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[arotechno]

this year my challenge for everyone is to unlearn the association between love and morality. love is not something that is inherently morally good, and the absence of love is not something that is inherently bad. sex without love isn't morally bankrupt, it's just an action. people without love aren't less kind or less good, they're just people. when we can get past this false (and often unnoticed) dichotomy of good love/evil lovelessness then i think we are going to be able to take leaps and bounds in sex positivity, aro advocacy, certain discussions of mental health...

#reminded again of the interview where moses sumney correctly pointed out the empty gesture #of saying 'the world needs more love' in response to injustice and oppression

[arotechno]

as someone in the aro community (and i think this is also applicable to the ace community, which is why y’all are included), i think there is something to be said about people trying to find a moral explanation to their repulsion. in a some situations, it is helpful and there is a conversation to be had about it but in a lot of others, it’s just recycled purity culture, i’m going to be honest.

before you send a post about how you think it’s actually exhibitionist to kiss in public, or predatory to talk about people you want to sexually pursue with your friends, please ask yourself first if there is genuinely something wrong morally going on there, or if it’s just something that grosses you out. it’s completely okay if it’s something that grosses you out. you don’t need to make up a moral reason behind it. you can just say ‘it grosses me out’ and find a way to remove yourself from that situation, for exemple, by looking away, or asking your friends to not talk about those topics around you (if they refuse, that’s another problem entirely and you should get better friends).

it is as unhealthy for allo people to repress their romantic and/or sexual attraction than it is for us to repress our aromanticism and/or asexuality. this isn’t like an theoretical extrapolation, this is a proven phenomenon, we’ve seen it with the catholic church. i understand and empathize with the fact that it feels like all of this is forced upon us, because it is, but there is a difference between someone telling us ‘i like this’ and someone telling us ‘you’re weird/broken if you don’t like this’.

anyways, sorry for the rant, i keep seeing posts in the aro and/or ace tags that try to justify their repulsion with morality, and i don’t want to single out anyone so i thought i’d make this post. there is no issue with posting about repulsion itself, for the record, it’s the moral justification that i think is unhelpful.

you don’t need any justification for your repulsion, you can just be repulsed. that’s fine.

[arotechno]

an aromantic person is someone who (fill in the blank here) // april 10 2024

#AAUUUOOIGFHHHHHH (<- complimentary) #aro #aromantic #aro poetry #reblog

[arotechno]

#Y'ALL...... YOU SUCK #YOU SUCK SO BAD #having a real blorbus from my polls moment 😭 #fellow aroaces i am fucking begging you. get some taste #STOP ACCEPTING SCRAPS AND CALLING IT GOOD REPRESENTATION #WATCH NON-ENGLISH MEDIA #or just read jughead for petes sake #anyway. to my beloved followers and fellow jughead and/or koisenu futari scholars. sicc em boys #reblog

[arotechno]

I NEED TO MAKE MORE ARO ART

#op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo #<- I GUESS?

[arotechno]

I love them SO MUCH. I love Aiko so much for not letting Tomoko undersell their bond.

They're Isokuma, Your Honor.

#screaming crying throwing up #konya sukiyaki dayo #reblog

[arotechno]

We have a long life ahead of us. We may not always communicate well. We may even hurt each other. Even so, the place where we can just have fun—where we can enjoy a delicious meal today—is right here. So I'm sure we'll be fine from now on.

KONYA SUKIYAYKI DAYO (2023); EP01 → EP12 dir. Ota Ryo

#posts that make you want to try making sukiyaki #konya sukiyaki dayo #reblog

[arotechno]

the way that both koisenu futari and konya sukiyaki dayo are also commentaries on gendered expectations around cooking

#REAL!!!!!!!!! #so true!!! #tbh i think tomoko and satoru would be good friends. #konya sukiyaki dayo #koisenu futari #reblog

[arotechno]

very cool how this scene destroyed me and changed me forever

#this is why i cried over onigiri. btw #this scene is so fucking real. platonic love is stored in the rice #konya sukiyaki dayo #reblog

[arotechno]

i absolutely love what konya sukiyaki dayo says about communal living, child-rearing, and the many forms both can take. it's great when aro media takes a step into navigating the way de-centering monogamous romance and leaning on community can benefit all members of the group, not just aromantics. and, really, living right next door to your best friend so you can see each other all the time but have your own place, isn't that kind of the dream?

