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Imagine all the time you wasted overthinking, daydreaming, fantasising about the last guy, the guy before, the guy before that… And where did it land you? Disappointed? Resenting? Grieving, what could have been?….Because you used your precious energy to create a parallel fantasy life of you and him. Your maladaptive day dreaming, which probably started as a trauma response in childhood is quite likely ruining your dating life and here’s why. 

You can’t control the actions of others, in fact you have very little control when it comes to dating, it’s often divine timing, energy compatibility, and a huge part is surrendering. Letting go of the fantasy so the beauty of the unknown can unfold. Unmet needs play a huge role in this. The need for safety and control when dating often leads to creating a mental picture of what you want the future to look like and taking actions that dictate this. For example, you’ve had cute first date, but on your way home you’re already checking your diary to see what dates you’re free next week, maybe he can take you to the theatre on Thursday to see that new show, or maybe you can move your dinner with the girls on Saturday night so you can spend the weekend with him…MEANWHILE he hasn’t even asked you on a second date. All this overthinking and trying to control the future puts you in your masculine energy. Not only is this repelling to a masculine man, but also removes the opportunity to see how things will unfold naturally. So am I saying don’t think about the future with a man? Don’t have hopes and desires? Absolutely not. What I’m saying is when you spend your time away from him overthinking your future with him, imaging conversations in the shower, texting him from a place of trying to control the future - you’re setting yourself up for a fall. You’re wasting your precious energy on overthinking him when that same energy could be spent on you. You’re creating energetic friction between your desires and reality which will show up in how you are with him. You’ll become disappointed he didn’t take you to the theatre on Thursday because he has football, even though that was never the plan. You’re perpetually setting yourself up for disappointment. So here’s the hot take - you want something to control, to obsess over, to love, to cherish, to have and hold forever. Let. That. Be. You. Give yourself the love you’re desperately seeking outside of you, pour into you the way you only dream men would. Buy yourself the gifts you want him to buy you, tell yourself the words you can only imagine he would tell you, love on you so hard that when you are dating you become a reflection of love, love shines through your eyes. Not desperation, not control, not seeking, not wanting. But love, because the most beautiful and wholesome love you could ever imagine - starts within.

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I don't want anyone those who doesn't want me!

Right people will come into my life in right time !

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I won't let my self worth get validated by whether some man likes me or not !

#i am enough #i am beautiful the way i am

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This hit me very hard!

#thoughts #modern family

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How do we want to live, when you lost the only thing you ever had, after that no matter how better things get in life, the emptiness is never filled, grief will be till death!

#dark acadamia quotes #life #thoughts #dealing with grief

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Totally

I came to a point where I needed solitude and just stop the machine of ‘thinking’ and ‘enjoying’ what they call ‘living’, I just wanted to lie in the grass and look at the clouds.

– Jack Kerouac

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I am thankful!

I am greatful!

I am blessed!

[medivinegoddess]

I am gonna receive a blessing in the morning, it would be greatest gift I always wanted

#thankyouUniverse

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You just want everything new to feel natural and that’s your problem

[medivinegoddess]

Do yourself a favor and do not pursue anything or anyone that isn't reciprocating the same effort back to you. If you notice that when you don't reach out to certain people the communication ceases, that is because those people don't see the value in you and there is a chance that you have inflated your place in their life and inflated the place they should have in yours. You deserve better than to be an afterthought, you deserve nourishing, loving relationships that don't feel like a constant drag on your part to keep them afloat.

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Quotes I live by: Loa edition

“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

~Napoleon Hill

“Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so you shall become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.”

~James Allen

“Create your future from your future, not from your past.”

~ Dr. Joe Dispenza

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us.”

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The law of consciousness is like a coin: heads, you win; tails, you lose. It is up to you to choose the outcome of your life.”

~Stephen Richards

“You will become as small as your controlling desire, and as great as your dominant aspiration”

~James Allen

“If something you want is slow to come to you, it can be for only one reason: You are spending more time focused upon its absence than you are about its presence."

~ABRAHAM HICKS

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedom—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.”

~ Viktor Frankl

"The point of power is always in the present moment."

~Louise Hay

"The only limit to what we can achieve is the power of our own minds."

~ Henry Ford

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”

~Dr. Robert Anthony

“Your opinion is your opinion, your perception is your perception, change them and you change your life."

~Wayne Dayer

“Paradoxically, what works against us also works for us. If you can dream it, and believe it, then you can do it!”

~Tony Robbins

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

~Henry ford

“If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities.”

Dale Carnegie

"You are responsible for your life and the power of your consciousness. Nothing can stop you from fulfilling your true potential."

~Deepak Chopra

"Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world." ~Unknown

"The key to success is the power of imagination. Create an image of what you want and make it your focus."

~Tony Robbins

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in; their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”

~ Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

"Nothing can bring you peace but yourself."

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined."

~ Henry David Thoreau

[medivinegoddess]

I am gonna receive a Miracle today!

I am gonna receive a Good news today!

Thank you thank you thank you! 💕

[medivinegoddess]

This is the most romantic love letter I ever read😍💕

By the way, did you know that you were my confirmation present (there’s also a kind of Jewish confirmation)? I was born in ’83, so when you were born I was 13 years old; the 13th birthday is a special celebration. In the temple I had to recite a prayer—up by the altar—I had learned with difficulty, then give a small speech (also memorized) at home as well. I also received many presents. But I imagine I wasn’t completely satisfied, since one present was still missing; I demanded it from heaven, but heaven waited until the 10th of August.

— Letters to Milena (August 10, 1920), Franz Kafka

#letters to milena #franz kafka #milena jesenská #literature #love letters #classic literature

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I love my body

I have thin waist,

Flat stomach.

Minute glass figure

Clear flawless skin

I am beautiful

[medivinegoddess]

i’m in my new era and you are most def not in the storyline

me to toxicity, unproductive habits, fake friends, not standing up for myself, disregard for my health, laziness, negativity, low value men, sadness, anxiety, financial problems, low effort, low standards, and anything and everything unproductive to my level up journey

[medivinegoddess]

Our past does kill us.... We will either have the choice to remain dead or come back more alive than before but no matter what you choose there will be parts of you which will never be born again even though you want it to!

#quotes #literature #april #academia #dark academia #anais nin #quote #excerpt

[medivinegoddess]

Individuality Series Part II: Cut Off The Noise:

One thing about me, I will disappear.

Have you ever considered how much other people's ways affect you when you give yourself over to them for prolonged periods of time? Those of us who have a clear-cut vision of what our highest selves look like cannot afford to allow others to steer us away from that vision by influencing us toward the wrong path.

Our subconscious mind will reflect itself in the actions we choose to engage in depending on the stimuli we provide to it, and that is why it is crucial to cut off all distractions and all noise so we can feed it the correct information. That's why being an individual is so powerful, because the more robust sense of self you are able to develop, the harder it will be for others to steer you away from it.

What we set our eyesight on can have tremendous power over our lives. Choose to read, view, and listen to stimuli that remind you of this world's possibilities and how you can develop yourself in your unique identity. The sky is the limit. Don't hinder this growth by continuously engaging in low-value activities. Things like drama-filled hyperbolic reality shows, social media arguments, and events where people are trying hard to impress each other with no substance to themselves, are not things anybody who wishes to truly craft a unique, high-value persona should pursue. The more you spend time doing those things, the more you will resemble the mundane, poor, neurotic, crass, superficial, unoriginal ways of the crowd.

The excellent keep itself separated from the crowd. They view themselves as elite and their actions reflect this.