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Saw this on Pinterest. I don't know the credits (+ the post did not have on OP), if you do please tell me!

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"your worst sin is that you have betrayed yourself for nothing" is something i'm headcannoning as one of the lines fyodor dostoevsky stole from anna's diaries because that quote is about and for every woman who has ever loved a man in the last 6,000 years

you gave him everything, sacrificed your dignity and future, and he still picked other men, another woman, his career, his place in society, his father/brother, his god, his money over you

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my career advice isn't "do what you love" it's "do what will give you the most money without making you want to kill yourself"

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Whenever a male says that "females have no sense of humour" " it's safe to assume that he harassed a woman and she didn't find the situation to be humorous or funny.

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citationless behavior

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which people are those again? and which people make that a dangerous combination? just to clarify

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Heaven is clear skies, the buzzing of insects, the birds singing, slight breeze on the skin and water gently lapping at the rocks.

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Am gonna start chatting with an ai chatbot and cheat on it with another one!

there are couples fighting over whether character ai chats count as cheating

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So phrases like "people with uteruses" or "people who have periods" never really bothered me as much as more overtly dehumanizing phrases like "bleeders" or "birthing bodies", but I saw a post today talking about the abnormal symptoms women experienced after getting tear gassed protesting, that ended with something like "we don't know the full effects of tear gas on people with uteruses". And what struck me about that is that's not really correct, because female people without uteruses (either bc they were born without one or bc they had a hysterectomy) will still experience different symptoms after being tear gassed than male people. Women metabolize substances differently than men, our immune systems are different, our hormonal cycles are different, our skin has different thicknesses, etc. All of those things have potential effects on tear gas reactions, and are not dependent on whether or not we have a uterus. They're dependent on whether or not we're female. So saying "people with uteruses" when what is meant is "female people" is not really accurate. And I realized that a lot of times when people use those kinds of phrases, they aren't being accurate.

For example, I'm sure we've all seen people say things about how the repeal of Roe v Wade will harm people with uteruses/people who can get pregnant/etc. And while yes, it definitely harms those people, the full truth is that abortion bans harm *female* people, *regardless of if they can get pregnant or have a uterus.* Because female people who don't have uteruses can still get pregnant, and in those rare cases will 100% of the time need an abortion. Female people who deal with infertility and can't carry a fetus to term can still be jailed for miscarrying. Female people who are completely sterile (for whatever reason) can still be denied medications/medical treatment on the grounds that the treatment could theoretically harm a fetus. Female people who may currently have no uterus/no longer be able to get pregnant but who have had an abortion in the past will face increased stigma.

Here's another example:

It seems pretty straightforward- menstruation stigma is experienced by people who menstruate. But again, that's only half true. Period stigma is experienced by all female people, regardless of if they menstruate. Think about the fact that we are told female people should not hold political leadership because "what if a female president has PMS and starts a war", despite the fact that almost all female presidential candidates are old enough that they would have experienced menopause. Female people have their feelings dismissed because "it must be that time of the month", regardless of if they're too young to menstruate or too old or if they have a condition causing amenorrhea. Female children grow up seeing periods- a natural function of their bodies- portrayed as disgusting, dirty and gross, as making them unclean, as something to dread and fear. This affects them before they experience menarche, this affects them even if they never experience menarche. It affects all female people.

I could come up with more examples, but you get the idea. Reducing female people to singular body parts and organs inherently denies the reality of femaleness. All parts of us (both biological and social) interact with all other parts of us to form an experience that can't be understood by chopping us up and putting our individual functions under the microscope. In order to get an accurate picture you need to look at the whole (female) human.

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"Oh but if a man said this about a woman!" They've in fact done that and worse. For centuries. And no one gave a fuck

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also the fact that porn is often embedded in some sort of daily scenario instead of at least just showing sexual acts should worry more people.

why do men need to see boss and employee? delivery guy/post man/whatever and woman home alone? or even worse, teacher and student? stepdad and stepdaughter?

it is not just about the arousal of watching sexual acts being performed, they need to see women being available at any time, they want to imagine themselves just „taking“ random women, even the women (and girls) closest to them. also notice how many times there is some type of authority involved?

makes you wonder how many men you encounter in daily situations, even within your family or friend circle, at work, when you order something, really dont see you as a woman, as a person, but as a mere object for their sexual fantasies.

especially considering how often these situations actually happen, and how often there is sexual assault involved.

