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SVU Partners

Bensler: Are reluctant to admit they’re in love with each other

Rollisi: Are married

Veluncy: Are still only babies

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“A partnership is a lot like a marriage. You fight, then you make up. But at the end of the day, you always have each other’s backs. And if you had to, you’d take a bullet for each other. And a bond like that, that never goes away.”

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obsessed with this interaction

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when none of ur friends watch the shows u watch so u have no one to scream with:

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Ouch

Think I took it too far, When I sold you my heart. How’d it get so dark?

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NDA // Billie Eilish

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NDA // Billie Eilish

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Neurotypicals: autistic people dont feel empathy, they don’t care about others or how they feel

Neurotypicals: *electrocutes children and ignores their feelings*

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I’m in love with this reply to my tweet 😂😂

I’m feeling the bensler and rollisi solidarity tonight!

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Dear Eldest Daughters

I cannot help but wonder

who taught us

that to ask for anything

we must first be

everything.

I cannot help but wonder

Who breathed life to our clay

To live to serve

To serve to live

Till the day we return to earth

and our bones

feed the living.

I cannot help but wonder

which God made a sack

of our hearts, strong enough

to carry the lives

of everyone we ever loved.

Whether we are child,

or with child,

young or old,

abled or ill.

Age is just another whip;

no poor beast could

learn our trick

of balancing

a world on our heads

and one on our hips.

I cannot help but wonder

If a mule ever dreams

of being a horse

wild in the wind.

Or if the saddle bags

breaking its back

reassures it that

it has somewhere

to call home.

I cannot help but wonder

What happens when

we are no longer daughters,

nor wives, nor sisters

When we have no children

or children's children.

What is a pack mule

without a bridle?

Is it free

or is it abandoned?

© Sylvia De Silva, 2021

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Anyone else afraid to have more than one kid because no one ever taught you what a healthy sibling relationship looks like?

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Parentification

“Parentification” is when a child

Is forced to become a parent

For themselves, their siblings, or their parents.

“Parentification” is

Waking up soaked with urine

From a toddler you didn’t birth. It’s

Changing them by the light of Telly Tubbies

While they whimper about their nightmares.

It’s going to school the next day,

Turning in your presentation and realizing

You forgot to do the paper.

Sometimes it’s sitting in the grocery store parking lot

Because there’s more consequences for being late to class

Than to missing it entirely.

It’s your friends learning to talk over the baby crying.

It’s your mother telling you you won’t get into college

So she gets two more years of your free childcare.

It’s you believing her.

It’s you staying.

“Parentification” is

When you tell your mother to get a job.

It’s selling paper snowflakes and giving her the dimes.

It’s telling her that you want to sleep in your own bed.

It’s when she shows you the sperm bank donation and the turkey baster,

It’s when you clean out morning sickness bile buckets.

It’s learning how to give a shot before you know long division.

It’s the way she trains you, in moments and fragments,

Her needs come first.

It’s putting her first.

“Parentification” is

When you’re at a tween birthday party

And the parent tells you, “You’re looking anorexic.

I know your mom is busy, maybe

You can come to our place for dinner?”

It’s going to your dad’s because he pays child support, your mother

Sleeping with him so he’ll fix your car.

It’s a one-night stand with a stranger you met on the Internet when you’re 14.

It’s living life in reverse.

It’s not knowing who to turn to,

Not knowing what’s normal,

Just knowing pills help (some of the time).

It’s not knowing how not to be a caretaker.

“Parentification” is moving away,

Losing everyone and everything.

It’s finding yourself and freedom

And love and life.

“Parentification” is

Your sister not coming to your wedding,

Your mother refusing to raise her glass

During toasts, only asking

Why you’re changing your name.

It’s leaning in, on the happiest day of your life,

To whisper to your soulmate, “I know

My mom is not happy. I am trying

To be okay with not being responsible

For her happiness.”

It’s only hearing from her because she

Wanted more recognition, it’s

Her asking for her wedding money back, it’s

Spending your honeymoon in tears.

“Parentification” is

Learning how to let go,

Rolling far away from that poisoned apple tree,

And hoping (praying)

You’re

Not poisoned, too.

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