart is being the leader she isn't.

And her last life is a return to form, spending it the way she is supposed to, as a leader, and as his mentor.

Her arc could never be about 'growth' because... she WAS a great leader. She WAS selfless, long ago. Her redemption death is a return to that, and a plot necessity. Bluestar and Firestar cannot both exist.

But, anyway, it's generally a trope I'm not fond of. I think that nearly anything can work in the right context, but I think it's so situational that I personally avoid it when possible.

#And plus... #THIS is very personal taste #but it's so unkind. #I don't really like writing or reading deeply unkind fiction #I believe strongly in the idea that the most important step you take is the next one #There's nothing a person can't come back from and it's never too late to be better. To stop hurting people #I think that love and kindness are actually their own rewards #When a character redeems themselves through death that's it. they never have to face the consequences of their actions #burned bridges and distrust. Loss of power or control. Toxic environments of their own creation #Being a miserable person HURTS #and I think 'deserving' can be a bit of a loaded word #(not that im not guilty of using it myself) #the better way to think about flawed characters is-- *would* they ever truly change? #Would they *want* to? Would they ever be able to properly introspect? #Would they be *capable* of listening to an outside perspective? #and for clear sky I feel that answer is a STRONG no. To all of those. And I think that's shown clearly in the post 'redemption' narrative #redemption isn't about feeling Very Guilty about what you did. It's not about suffering. You aren't better because you're in pain #If we were FORCED to go through a Clear Sky Redemption I wish so badly that he lost his power #because he clearly can't handle it #actual consequences for his actions #but anyway #I ramble in the tags once more

[duskycervitaur]

Having the wrong kind of people in positions of power such as something as simple as assistant manager in a gas station, can seriously fuck up any kind of good employee you had that is now under that thumb of power. I used to love my job, some days I still do when said people aren’t around for a couple of days. But gosh..when they’re back and saying ugly shit about you and your work ethic..it makes you want to give them the only kind of employee they so wrongly expect out of you. Leaving me feeling incomplete in my work that supplies my means of living…I want out. I just want to be appreciated for the hard work I do that leaves my already aching young body broken at home. Is that too much to ask?

#gas station #work stories #coworkers #someone help #toxic work environment #work suuuuucks #work shit #fuck this #fuck this job #i work so hard #toxic workplace #toxic management #i feel like shit #i’m too tired for this #pay attention #fyp2023 #fypage #tumblr fyp #fyp

[cerise-on-top]

ALLO!!!!

how are you, love?!?!!? I hope driving practice has been good!!

I was wondering this the other day, cuz I was rereading one of my favorite posts of yours about Rudy, and I’m curious, why does he feel the need to be strong and not be seen as weak? Like, why doesn’t he initiate that besides feeling like it would bother his partner? I wanna know who HURT MY BABY!!! >:(

Hey there!

I'm doing fine, thank you! How are you! Driving has been alright! I passed my exam and soon I will be driving with my mother for practice! I plan to get the practical exam done sometime before November :D

I can actually give you two answers to your question, a short, but truthful one, and a longer one! Under the read more so I won't clutter anyone's dashboard ^^

In short: Rodolfo is, surprisingly, the character I project onto the most while writing! So, yeah, him being the way he is is just me projecting my personality onto him!

The long answer would be that he's actually got a bit of toxic masculinity in him. All those characters have been in the military ever since they were young, where I always liked to think the men would be rather toxic, not wanting to be seen as weak and just wanting to show off how strong and cool they are. I don't usually show too much of it in other characters, but another character who grew up and internalized some toxic masculinity, in my writing, is Soap. But he handles it a bit differently from Rodolfo. However, he would want to be seen as a traditionally strong man as well.

Rodolfo was shaped by his time in the military and started believing that he was not to show very many emotions either. Sure, he will show that he's happy, that he's somewhat annoyed, but not usually to the extent he really feels it, unless there's not a lot to that emotion in that moment. Everyone around him was a show-off, was cocky and somewhat immature as well. He has always been more mature than others his age, but it still rubbed off on him. Deep inside he does still want to show his emotions. But that's showing weakness to him. Sometimes he just wants to cry and have someone comfort him, he almost always wants someone to hold him and be sappy with him, telling him how much they love him. It doesn't even need to be a romantic kind of love, if a good friend of his was to ever tell him that they loved him then he'd be over the moon, even if he'd just answer with a simple "thanks".

Ever since he joined all those wannabe machos that believe that being strong means never showing how damaged you are, he sort of became like them. Sure, he usually has his emotions under control, you usually can't tell he's too upset unless he's about to tear someone's throat out, but that also means that the people close to him will never really hear the truth. He needs to be the big, strong man in your relationship, anything else just isn't acceptable. While he may not believe in all that alpha male nonsense, he does believe that he should be the one to make more money than his partner, that he should always take the bullet for them, that he should fight off any and all competitors out there.

It's more extreme when his partner is a woman, or female aligned, because in that case he really feels as though he has to be her pillar, that he can't show any "weakness" at all. With enough persistent persuasion, he could slowly change his mind, but it would take a while.

That toxic masculinity is also the reason why Rodolfo, as I write him, prefers men. Don't get me wrong, he still loves women, but when with a man it's not as extreme. He won't show everything he feels, but he'll be a bit more at ease. Even initially, he can be more open with a man because there's a kind of kinship he doesn't immediately have with a woman. If his partner is more open with his feelings, then he has a slightly easier time as well. If his partner is a "weak" man, who needs to be protected, then that's alright too. It shows Rodolfo that men don't always need to be those strong, aggressive beings. Besides, that toxic masculinity he believes in applies to him the most, it's not as severe with other people. So he won't hold his partner accountable for showing emotions or being affectionate with him. In fact, Rodolfo actually likes it when his partner is being affectionate with him, it means that he loves him. Rodolfo is affection starved anyway. Sure, Alejandro is affectionate with him, but it's not nearly enough to satiate him. He's very much like a black hole in that regard: No matter how much affection you throw at him, it likely isn't enough. He loves affection, but he won't show it through "normal" means, such as initiating a cuddling session, unless explicitly asked.

If asked, he will do just about anything since that's his job as a strong man, to make his partner happy. If you ask to hold him, then that's one of the only times he'll "swallow his pride". In reality, he could cry because he really just wants to be held. Deep down he wants to be pampered and taken care of as much, if not even more so than, his partner. He's actually a real sweetheart, he just can't show it all the time. Wants to be peppered in kisses and be told that he's the most handsome lad in the world. But alas, he can't even ask for comfort. If he's sad then he'll just swallow it down, not wanting to bother his partner, and, of course, to "seem stronger than he actually is".

So yeah, Rodolfo really suffers from all that toxic masculinity nonsense.

#cherry chats #do I tag this as #Rodolfo Parra #sorry this got really long I just have a lot to say about Rodolfo ^^; #but yeah toxic masculinity is a disease and Rodolfo caught it when he joined the military #he may not be as aggressive as other men. hell he's not a casanova either but you will mostly see him feeling neutral #so no one really hurt him he just became like that because of his environment #as mentioned before: Soap also has that. Graves too #most of the men do. not very many of them are entirely comfortable in their masculinity and need to show off whenever they can #I genuinely believe that Gaz is pretty comfortable with where he is though #but he's one of the only ones #while not all of them want to be pampered like Rodolfo they do want to be the bigger and stronger person #I'd even go as far as to say that someone being “stronger” than them would be a dealbreaker for some of them #Rodolfo would feel conflicted in a situation like that. he wants to be protected deep down #he wants someone to be stronger than him but he's not sure he could let something like that happen #so yeah! sorry again! thank you for letting me rant though! ^^

[the-lightning-strikes-again]

I'd love to see Lotura get a happy ending.

Hi, anon--SAME. Although what if I told you...a version of one exists in old Voltron canon? In the DDP Comic of Voltron, called A Legend Forged, Lotor and team Voltron accidentally travel 1,200 years into the past and ally to defeat the evil regime run by Lotor's great-great (lots of greats) grandmother. In it, Lotor helps to save Allura from being corrupted by an evil magical entity, and his love for her helps to save the day and Voltron too!

I know it's not the same as the lotura setup in VLD, but it was fun to see Lotor ally with Team Voltron and have it all end well. Lots of snarky, sassy Lotor too. If you're still feeling down, maybe it could help!

Lotura fandom's also got some great art and fics that explore different AUs of what a happy ending could be. I hope exploring those can help as well.

Thanks for the note!

#Voltron #Lotura #Lotor #Allura #A Legend Forged #also anon I see you dropped in some other notes to me #Sorry I can't help with those pieces as I am not a psychiatrist and am not comfortable getting involved like that #I recommend professional help for the struggles you've faced with VLD and fandom involvement #people don't heal in the same environment that hurt them so it's okay too to break from something when it's really hurting you #professional help can assist you with building those boundaries so you can enjoy life again and let the toxic and painful things go #I hope things get easier for you

[hatake]