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i’ve discussed this before, but as i lift heavier and heavier, i feel an urgency to bring it up again. wearing high heels for most of my late teens and early- to mid-twenties really has fucked up my ability to properly squat.

as i’ve mentioned in previous posts, all my center of gravity has, as a result of a life of wearing pumps, shifted forward onto the balls of my feet. i cannot naturally or comfortably squat parallel or deep with my heels on the ground (without heel lifts of some kind). my biggest struggle in lifting, including my Olympic lifts, is not falling backwards on my ass bc i physically CANNOT force weight back into my heels. and so in squats, sometimes in deadlifts, i often end up involuntarily bent forward at a 45-degree angle to compensate for this weight distribution, which of course sends me backward like a hammer, ass-first.

high heels are just… brutally dangerous. they have ruined my ability to do what i love in lifting. i am constantly working on mobility drills, but it’s been a very, very long time now and i have seen no change. i may just be facing the long-term or even permanent damage done by wearing high heels for so long.

femininity is outright ruinous. i wish i could go back and shake myself for being stupid enough to wear a literal “Disable Yourself” device on my feet—for no other reason than because i thought it was simply what well-dressed, mature women wore.

i hope so much i can get my mobility back one day, but as i age, with the other disabling limitations to my joints, i’m more than aware of the likelihood that that will not happen.

femininity ruins your body. it ruins your functionality. it binds and bends and breaks and warps your natural movement. it’s a portable medieval torture device, plain and simple.

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Jesus, I still get so annoyed by the “trans women have periods!” statement because honest to god, cramps and headaches are not menstruation. I don’t have cramps, I don’t have any headaches or moodswings, and my digestion isn’t terribly more impacted by my menstruation than when I drink too much coffee. But I menstruate. My uterus sheds its lining and I bleed. That’s all there is to it. The discomfort a woman experiences during her menstruation varies by the individual herself. I know women who can’t function on their periods without taking several doses of ibuprofen. But it’s not the pain that defines menstruation, it’s the shedding of the uterine lining. When I suffered from an eating disorder, I went several months without menstruating. And no-one would have told me “oh, you’re still having a period! You just aren’t bleeding!” because the absence of your period is a common female experience. Whether through pregnancy or an underlying condition, menstruation still is the shedding of the uterine lining and when the uterine lining isn’t shedding, you’re not menstruating.

No one is saying that in order to be a biological female, you “have to menstruate”. Pregnant women don’t menstruate. Menopausal women don’t menstruate. Women with PCOS might not menstruate. Breastfeeding women might not menstruate. Women with a too low body weight might not menstruate. Women who go through hormone replacement therapy might not menstruate. But menstruation is an exclusively female experience and just because you’re pissy one week of the month, doesn’t mean you’re experiencing it! Stop being so godawfully misogynistic and fetishizing our biological reality.

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Whe the FUCK is tiktok allowing a bunch of shitty "debate meee" livestreams that say "being a lesbian is immoral" as a background?? I've had it with this homophobic misogynistic piece of shit app. I don't care if the person demanding debate is "just" using that to get people in to the stream it's disgusting.

#tiktok #homophobia #lesbophobia

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Why on earth is anyone taking this shoddy cass review seriously?

I'm sorry but it's baffling how an actual government is uncritically taking this review at face value. It literally only comes to the conclusion it does because it ignore literally all other evidence. They excluded a shit ton of studies because they didn't have enough controls, which sounds reasonable but in order to have those controls they'd have to unknowingly give patients placebos instead of the hormonal therapy and puberty blockers they asked for.

That would be an extremely unethical thing to do, and would achieve nothing because the effects of hormonal therapy and puberty blockers are extremely obvious.

Just let that sit with you for a moment. All that clinical evidence completely thrown out the window because they didn't do a horrific and unethical test on their patients. All that clinical evidence ignored because the study was ethical. This is an extreme oversight at BEST and deliberate misinformation at worst. Either way, it makes the review extremely unreliable.

That's just one issue. But the fact that the vast, VAST majority of research was completely ignored due to a ridiculous and unethical requirement should be enough for you to oppose anyone using this as evidence for anything other than why queer people need to be included in scientific discussions about our communities. Because this review is being used to roll back LGBT rights.

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'Revenge is bad' to YOU. i love when a character destroys everyone who wronged them. i love when they get to bite and maim and tear and rip and scratch and kill. Sorry ur catholic about it but i'm different