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everyone quiet down dj unprotected sex is getting an unexpected call from the clinic

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How do you start your day?

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everyone always sayin to me "not to be weird" you have to be weird. you have to be weird for your health

#quwu

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it feels really weird to call evangelical christianity a cult but it fits every criteria of the BITE model (control of Behavior, Information, Thought, and Emotions) because it's so fucking normalized. America is basically controlled by a cult. and it makes it harder for me to come to terms with or even name what I went through being raised in the thick of evangelical fundamentalist-lite homeschooling as abuse because it's so fucking normalized.

It's finally clicking for me that even the ways I was treated as a young child were pretty fucked up. Ive been working with kids with behavior issues much more severe than anything I ever did as a child for the past three years, and the thought of yelling at them the way my mom yelled at me horrifies me. If I, at the ages of 21-24, can keep my calm while breaking up an actual physical fight between two 12 year olds or being threatened and actually hit by a 15 year old, my parents had no excuse for screaming at me for being grumpy over my school work or leaving a couple toys on the couch. My dad started hiding my things once including my favorite stuffed animal because I left some craft stuff on the table (the one I was supposedly allowed to do crafts on) and my stuffed animal in his office after playing Minecraft.

I don't think the religious abuse really did start until I was in middle school, but I'm finally realizing abuse had always been there. it just became more easily recognizable the more evangelicals started idolizing Trump and Republican political issues became even more closely tied with religious moral panic. I was 15 or 16 when Trump began his political campaign and 17 when he was officially elected. I know things were brewing before then, but I became more aware of politics then. When I was 15-16 I was in sports 3-5 days a week, college classes 2 days a week, two different bible studies, church youth group, normal church on Sundays, and I was expected to accept whatever babysitting jobs I was offered whenever I could fit them in with my other obligations. No shit I didn't also want to do choir and volunteer for church childcare, I was tired as fuck and desperate to have fun on my own terms. but no, the TV or video games or comic books I chose to have fun with were demonic if they had any amount of fantasy demons or any hint of a queer character, or if my parents couldn't find anything morally reprehensible about them then it meant they were idols and would lead my heart away from god as well. Every little thing that wasn't academic or religious was a slippery slope that would lead me into hell. I was heavily pressured to "court" instead of date and to save my first kiss for marriage, and that every piece of affection I gave someone who was not my husband was something I would never be able to give to whatever man I did eventually marry.

AND the fucking academic neglect because "freedom of religion" plus homeschooling meant my parents were allowed to teach me that the earth was only 6000 years old. Wasn't even taught geography.

But at least I was allowed to wear pants I guess.

#i just ended up not telling them a lot of shit lol #hoo man if my mom knew what homestuck was actually about #they stopped punishing/grounding me as an adult but yhere was still a lot of lectures about my spiritual health #and hella eyebrow raises if i wanted to wear a crop top. god forbid i wear short shorts #vent #religious trauma #emotional abuse

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you can click on this button once daily to help palestine and support other causes in the middle east for free. it takes literally 5 seconds and could help save lives so please take the time to click and share this link.

#quwu

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#95 cuz the cold hurts me so much #ajd and i can dress slutty

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Palindrome!

4/20/24

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The fact that homelessness is controversial tells you everything you need to know about conservatives.

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Keep your hopes up!  Somewhere south of Phoenix, January 2018.

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MY WIFE!!!!(i am a gay man)

#im a simple man i see half life i hit reblog

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#im a simple man i see half life i hit reblog #fave

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the dungeon meishi characters are like cousins to me. I don't really know what's going on with them but I see them often enough and they're always fun.

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need my dick sucked so bad but i have this stupid ass vagina

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Do you ever talk to your mutuals?

not really i just post things and hope they fall in love with me

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“why do i believe this” and “who benefits from me believing it” are the first steps to decolonization and we should all be doing this more

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#wifecore

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me every day without fail: I'll do [chore] when I get home

me when I get home: