#(the ocd reassurance posts just playing into the cycle by explaining why we arent bad people. therefore feeding compulsions.)

[girlyaois]

I honest to God think a lot of the moral fears surrounding whether you think about your f/os enough or if you comfort your f/os enough in your mind or if YOU do enough FOR your f/os can... really and truly be answered simply by being reminded that they aren't real. you do not morally owe any of your f/os your time, effort, or emotional availability. because they aren't real, and you are. and it's OKAY to say this. it will never be immoral to acknowledge we daydream and draw fanart for ourselves and our joy because we're real people, they're not, they don't need anything from you. don't exert yourself worrying about people who don't exist.

#selfship #self ship #selfshipping #self shipping #txt #i keep seeing posts reassuring people that they arent bad for not thinking about their f/os often. but all for the wrong reasons #“they still love you even if youre too busy!” the right thing to say is that they arent real and you dont owe fiction anything. #i know its not the same but as someone with ocd it genuinely is starting to remind me of all the “ocd reassurance” posts. that are horrible #(the ocd reassurance posts just playing into the cycle by explaining why we arent bad people. therefore feeding compulsions.) #say it how it is. its not worth worrying about.