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third basis

zizek’s definition of love

zizek definition of love is “There is nothing more dangerous, more lethal for the loved person than to be loved, as it were, for not what he or she is, but for fitting the ideal.”

we call creation is cosmic imbalance, catastrophe. things exist by mistake, love as fire to be kindled borders that of idealism. there’s nothing wrong with it, but he would like to put a spotlight on love's 'violent' nature. this is not to be confused with violent acts done for love,  

love, to him, is a violent thing. love is not “I love you ” we pick and choose and say I love you more than I love anything else. and all too often, when we love somebody, we don’t accept him or her as what the person truly is. we accept them as this person that fits our fantasy. we are in love with the scenes of a person that we like is created in our mind (i mean correct me if im wrong but this is how i understand it)  the idea of love,  we fell in love with idea of the person and not with them.

he emphasize that i love you’s don’t have to mean too much. we did that to ourselves, love is completely dependent on the persons involved and how much they are willing to invest in it. because love is so good that it can hurt so bad.  love is only a lie there is nothing in life called love, the concept of love in them is rebuke and hurtful words.

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lacan's definition of love

lacanian definition of love is "love is giving what you don't have"

“love is a phenomenon which takes place on the imaginary level, and which provokes a veritable seduction of the symbolic, a sort of annihilation, of peturbation of the function of the ego-ideal.”

lacan argues that love is an illusion of oneness with the beloved and this illusion is carried over in the process of analysis, hindering its success

love is not the things you give to a person such as money, gifts, or anything materialistic. it's just a bonus.

what you can actually give to a person that you love are the possibility of your future together, how open yourself to them without hesitance, and how you let yourself be without walls around you - being true to them. you tell them your insecurities, fears, everything you've kept all those years and none knew about it. you let yourself be an open book.

that is not what you have. you don't allow yourself be an open book.

but with the person you love, you are willing to be.

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first basis

there are actually philosophies that you can use to know if you are with someone who is "the one".

the one doesn't refer basically to  the person you think you are going to be with forever because honestly, we've thought of how the person from our pasts were "the one".

give it another meaning.

"the one" is that person who is going to stay with you despite problems that arises when you mature. pop culture give meaning to "the one" as someone who stays with you forever (because that is not true.)

okay so first one is gandhi's.

in every relationship, there is bound to be a problem and that usually ends with you two being in an argument and if it falls out, then it falls out. (this is wrong. that is not love.)

gandhi says "the definition of peace is being able to manage conflict."

this is the conflict resolution theory of philosophy. gandhi uses it to resolve fights he had or wars without the nonviolent actions.for a person to resolve a conflict, there must be an understanding in two parties - you and your partner. there is willingness to resolve the problem you both have.

if one is not willing to resolve your problem and lets it last longer, i'm sorry. you need to call it out or if you let it slide, it will get worse.

and it will get toxic - ruining both of you.

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