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This week on Dropout: on Monday, go behind-the-scenes of Game Changer's latest episode ("Deja Vu"); on Tuesday, welcome to an all-sports Breaking News with anchors Jess Ross, Oscar Montoya, Ally Beardsley, and Ruha Taslimi; on Wednesday, get ready for the 3 hour long 17th episode of Dimension 20: Fantasy High Junior Year (don't miss it); on Thursday, a chaotic Adventuring Party talkback; on Friday, the trailer for new Dropout series, Thousandaires, and a new Very Important People with guests Rashawn Scott and Ross Bryant.

#!!!! cant wait for fhjy

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Sometimes a family is a werewolf, his niece, his adopted daughter, his girlfriend, his girlfriend's griffin, his girlfriend's daughter, his girlfriend's daughter's friend who just moved in one day (who is the ex of his niece), the kid his girlfriend's daughter (and his adopted daughter, and his girlfriend's daughter's friend) killed once, that kid's mom, the demon who lives inside the kid's mom, the resident ghost, the resident ghost's ghost rat, the werewolf's girlfriend's daughter's girlfriend (but only through a magic portal door), his adopted daughter's no-longer-evil sister, said sister's fifteen cats, two kidnapped adopted butter jellies, an invisible dog, and a frog.

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ohhhhhh Sandra-Lynn Faeth my beloved. she's everything. she's a high school dropout. she's a messy bitch. she's a milf. she's divorced. she's in a polyamorous situationship. she went from a single mother of one to the semi-legal guardian of a 9 teenagers, one adult, and 15 cats. she's had multiple affairs. she lives in a haunted house. she tells Fig not to smoke and immediately takes a drag off her cloves. her taste in partners is absolutely inscrutable. she's even bisexual. truly who is doing it like her

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obviously this is a fictional world and elmville has people die all the time. I still think it’s funny how jawbone is a mandated reporter and didn’t have to report… a students desire to kill her classmates?? what is in that handbook?? i’m just so curious what he HAS to report

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pamela and bobby dawn ruined sandra lynns reputation just cuz she was in love with bobby when she was a teenager. i hope an anvil drops on both of their heads

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Torn between "Baxter was still a little baby guy when Sandra Lynn left school because it's cute to think about" and "Sandra Lynn was the motorcycle friend with her fully grown griffin companion who could carry another person"

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the reason so many characters who "use humor to mask the pain" or "are assholes with hearts that care DEEP down" are mischaracterized in fan content is because fans would like to explore the more vulnerable side implied but not shown all the time in the source, but in doing so forget the outer layer the character actually acts like most of the time, which then echoes as fans begin to immerse themselves in fan content exclusively without going back to the source for a long time. that is to say that you cant separate the outside self a character presents to others from their inner self and insecurities they are and have inside - they may have issues, but theyre still funny and/or an asshole

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the five homoerotic love languages:

- intimate stabbing

- outright obsession

- confused pining

- "no one knows me like you do"

- lifelong promises that always sound suspiciously like wedding vows

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anyway i will always remember my freshman year world history teacher who spent a whole day teaching us about the development of hinduism and its cultural impact and the next day came into class and (basically) said “alright so who guessed that everything i said yesterday was bullshit?”

the thing i took away from this was

when learning about a culture You Are Not A Part Of in a class full of liberals, they will accept everything as fact

if something historical sounds simple and widely agreed upon, especially religion, its probably bullshit

you are not smarter than experts. and experts can fucking lie to you anyway.

american non academics have been and will continue to butcher greek mythology and sell it to you like the bible. please. PLEASE. remember those things can be fun but your bullshit detectors should be on.

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women’s right to respect isnt determined by how fuckable you think they are btw

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Why did you include neopronouns in your linguistic course? If you did, I hope you specified that neopronouns are neologisms (at least in English) and that pronouns are a pretty closed class category of words in English.

i really hope you didn't intend this to seem as condescending as it turned out <3

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I love lesbians lmao

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some good news!