#big parallels with koisenu futari in terms of the way expanding your social circle and building a support network #can enrich the lives of everyone involved #aro #aromantic #op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo

[arotechno]

AIKO'S "FOOD BEFORE ROMANCE" SHIRT... bruh

watching episodes 4, 5, and 6 of konya sukiyaki dayo.

in these three episodes we have covered everything from the fleeting nature of youth, mentorship, toxic masculinity and gender roles, the salaryman archetype, class, exploitation of the working class, economic turmoil, and the plight of undervalued and underpaid artists. what a fucking show

also, i'm claiming "isokuma" as the new "family (subject to change)"

#episode 12 btw! #op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo

[arotechno]

in a lot of ways this show, or at least tomoko's character arc, feels like a love letter to aro creatives. the drive to make something that resonates with YOU, that you feel connected to, even with the knowledge that other people may not get it. the satisfaction in knowing that your art has been meaningful to at least one person. this show makes me want to make more aro art

watching episodes 4, 5, and 6 of konya sukiyaki dayo.

in these three episodes we have covered everything from the fleeting nature of youth, mentorship, toxic masculinity and gender roles, the salaryman archetype, class, exploitation of the working class, economic turmoil, and the plight of undervalued and underpaid artists. what a fucking show

also, i'm claiming "isokuma" as the new "family (subject to change)"

#op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo

[arotechno]

sukiyaki tonight? sukiyaki tonight queen?

(on episode 11 now)

NOOOO TOMOKO GET OFF OF TWITTER

watching episodes 4, 5, and 6 of konya sukiyaki dayo.

in these three episodes we have covered everything from the fleeting nature of youth, mentorship, toxic masculinity and gender roles, the salaryman archetype, class, exploitation of the working class, economic turmoil, and the plight of undervalued and underpaid artists. what a fucking show

also, i'm claiming "isokuma" as the new "family (subject to change)"

#twitter is the mindkiller!!!! #op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo

[arotechno]

happy aro week!! 💚 🤍 🩶 🖤

[Characters are from Koisenu Futari a really nice series about two people who are aroace that start living together]

#I MISS THEM!!!!!!!!

[arotechno]

Hi I saw you're poll about whether people realised they are aro or ace first and I have a question. Is it not an automatic thing that if you're aro you're also ace? Like I don't get it of you don't like anyone romantically why you would wnat to have sex? If people do that completely valid I just didn't really think about it? Like I just assumed it would be that if ur aro then ur automatically ace too.

Please don't at all think I'm trying to be rude or anything I'm just wondering and if people are ark but not ace then good for them,that's chill I just wanted to ask. It might just be my utter lack of understanding of attraction as a whole cause while I'm a lesbian I'm also 17 and have never had any kind of sexual attraction (I have considered that I may be ace before but I'm also a kid so that might also just be why).

But yeah anyway that's my question I hope it makes sense and doesn't come off as rude. Have a nice day:)

Not only can aromantic people not be asexual, there is even a term for it: allosexual aromantic, or alloaro for short. It is a very broad label as alloaros can be any sexuality that isn't ace.

It's important here to recognise that while sex can be an expression of romantic intimacy, it certainly doesn't have to be. Sex is just an activity that people can engage in for a variety of reasons. For some it's an expression of romantic love, for others it's about friendship, and for others it's just a fun way to spend their time. None of these are any more or less valid than any other.

I myself am not alloaro, so I certainly can't speak on their behalf. But I do hope that some people in my notes are willing to explain their own experiences of being alloaro.

[arotechno]

So, I was thinking today about how, as an aroace, I started identifying as asexual several months before I started identifying as aromantic. I just found it more difficult to come to terms with my aromanticism than my asexuality, thereby taking me longer to accept it.

And that got me curious:

#both at the same time... kind of #it wasn’t really a linear process with like a moment of realization #i just kind of slowly accepted both of them in tandem #aromanticism was ultimately harder to come to terms with but it still sort of happened at the same time #aro #aromantic #reblog

[arotechno]

don't mind me. i just cried over onigiri as an expression of platonic love!!! it's fine!!!! it's cool!!

watching episodes 4, 5, and 6 of konya sukiyaki dayo.

in these three episodes we have covered everything from the fleeting nature of youth, mentorship, toxic masculinity and gender roles, the salaryman archetype, class, exploitation of the working class, economic turmoil, and the plight of undervalued and underpaid artists. what a fucking show

also, i'm claiming "isokuma" as the new "family (subject to change)"

#op #techno's jdrama era #konya sukiyaki dayo