lonezonez

[lonezonez]

in regards to arospec characters and fandom, i feel like the real question that should be asked is:

why are you seemingly incapable of caring about a character unless theyre in a romantic relationship

[lonezonez]

ppl are so quick to modify and soften and put qualifiers on aromantic people’s statements. i’ll say “love loses” and here come seven thousand people in the notes going “funny joke but love is good actually!” “romantic love loses but not platonic love platonic love is great!” “but platonic love is still good though…” no actually i said what i meant the first fucking time. is it so hard to let someone just say something ever

[lonezonez]

genuinely i do think aromanticism gives me shrimp emotions. i don't experience love in a way that is fundamentally the same as most people but i am effortlessly recognizing and experiencing the secret third thing and all the hundreds of secret things after that

#this is true. i have an understanding

[lonezonez]

ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story

[lonezonez]

You ever talk to alloros and are like. Oh. Our worldviews are fundamentally different. For instance I do not exist in yours.

[lonezonez]

I feel like some people within the aspec community need to check themselves for aphobia like it's seriously concerning. I'm not just talking about internalized aphobia btw, I'm also talking about straight up aphobia against other members of the community.

If you're ace, that does not mean you are immune to being arophobic. Same goes if you're aro, you are not immune to being acephobic.

If you're aroace, you could also be aphobic without it necessarily being what could be considered as "internalized" (e.g. being aphobic to a favorable aroace when you're repulsed, being aphobic to aroaces who are non-partnering when you're partnering, being aphobic to loveless aros when you aren't loveless or lovequeer aros when you aren't lovequeer, etc. etc.).

That's not even talking about the amatonormativity in the community either.

[lonezonez]

“You don’t know you’re ace/aro, you might feel attraction later” and??? That’s true for most other orientations too. Any straight person might be attracted to someone of the same gender later on. If they don’t say “I’m straight at the moment, but I might be bi someday you never know teehee,” then I think they can deal with me saying I’m aroace.

[lonezonez]

i love my game level design class bc its just like building in the sims but with extra steps

#i love when my homework is to put a bunch of furniture in a scene and light it and record myself walking around

[lonezonez]

#much ado about nothing and hamlet #hamlet was... really fun honestly

[lonezonez]

breaking this habit is tough and sometimes I fall right back into it

#shoutout to the ppl at school who just randomly started talking to me. you mean the world #thats how you socialize with me . just start saying shit at my face. i will listen so hard.

[lonezonez]

i keep thinking about that one blogger on here who mentioned applying to 80+ jobs and still not getting a single callback

[lonezonez]

Remember folks the solution to amatonormativity isn't to replace one type of expectation (romantic love) with another, slightly less restrictive but still restrictive expectation (every other form of love) but to erase the expectation altogether and let people be

It is true that (some) aros can still love but not all of them, and aros shouldn't have to make up for their lack of romantic attraction/love by feeling other types of attraction/love stronger. Love should not be a requirement to be treated as people

[lonezonez]

almost aro week which means its almost time for my THIRD koisenu futari rewatch

#aroace #they are my everything #koisenu futari #i gotta make proper fanart this time...

[lonezonez]

gender, sexuality, and the lack thereof

props to @crowbian for their amazing zine

#this hits so hard

[lonezonez]

as someone who has gotten so much flak for "shitting on" valentine's day and complaining too much throughout my life, i love that this is a yearly activity for us now. on a day where many of us typically feel isolated, dehumanized, and alone, it's a great way to remind one another that we're here. it's a reminder that there are more of us than we think, and that we have so much joy and kindness to put into the world. we're here, we're here, we're here!

[lonezonez]

HAPPY LOVE LOSES WEDNESDAY TO ALL WHO CELEBRATE

[lonezonez]

while its true that aromanticism is separate from asexuality, we should remember that we are each others closest allies. dont let anyone separate us, the way terfs did to trans people and cis homosexuals. we are different, but we have a common goal; freedom to live as we do