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rain4depeonies · 6 months

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rain4depeonies · 1 year

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You have an amazing ass 😍😍

Thank you! ✨️

#blaze #curvy af

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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some people are worth losing and some situations are not meant to be fixed.

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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Reblog if you're a girl who wants other girls to send you naughty asks.

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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Giving Aftercare to Doms

I’ve seen a lot of writing on aftercare for subs, but never seen anything about Dom drop or the kind of aftercare that D-types need. Consequently, many people assume that aftercare is only necessary for subs, and many people don’t know what kind of aftercare to ask for or provide.

It’s natural to feel guilty when you’re inflicting pain or cruelty to someone you care about. And like with everybody, a lack of adequate aftercare can be discouraging or even dangerous. Here’s some aftercare talking points I tend to like hearing from my subs that you can use as jumping off points:

Reassure your Dom that everything they said and did during the scene was wanted and consensual. Go over and discuss anything that ended up being less than pleasurable or any sore spots that they hit if not.

If the scene went smoothly, reassure them that you are capable of saying no and/or using your safe word. Reassure them that despite roleplaying a loss of control, you know that you still were able to consent during your scene.

Reassure your Dom that you aren’t actually scared of them; and reassure them that you don’t feel like you’re being taken advantage of, nor do you think that they will.

Reassure your Dom that you trust them, you know that they are a responsible dominant, and that you don’t feel afraid that they will abuse their power over you.

Reassure your Dom that they are a good person, and that they are not evil or bad for exercising restrained and consensual cruelty during a scene.

Reassure your Dom that they don’t need to feel guilty for enjoying themselves when they are dominant with you, and that you enjoy your scenes with them as much as they do.

And some other things to keep in mind regarding aftercare as a whole....

Make sure you end the conversation/evening properly. Even if the Dom doesn’t experience Dom drop immediately, it’s very easy for Doms to feel used or like pleasure machines if they feel like they’ve been left hanging.

^^ Especially if you’re sexting or doing BDSM long distance! Do not stop responding without giving closure and reassuring your Dom that you’re okay! If you disappear without saying anything, it’s very possible that your Dom will get anxious and worry that they’ve upset or hurt you.

Check in later. Aftercare doesn’t always have to take place immediately after a scene, especially if they felt like they didn’t need much aftercare afterwards or you’ve had an informal scene and decided to skip it. Dom drop can still settle in a while after a scene has ended, so don’t ever assume you’re automatically on the same page and that care won’t be needed.

Make sure to always offer regardless. Nobody should ever have to ask for aftercare! Don’t assume that your Dom is okay and needs nothing just because they’re in control during your scenes.

And finally, Doms: don’t be afraid to ask for reassurance on the specific points you worry about! Subs can’t read your mind, and they can’t always know if the aftercare they’re giving is enough unless you tell them. You will not lose your submissive’s respect by asking for aftercare as long if they are committed to engaging in conscientious kink.

Stay safe, take care of each other, and practice kink responsibly! ♡

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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“Actually, there is no such thing as a homosexual person, any more than there is such a thing as a heterosexual person. The words are adjectives describing sexual acts, not people. The sexual acts are entirely normal; if they were not, no one would perform them.”

— Gore Vidal, Sexually Speaking: Collected Sex Writings

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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This is my body.

It is soft. It is round. It's shaped me and how I see and think of myself. it is a work of art and can perform miracles, like creating and nurturing new life.

While the ability get pregnant and have a baby is something I look forward to, I am fortunate to live in a place where it can be on my terms, under my control.

Many of my sisters in the United States are losing this fundamental right to decide and control what happens with their bodies, even in cases where becoming pregnant has been forced upon them beyond their will.

It's sad. It's angering. And it's wrong.

A country where half the population does not have the right to decide over their own bodies can never been called "home of the free". Not if you have a uterus anyway.

This is my body. I and I alone should be able to decide what I do with it. Not a religious text. Not an elite bunch of judges. Not a group of politicians.

My body wants to be free. And freedom begins with being able to decide my own destiny.

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rain4depeonies · 2 years

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