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Symptom poll time. You know the drill. Self-diagnosed people are welcome to this poll, reblog for a bigger sample size.

Please share your experiences in replies and reblogs. I made this because usually HPD is left out of the empathy conversations about our cluster so I am hoping to see why, and maybe help boost HPD experiences with empathy a bit.

I forgot a fluctuating empathy button despite experiencing it myself. Please go with what you experience most often.

#bpd + low empathy

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Shout out to people who do fit the stereotypes for their disorders. The symptoms that are deemed ‘wrong’ and ‘incorrect’ by most of social media. You exist and that is okay.

#positivity posting!

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A lot of pop psychology gets thrown around and since I already have a headache, here's preventing you lot from making it worse.

Love-bombing: A manipulation tactic of increasing affection and grand gestures before or after doing something abusive, specifically to weasel one's way out of consequences.

What it is not: A streak of affection and generosity towards friends/loved ones.

Trauma-bonding: Knowingly traumatizing someone to take advantage of their vulnerable state, to then act like the "hero" or the one who cheers them up.

What it is not: Bonding over similar traumas.

Gaslighting: *Knowingly* convincing someone they cannot trust their own perception of a situation in pursuit of one's own narrative.

What it is not: Misaligned perception of events.

Narcissist: Someone afflicted with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, a traumagenic cluster B disorder, that struggles with self-obsession, paranoia, craving validity from the public, delusions of grandeur, and social disconnection.

It is not: Your rubbish ex that cheated on you.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

-Xanthe

#very important!!

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Cluster b culture is being like "yeah that makes sense" when you get diagnosed.

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having BPD be like don't split don't split don't split don't split don't split don't split don't split don't split don't spl- *splits*

#real

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Me I am the beautiful princess /hj

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I'm proud of you <3

I don't know who needs to hear this but Im proud of you- I'm proud of the person reading this, you're alive and I know that can be difficult, don't give up, there are people who love you and need you even if you don't feel its true- you are fighting and winning- you are amazing- please keep fighting you gorgeous/handsome/beautiful being.

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Shout out to the people who never had a safe place. Who didn’t have a before trauma. Who were loved but not protected. Who were collateral damage in someone else’s breakdown. Who got fucked up so young that they’ll never know who they could have been.

Shout out to people who’ve never felt safe. I hope you do someday.

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i got a b in personality disorders??? did i not study enough?

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bpd culture is going from “end of the world” to “everything is okay” in 10 minutes

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i feel like tons of people will always love the idea of me but will never *actually* love me, no matter all the lies you spew. you cant even tell me WHY you like me? its obvious. you're just lonely.

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BPD culture is OH FUCK OH SHIT OH FUCK OH SHIT, HE'S BECOMING MY NEW FP, I'M STARTING TO BECOME OBESSESED OVER HIM. FUCK, WHY DOES IT ALWAYS HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS. WHY CAN'T I HAVE NORMAL FRIENDSHIPS AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

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Being a self-aware BPD person is WILD. I literally be watching myself go into an episode like “here I go again” but have no control to stop it !

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fuck a “casual relationship”

i want mutual violent obsession ONLY

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To everybody with BPD who’s disorder is not gentle, silent, or socially acceptable but loud, violent, and turns others away from them; you are not a burden, I promise you that you are not a burden. You are not your negative symptoms. They are not a reflection of the person that you are.

We need more recognition for borderlines that cannot control or have a difficult time controlling their rage, borderlines that become violent during an episode, borderlines who use subst4nces, borderlines who have delusions that are not socially acceptable, borderlines who have a difficult time regulating their emotions, borderlines who do not have friends or have a difficult time making them, borderlines who cannot trust others, borderlines who cannot decide or figure out who they are, borderlines who have symptoms which are considered “ugly” by others because an expectation had been put upon us to act a certain way.

BPD can be ugly. BPD can be lonely. BPD can break social expectations. BPD can make you abandon your loved ones or cause them to leave you. BPD can be so delusional that the sufferer is fully convinced within their delusion. BPD can be scary and confusing for the sufferer.

Just because your symptoms are more difficult to handle than another, it does NOT make you unlovable.