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reilleclan-blog · 3 months

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I decided to "add a tip" on tumblr I don't expect anything but I was thinking maybe one day someone wanted to "bless" me but yeah. I'm still looking for financial assistance to move out and my mom recently lost her job. I'm trying to get affiliated on twitch as well anything helps.

Edit: so I started posting a bit on Reddit showing off some photos I've been liking of my own and someone wanted to give me advice. I don't mind advice but it was unsolicited and the advice they gave me seemed "unrelated" the one thing I'd say was related was my spacing with the shot I didn't need to show so much of the street in the back but I did, and I still thought it wasn't bad spacing. And then they said "what is the focus" I'd say it's obviously the car ? But idk. Again I don't mind advice but it felt unnecessary. I liked this shot even if it wasn't "the best" I have only been doing VP for 9months almost this is mostly for fun. Then they proceeded to tag a photo for reference and it looked like a photo I could easily replicate. Like I guess I wanted to do something a little different? Idk j keep repeating myself but I don't want to sound like an ass but then again their advice was so unwarranted. Im probably taking too much to heart but they are a good VP photographer it just made me feel like that was my only shot that was never good or something lol. As if I don't have other photos that were "good" . I'm just being fr

And I took it upon myself to scroll and see if they commented on anyone else's stuff in cyberpunk tag and they hadn't.. anyways they later on deleted their comment..idk bruh

Also I post a decent amount of pics of my V but doesn't seem ppl give a frick oh well, I say this cause when the 2.11 update dropped I took a ton of pics of him💀I took 200+ pics

Anyways take care

#cyberpunk 2077 #virtual photography #cyberpunk #cyberpunk 2077 photomode #male v cyberpunk #cd projekt red #cp2077

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gethealthy18-blog · 5 years

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7 Rules To Make Your Marriage A Bed Of Roses

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7 Rules To Make Your Marriage A Bed Of Roses

Shivani K May 30, 2019

Right now, we are all living in a time wherein the clichés and all those age-old sayings are being totally or partly debunked. The same goes in the case of marriages too. A marriage is a holy union of two beautiful souls, isn’t it? As much as one gets excited to step into this new phase of life called marriage, one goes bonkers listening to others’ advice. We’re sure you’ve heard phrases like: “Marriage isn’t a bed of roses”, or “Marriage isn’t like a hot knife that cuts through butter”, or that “Marriage is a hurricane, an earthquake, or come accompanied with hiccups”. If you change upon any couple that tells them that their marriage has been “all-rosy”, well, it would be safe to say that they haven’t lived it all yet!

The truth is marriage can be a bed of roses and can be as comfortable as a cozy couch, but it’s also laden with inconveniences and discomfort. But that again, depends on one’s mastery in marriage skills. No matter how good a human you are, always remember that you alone can never be able to make a marriage work. There has to be some input at least from your spouse as well. Yes, you both are individuals and that’s precisely why both of you need to put in efforts to make it work for the both of you, not just one of you. Now with all this being said, we’ve put a guide below for you all that will help you lead towards a successful marriage. While in your wedlock, practice them religiously. Now, let’s read together.

1. Your Partner Is As Unique As You Are. So, Never Compare!

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It is an unwarranted act to do, to compare your partner with someone else. We understand that you must be having certain hopes about your spouse ever since you were a teen and chances are that some of the traits you’ve always wished for aren’t in him. But that’s okay, find other qualities in your partner that can actually make you go weak in your knees. And if you want your significant other to cultivate certain qualities, you help them out, aren’t you the better half for a reason?

2. A Clear Financial Understanding Is Important

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In most of the marriages, disputes and fights arise over financial matters alone. It is vital to discuss the financial conditions between yourself and your partner even before your D-day. We’re asking you to do this to be wary of each other’s wealth of sorts. We’re asking you to do this because knowing each other’s financial status will help the both of you to plan your futures together in a more clear way.

3. Never Try To Dominate Your Partner

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It’s very simple, dear couples, give respect and take respect! A majority of divorce cases have a common complain that one of them tried to gain an upper hand over the other in the marriage. This attitude needs to go in the dustbin because it’s just not acceptable. Learn to love, respect, and value each other on the same level.

4. “Me Time” Is Important

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We’re humans, after all, our mind sometimes gets tired of being around the same set of people always, doesn’t it? The same goes for your partner as well. Being together 24×7 will make both of you feel bored with each other. Therefore, it’s important that you hang out with your friends once in a while and so does your partner. Never get into the “your love is burdening me” phase.

5. Never Suppress Your Expressions

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In a successful marriage, there is an entire rainbow of emotions that pass by. Both partners need to be able to express all their emotions without any hesitation. Bottling up feelings inside of you is another word for turning yourself into a dormant volcano.

6. Compatibility And Trust Form The Foundation

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These both are what breathe life into marriage. You don’t have to go through any lengthy tick-list to evaluate if that person is the one for you. As long as you’re compatible with your partner and know for a fact that you can blindly trust him/her, trust us, that’s all that matters!

7. Let Family Planning Be A Mutual Decision

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From being married to starting a family, they are two different things that involve way different responsibilities too. Starting a family with your partner is like welcoming major changes in your life. Therefore, make it a point to discuss it with your partner first. Both of you need to sit and plan the blueprint of your lives before taking this plunge.

It definitely takes some efforts for a marriage to work and last for a lifetime. Be patient, be loving, be caring towards each other in this process of making it work. That’s exactly how our parents and grandparents worked too for a happy marriage. If there is anything that you think we’ve missed out on, let us know in the comments below.

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How to get through a training contract while recovering from a serious injury

City trainee Clive Wong explains how he juggled work commitments with months of rehabilitation

The time was early August 2018. I was playing badminton in Shanghai. I jumped and landed. I felt a crack in my knee, as if a rubber band had snapped and the tension was released all in a sudden. I collapsed onto the ground with my left leg folded in the shape of an inverted “V”. I was immediately sent to a local hospital and an MRI scan confirmed what I feared — the ACL (Anterior Cruciate Ligament) in my left knee was fully ruptured.

In some way the injury happened at the worst of times. I was working in finance at a global investment bank at the time and was beginning the process of moving back to London to start a training contract with a City law firm. The injury prompted me to consider the possibility of staying put in Shanghai with my old job.

I ultimately decided to soldier on with my plan: I moved from Shanghai to London, started my training contract, embarked on a long and painful pre-surgery physiotherapy rehabilitation programme, and finally undertook my ACL reconstruction surgery at the end of November.

It sounded like a tall order at that time and I had my worries. How was I going to pack and move all of my belongings to the other side of the world with a broken leg? Was I going to be able to find appropriate treatment in London and how would I be able to afford them? And perhaps most importantly — what would the people in my new job think of me if I turned up on my first day with crutches and would they find it annoying that I would need to undertake treatment/surgery a couple of months into my work? Looking back, a lot of these worries were unwarranted and I am glad things went well (at least until now), and there are a couple of tips/pieces of advice that might make the process easier.

1. Communicating in advance is key

A lot of the worry and fear when starting a new job is the unknown, so it is a good idea to communicate in advance and give your future employer a heads up. I called up my HR contacts in advance of my move to London and told them about my medical condition, explaining what had happened. They were sympathetic and helpful. They also informed me, to my pleasant surprise, that there was an onsite GP and a physiotherapist at the firm. They told me that the onsite GP could examine my condition and refer me to a joint specialist. They even offered to help me to set up an appointment in advance so that I could get treatment immediately following onboarding. I was touched by their gestures and it was great to know that there is support available on the other side.

When it comes to the office, do let people know about your condition. It does not need to be the first thing you tell everyone, but try to let people be aware subtly that you have a weaker leg and therefore might not be able to perform certain tasks efficiently. It is not uncommon that you could be asked to run errands or deliver documents to clients/other firms, and you might not be physically up for the task. At the end of the day, it is much better to communicate this in advance rather than to have to reject a task on the spot.

2. Do not be afraid to accept help

You might feel bad to accept assistance from people around you. At work, this may be because you do not like the feeling of owing something to somebody at work, or because you feel like you have to maintain manner and politeness. But do not feel like any of these. Do not feel ashamed if your colleagues offer (and they frequently do, even your boss) to get you water/tea in the office because they suspect you might struggle to do so. Also, do not feel bad that you might need to take an hour out a week to attend physio and/or medical appointments. Just remember this: you would presumably do the same for someone who is in a similar situation as you do, and if you feel bad, be grateful right now and seek to return the favour to someone who is struggling in the future.

Outside of work, do seek help whenever you need it. Do not be afraid to ask for a seat on the tube if you are struggling to stand. When you are relocating, most airlines and airports are very accommodating and all you need to do is to inform them in advance (regardless of what class you are flying). Wheelchairs can be arranged, and a member of airport staff could accompany you the entire time until you board the plane. Pre-book pick-up cars on both sides so your journey to and from the airport would not be too hectic.

3. Sorting out medical insurance

Your corporate medical insurance would usually cover all of the associated costs — initial consultation with the surgeon, physiotherapy before and after the surgery, and all of the expenses related to the surgery. But the key is to make sure you obtain authorisation before you embark on any sessions. Most insurance companies would operate a list of ‘approved specialists’ which they would be happy to cover the costs for, and it might not always overlap with the specialist your GP refers you to. The same applies to physiotherapists. Make sure you double-check to ensure the specialist you are seeing is covered by your insurance provider.

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Furthermore, most insurance policies would require you to pay a certain amount of ‘excess’ per insured year — these are amounts that the patient would need to bear initially before the insurer would step in and it is usually not a large sum. Nevertheless, it is reassuring to have the full picture in mind so there are no surprises.

4. Do not panic before surgery

A week before the surgery a colleague told me horror stories of how people would wake up from the anaesthetic halfway through a surgery and find themselves in tremendous pain. I laughed at the stories when I heard them, but a couple of days later it sank in and I suffered from a week’s worth of sleepless nights before the operation.

But there are things you can do to calm your nerves. Firstly, doing some prior research helps. Inevitably there will be stories out there about how surgery can go horribly wrong, but if you look into them, these cases will often be linked to specific circumstances such as understaffed hospitals, overworked staff etc., so statistically, they are very rare. It is reassuring to know that cold scientific data suggests it is unlikely to happen (and as a lawyer you could bring a medical negligence claim afterwards anyway!).

Secondly, do talk to people about your worries. It is hard not to have it on your mind — after all it’s not something that you do every day. Talk to your family, your friends, your partner (and I do not mean your department head kind of partner) or your colleagues about it. The process helps you to rationalise the event and makes you more objective. I was fortunate to have very supportive friends and colleagues that I could share my worries with. At the end of the day it is better to embrace the fear rather than to let it overcome you.

Lastly, try to focus on the present instead of the future. Do your pre-surgery exercises properly, follow the doctor’s instructions and get on with everyday tasks. Fortunately (or unfortunately), I was quite busy at work prior to the surgery and it served as a great distraction. It was helpful to focus on the ongoing deals at work, something you have control over, rather than panicking over something that you have no control over.

Clive Wong is a trainee solicitor at a City law firm. Prior to this, he worked as a financial analyst at an investment bank in Shanghai. He attended the University of Cambridge where he obtained a Master of Laws, and graduated from the University of Birmingham with a Bachelor of Laws.

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