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#started going to therapy again in the hopes of coping better with my fam situation #but my therapist is pretty adamant that the situation is too toxic for me to be able to heal in #and i know he's right but also i'm not in a place rn where i can leave said situation or have the emotional capacity to try #and having a third party affirm that the position you're in is actually more fucked up than u thought is both validating and exhausting #bc like before i was just like ''my mom is entitled to still be close to the ppl who sexually abused me'' #and was able to just blame all my rage and frustration and hurt on myself #but now that it is starting to resonate that Wait That's Actually Fucked Up #just existing around my mom has become so much more exhausting #& i've spoken to my therapist abt this but i'm venting here bc i'm really feeling it today #it's sounds dumb but having someone explain to u that ur rightfully at ur limit at all times makes it so real somehow #ofc i'm at my limit at all times in this environment most people would be too!!! #i'm just so tired 😭😭 #tired and overwhelmed and tired and overwhelmed #and #ugh

[girlwithfish]

idk why my boss is giving me attitudetoo maybe cuz some parent prob complained abt me cuz i was talkjng to my coworker for a min during pick up bc we were trying to coordinate how we were going to close two classrooms with 30minutes left of the day and we didnt break up this ladys kid and some other kid who were having some petty ass two yr old fight on the playground

#like ok yeah i shld have broken it up but i didnt so what now. no one is hurt they werent actually fighting #they were just having some petty fight where they both wanted to b on the slide and were just screaming bc theyre two it wasnt actually like #physical #idk maybe these bitches shld givenus enough time to properly clean our classrooms and close etc cuz my coworker nd i were just trying to #work out how we were gojng to do that and its always so chaotic like two kids screaming we might not immediately run over to them when we #have like 16 other kids !! idk #anyway apparently she was pissed and complained to a diff coworker and probably the director too and claimed we were on our phones lol #like if i was on mg phone i was just checking the ratios and who was where and work stuff it was just an unlucky moment idk #like i feel like everyone's so focused on when u mess up only its getting old like watch ur own kid then bitch LMAO 😭😭😭idk #sorry im salty rn im just sick of parents rn like... #i feel like im working really hard and theres like no reward ig thats just life LOL but im sick of the toxic work environment tho #the vibes r bad i dont need it anymore. lol

[here-there-were-dragons]

every time i think the "staff can do no wrong and any form of complaining or expressing literally anything other than "yaaay love it <3" with no further comments is bashing and literally evil we should never say anything that could even potentially be interpreted as mildly critical ever because ~some artist who worked hard on this is probably reading the forums and might feel bad if we ever express anything but praise~ also we must be constantly positive at all times unless we're passive-aggressively shaming someone for having an extremely polite and apologetically worded criticism and if you ask the staff for literally anything you had better be prepared to preface it with 3 paragraphs of apologizing for breathing air" attitude is bad on tumblr, i take one look at the forums, and holy fucking hell is it SO much worse on site

#i go for years at a time without ever bothering to look at fr forums #and then every time i do i remember why i stopped #it feels like a goddamned cult on there and every time i dip my toes i come out feeling slimy and sick #as if i just spent an hour being aggressively gaslit by my extremely manipulative grandmother #what the fuck is wrong with everyone #i'm glad i decided to keep this creepy fucking fandom at arm's length and mostly just lurk years ago #that place is not a healthy environment for anyone to be in #flight rising #legitimately the single worst fandom i've ever had the misfortune of being adjacent to #and in such a creepy and insidious way too #they'll call you an entitled whiny baby to your face and then convince you it's your fault and you're a horrible person for feeling offende #it feels like being neck deep in the absolute worst kind of preformative sj spaces #you know the ones where everyone interacts primarily via callout posts and there's discourse over if crossdressing is cultural appropriatio #that kind of toxic sj space type energy #but somehow combined with like this weird feeling of being in a mormon church in a deep south town #where all the “nice grandmas” will try to put poison in your food if they find out you're gay or voted blue even one time #and it's somehow gotten SO much worse since the last time i looked on there #they've got people literally apologizing for existing what the fuck how is this normal to any of you people #this is so far beyond toxic positivity it's like. crossbred with passive-aggression and shaming and metastatized into something new entirel #it's terrifying. i hope flight rising never shuts down just so that whatever the fuck this is can stay semi-contained. #pro tip: the more a fandom is universally convinced it's Wonderful and Welcoming the faster you should run the other way #actually good fandoms don't have to constantly reassure themselves and everyone that they're great and perfect and toxicity-free #nor do they react with immediate borderline violence to the slightest suggestion there might be anything wrong with the fandom culture #anything wrong other than “people like you who think there's something wrong with our perfect community” anyway #on that note also any fandom that insistently calls itself a “community” just. yeah. no. #get out while you still can. #fandoms work on corporate logic if they're trying to convince you they're your family or friend that's not just a red flag #that's a whole damn red fabric store

[digitalcockroach]

im too fucking empathetic i just went from fully planning on keying my shitty neighbors car to being a free therapist and babysitter for them

#please dont let me get further sucked in #they're just toxic assholes going thru mental health and addiction crisis and have like 4 small children in a 2 bedroom so #i cant say i Like them but i do feel a kind of idk kinship #bc i grew up in that kind of environment and i know decent people get ugly under high stress and hard drugs #and idk i just dont wanna get accused of taking sides or being this dudes other 'woman' #for hearing him out when he came over panicking bc of the latest blowout #like honestly i mostly wanted to extend the offer of sanctuary to the kids #equally worried the guy will just transfer his feelings about his wife or whatever onto me if im too nice too often #bc men fucking do that

[sashimiyas]

how can you offer 10.50 an hour but require 5 years of experience. a starbucks barista gets paid more than that and i’ve literally picked one out of the lobby and put an apron on them with no experience required. wtf.

#reinas.inretrograde #the audacity of some employers #granted that’s the min on the parameter. mac is 34.20 an hour. but what’s with the massive discrepancy #i’ve accidentally landed myself a very very very very undemanding job which i am not mad about. i consider this my capitalist retribution #from when i was a doe eyed new grad happy and willing to work 10+ hours for a salary job in a toxic work environment. but still applying to #more jobs out there. but i sincerely cannot complain when employers want to pull shit like this. 10.50?? for what?! what kind of fringe #benefits are being offered? pto? sign up bonus? hello??? it’s a contract too so i even doubt any of that is in the talks but hello? #who wants your goofy ass job anyways

[cruelsister-moved2]

idk chief i hate when people are too enamoured with their vision of what the sex industry could be like in their perfect utopia to see the present reality of it. we live in a society where every industry is inherently exploitative. add sex to that and you get... sexual exploitation. now add far less oversight and regulation, more gender inequality and a far more vulnerable population for good measure.

you can't just look at the few people who found secure positions that they found preferable to other forms of exploitation. it's like, when we talk about other industries we focus on the practical exploitation that occurs + the systems of oppression that fuels it.

but as soon as it comes to the sex industry it's suddenly just an idea. and i have seen with my own eyes people willing to dismiss the negative experiences of trafficking survivors and survival SWs right to their faces in defense of that idea. the same people that insist sex work is just like any other work and the sex industry is just like any other industry never actually apply the same standards to them as other work and other industries??

#like rmbr when they surveyed johns and found that most of them dont care if the person was trafficked or not #because you might interpret it as paying for a service #but to a lot of those men's minds it's that their wealth entitles them to vulnerable people's bodies #which is like. to me not a very leftist framework but what do I know <33 #like imagine if we were making positivity posts for people who hire childcare and cleaners and stuff #very strange #I feel like everyone has an extremely tight spring on any type of criticism now or even criticism of the conversation #which just produces such a stagnant and toxic environment #people will get things wrong even while being generally right so there needs to be like a healthy flow of criticism #that I literally just never see #it's like we're just able to do the primary colours for babies version only bc we're too scared idk it sucks it's bad

[goldendot3x]

Some silly little headcanon I have on Gap the Series.

Down the road, after they have sorted the mess (and themselves) out, I like to think that Mon, with the help of their friends, will be trying to guide Sam to be more…human. And when I say friends, it includes Mon’s friends and parents.

And I mean it not in the dramatic way. It’s more in the silly way, something similar to how The Gang tries to help them in getting them together and having their first time. It’s like:

Sam: *does something outrageously silly again but in line with how warped her perspectives are*

Mon: Khun Sam darling, the love of my life. That’s not how most person do [insert some inane things that somehow Sam doesn’t seem to grasp]

Sam: but I’m not most person. You know that

Mon: *deep breath* of course you’re not. You’re the most amazing person in this world. But [proceed to explain]

Or alternatively:

Sam: *does/say something mean without meaning to*

Mon: Khun Sam, you’re being mean. I might have to punish you

Sam: *getting turned on and it shows* uhhh, I’m sorry?

The Gang: you’re such a mess and such a useless lesbian Sam. But Mon is right, you’re being mean.

#some little silly headcanon #coz I’d like to think that Sam has a lot to unlearn #she’s canonically is about 30 #that’s such a long time spent in that toxic and abusive environment #add the fact that she is rich - in which rich ppl tends to be out-of-touch with the reality of average people #you get why Khun Sam is the way she is #and Mon will be so patient with Sam #I just love both of them so much ok #gap the series #monsam #sam x mon #sammon #mon x sam #sam x therapy #she needs loads of therapy #Mon actually needed it too