lavenderfeminist

[lavenderfeminist]

Because of a desire for human connection? Because we have good conversions? Because she's funny and intelligent? Because she's a fellow same-sex attracted woman? Because you can love someone and also be hurt by them??

"If she's that terrible" Earlier, you straight-up acted like lesbophobia was a one-off thing for her to "unlearn" (as if she'd have any reason to do that without, idk, seeing how it affects lesbians?) before dumping me as a friend, and yet you can't conceptualize how you can want someone in your life but wish they would see how their actions harm people in spite of their good intentions? It was abundantly fucking clear in all of my replies that I don't think she's terrible; I'm *frustrated* and *sad* with the normalization of lesbophobia and the way it affects my entire personal life.

"Lesbian" friend told me "if we didn't live in a patriarchy and there was a man who could behave the way women do now, I think I'd date him. But that's not possible in this world"

And I was like "I could meet the most wonderful, kind man in the entire world and I would never be attracted to him" and this seemed to confuse her....like girl you're just a bisexual with standards. Let me be proud of you for that instead of upset that you're claiming to share my experience.

#no more replies from me I'm deleting all these before I leave anyway

[lavenderfeminist]

Crazy how there is no evidence here that she's struggling, and I'd know better than any of you. She's proudly a political lesbian and you can read my post *incorrectly* as "cold, detached, snarky, and shaming" but you're simply incorrect. I'm *hurt* because she's someone I actually really like otherwise but I know how she would feel about *me* if she knew I'm a lesbian because I'm exclusively same sex attracted. It's insane that you would see a post I made about being sad that my bi friend doesn't even believe in exclusive same-sex attraction and attack ME for it. Fuck you, honestly.

"Lesbian" friend told me "if we didn't live in a patriarchy and there was a man who could behave the way women do now, I think I'd date him. But that's not possible in this world"

And I was like "I could meet the most wonderful, kind man in the entire world and I would never be attracted to him" and this seemed to confuse her....like girl you're just a bisexual with standards. Let me be proud of you for that instead of upset that you're claiming to share my experience.

#do I seem like I'm laughing about this? when I said funny I meant odd #not genuinely haha hilarious #which is made very clear by everything else in this damn post

[lavenderfeminist]

LOL

"Lesbian" friend told me "if we didn't live in a patriarchy and there was a man who could behave the way women do now, I think I'd date him. But that's not possible in this world"

And I was like "I could meet the most wonderful, kind man in the entire world and I would never be attracted to him" and this seemed to confuse her....like girl you're just a bisexual with standards. Let me be proud of you for that instead of upset that you're claiming to share my experience.

#absolutely bonkers take btw

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)

[lavenderfeminist]

I think I'm going to delete this account in about a week. I'm proud of the way I've become comfortable articulating my thoughts coherently, but I don't have time to share that kind of writing anymore so currently my blog is just a means of procrastination that I can't afford. If you want to stay in touch let me know and we can figure something out :)