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what if werewolves were real but they were all heterosexual

what if you didnt send me hate mail

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I respect neopronouns and even played a bit with them myself back in the day but I also think I need a pronunciation guide for some of them

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i feel so fucking bad for my fellow young queers nowadays. so many are being radicalized by the right because we are so disconnected from our past and history and it fucking sucks man

i remember being 14 and just being so lost and uncomfortable in my own skin and getting wrapped up in fucking exclusionary discourse on fucking instagram of all places. i remember not liking myself and being vulnerable and feeling left out, and all these other online queers took me in and said "its fine, you're normal, but we have to fight the not-normal queers to be accepted" and i believed them because who else would i trust?

the idea that there's a wrong kind of gay or trans or queer is so antithetical to what this community is supposed to be about. we're strange, we're outcast. it's so sad to see infighting knowing that its just successful propaganda meant to divide us.

truth is, bigots don't care if you're the "right kind of queer" or not. they still hate you for existing and pandering does nothing but hurt the only community that actually cares. we have to leave behind the mindset that we can only be accepted if we change, because the people who only accept us when we're the "good kind of queer" never fucking respected us in the first place

we're here, we're queer, and we don't have to be "the right kind" to be allowed to exist

#queer community #queer history #queer pride #queer rights #queer infighting #queer is not a slur #queer inclusion #queer identity #queer youth #queer discourse #queer culture #lgbt history #lgbt pride #lgbtq community #nydias post #nydia vents

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So what I’ve learned from the past couple months of being really loud about being a bi woman on Tumblr is: A lot of young/new LGBT+ people on this site do not understand that some of the stuff they’re saying comes across to other LGBT+ people as offensive, aggressive, or threatening. And when they actually find out the history and context, a lot of them go, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry, I never meant to say that.”

Like, “queer is a slur”: I get the impression that people saying this are like… oh, how I might react if I heard someone refer to all gay men as “f*gs”. Like, “Oh wow, that’s a super loaded word with a bunch of negative freight behind it, are you really sure you want to put that word on people who are still very raw and would be alarmed, upset, or offended if they heard you call them it, no matter what you intended?”

So they’re really surprised when self-described queers respond with a LOT of hostility to what feels like a well-intentioned reminder that some people might not like it. 

That’s because there’s a history of “political lesbians”, like Sheila Jeffreys, who believe that no matter their sexual orientation, women should cut off all social contact with men, who are fundamentally evil, and only date the “correct” sex, which is other women. Political lesbians claim that relationships between women, especially ones that don’t contain lust, are fundamentally pure, good, and  unproblematic. They therefore regard most of the LGBT community with deep suspicion, because its members are either way too into sex, into the wrong kind of sex, into sex with men, are men themselves, or somehow challenge the very definitions of sex and gender. 

When “queer theory” arrived in the 1980s and 1990s as an organized attempt by many diverse LGBT+ people in academia to sit down and talk about the social oppressions they face, political lesbians like Jeffreys attacked it harshly, publishing articles like “The Queer Disappearance of Lesbians”, arguing that because queer theory said it was okay to be a man or stop being a man or want to have sex with a man, it was fundamentally evil and destructive. And this attitude has echoed through the years; many LGBT+ people have experience being harshly criticized by radical feminists because being anything but a cis “gold star lesbian” (another phrase that gives me war flashbacks) was considered patriarchal, oppressive, and basically evil.

And when those arguments happened, “queer” was a good umbrella to shelter under, even when people didn’t know the intricacies of academic queer theory; people who identified as “queer” were more likely to be accepting and understanding, and “queer” was often the only label or community bisexual and nonbinary people didn’t get chased out of. If someone didn’t disagree that people got to call themselves queer, but didn’t want to be called queer themselves, they could just say “I don’t like being called queer” and that was that. Being “queer” was to being LGBT as being a “feminist” was to being a woman; it was opt-in.

But this history isn’t evident when these interactions happen. We don’t sit down and say, “Okay, so forty years ago there was this woman named Sheila, and…” Instead we queers go POP! like pufferfish, instantly on the defensive, a red haze descending over our vision, and bellow, “DO NOT TELL ME WHAT WORDS I CANNOT USE,” because we cannot find a way to say, “This word is so vital and precious to me, I wouldn’t be alive in the same way if I lost it.” And then the people who just pointed out that this word has a history, JEEZ, way to overreact, go away very confused and off-put, because they were just trying to say.

But I’ve found that once this is explained, a lot of people go, “Oh wow, okay, I did NOT mean to insinuate that, I didn’t realize that I was also saying something with a lot of painful freight to it.”

And that? That gives me hope for the future.