ok so you support the disabled, disordered, and mentally ill. but are you normal when someone takes long to respond to you? or if they have a hard time listening to you? when someone has a hard time giving you their attention? or when their manners aren’t perfect? or when someone makes mistakes that may be obvious or simple to you? or when someone talks loudly or “causes a scene?” are you normal when people have to think really hard to explain things? or when they have a hard time putting their thoughts into words?
are you normal when people’s hair is unkempt or oily or visibly unbrushed? or when their face might be full of acne? or when they don’t have deodorant on for one reason or another? how about if their clothes are dirty?
are you normal about disabled/disordered/mentally ill people when they make you a little uncomfortable?
for my fellow psychotics who struggle with thinking someone is in their house, a method I’ve found that really works are these guys:
i put them on my front door and anytime it opens they ring. that way if i think someone has broken in or i see someone who isn’t there i can think back to if the bells have rung, and if they haven’t i can assure myself it’s not real. obviously it’s not fool proof, like if you are prone to auditory hallucinations, but it has really helped me calm down in time to avoid major psychotic breaks. it’s a real lifesaver
Saw this on Twitter and some of you bitches need to read this 🤨
What’s even more frustrating is that I know y’all just gonna ignore this because tumblr is a very white dominated space and some of you don’t think you need to do any introspection at all because you think you’ve done the work already. But I am tired of y’all never centering or uplifting studs in lesbian spaces. They’re not the shadow of the rest of y’all. I’m pretty sure there’s like 2 Black lesbians, and like 6 Black sapphics on here (me included) and I have made the observation that y’all don’t really make it apparent to include us in sapphic spaces. We don’t get tagged to participate in games or selfie threads, we don’t get reblogged enough or y’all never reblog pictures of Black lesbians or Black sapphic couples because y’all don’t see us as the beauty standard, we get talked over in group settings, we get ignored when trying to make friends with y’all (I have noticed that white femmes tend to acknowledge me more than white butches tho) and it feels very isolating and ostracizing to see us as an afterthought and I genuinely think that’s why there’s hardly any Black lesbians on here or Black sapphics in general. Cus they don’t feel appreciated, seen or centered on here. Y’all treat us like an extension of y’all that’s not worth paying attention to. But the point is, is that studs and Black femmes have rich, beautiful experiences and we’re not the “Black version” of anything.
When I say “school should be disability accessible”, I don’t just mean we need handicap rails and EAs. Kids should be able to miss a day without failing out of school. You shouldn’t be dismissed from clubs because your attendance record is “spotty” (true story). I once missed an entire week of school because of a terrible, unending migraine. I was expected to keep up with my studies despite the blinding pain that came with working on my computer. When I heard my teachers say that you couldn’t miss exams, I asked what I would have to do to be excused from them. Their response? “Either get a doctor’s note an hour before the exam or death of an immediate family member.”
I cannot express how rigid this expectation was. First of all, with my condition, I wouldn’t have enough warning about my sickness to go to the doctor and request a note. For many people, this is exceptionally difficult, especially with the current shortage of medical professionals. Next, it ignores the fact that my schedule may not line with theirs because of my medical needs. Once, I had to visit a hospital a province away (which I was on the waiting list of for over a year) on the same day as an exam. I begged my mother not to take me because I was so nervous that I would be marked as an automatic fail. I was lucky enough to make it work, but that’s only because of my spectacular support system consisting of family members and wonderful doctors.
Disabilities aren’t always about needing a bus that can accommodate wheelchairs. It’s already difficult enough for many of us to maintain school attendance without the harsh punishments involved for skipping a day. We need to be able to miss school without being punished. Only than can you claim that the school is “accessible”