valeriesolanasapologist

[valeriesolanasapologist]

hey there, i'm currently working on a feminist website and i'm looking for the help of other women to give their feedback, their opinions, and advice/expertise. the site is not published yet but it is in the development stage, and i would really like as much help as i can get as i have big plans for it and what it sets out to accomplish.

this is a website that aims to promote activism, raise class consciousness, support women of all backgrounds, organize events, share resources, and build community. there is a serious lack of infrastructure in feminist spaces and having us all shouting into the void on social media is antithetical to true feminist action. this website aims to act as a hub for ALL the wonderful resources the women on here post on their blogs, for ease-of-access and the sake of decentralization. this website also seeks to mitigate the amount of discourse and in-fighting within the community in favor of encouraging direct action, change, and connection.

please interact with this post or send me a message if you:

are tired of social media interfaces and would be interested in meeting with other feminists, online and in-person

create feminist art, zines, music, media, graphics, etc.

would be interested in participating in or conducting a workshop for feminist consciousness raising or skill building

know back-end coding

would be interested in contributing whatever you can to a project like this

do not hesitate to ask questions about the project, and reblogs for visibility are very much appreciated.

thanks for reading!

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I hate the “open floor plan” that everyone is obsessed with in houses now. I want nooks and crannies and bizarre floor plans. I don’t need to be able to see what someone is doing on the other side of the house. I want places to hide and lurk and dwell in the shadows. I am the beast who awaits in the labyrinth

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Males wouldn't achieve shit if women weren't there for them. And yet, it's women who are considered inherently incapable.

#Sofia Tolstoy #Anna Dostoyevsky #Misogyny #exploitation #Reading how Tolstoy stole from his wife makes my blood boil - the sheer arrogance and selfishness of that man!

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"Females can't help but display their sexuality" - you mean you can't look at parts of our normal, natural bodies without sexually objectifying them. Because you are porn-addled.

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these motherfuckers don’t deserve any pussy. fuck their dumb asses. ladies, when a guy asks you out and suggests a place to go, ALWAYS suggest another place to see if his ass is some lame pua wannabe. fellas, stop being a bunch of insecure pussies. this ISN’T how you prove yourselves to be alphas. smfh. real men know when to flex and when to chill, this was a fucking “chill” moment and he blew trying to be “alpha.” dumbass.

“do not tolerate disagreement” wtf?!?! some of you motherfuckers want a fucking dog NOT a woman. 

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STEVIE NICKS — Rooms On Fire (Official Music Video 1989) ☽ [stevie gifs] ☽

#oh I do love this song

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The "sexual revolution" has expanded the range of sexual activities that women are expected to perform to please men. Female sexual pleasure is disdained, female sexual performance is praised. We are encouraged to ignore our comfort and dignity. Wanting to be treated with respect and affection is a sign that you are sexually repressed. The greatest victory of male depravity.

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When I think about it, men always practice separatism. When I was a child, only my brother could play with our cousins because he was a boy. When I was in school, football was an activity mainly for boys : they didn’t want girls in their team. In my study field, I was the only woman for two years. Now, we are two. The men always stay together. When I was doing an internship in electrical maintenance, there were no women. Whenever they can, men stay between them. Yet, when a woman expresses her desire to be around other women, she is irrational and she needs to be open about welcoming men.

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There's a new trend where women are asking their fathers, or father of their daughters, the man vs bear question so I asked my dad. He said bear immediately, and I found the lack of hesitation pretty interesting:

"A bear in the woods does not have bad intentions. It belongs there, it's where it lives. A bear is more likely to avoid you than to attack you unprovoked. They're just minding their business.

Men who have bad intentions gravitate towards secluded areas like the woods to attempt to carry out those intentions. We hear all the time up in Michigan about criminal men being found hiding in the woods. That is the type of man you would probably end up stubbling upon."

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depressing post from a sub mainly about westerners naming their children kayleighgh nova and sephiroth uzumaki

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Old Misogyny: “She was asking for it”

New Misogyny: “We need to critically examine the notion that all women are victims under a monolithic patriarchy and stop assuming that women need to be protected from sex and that they can’t make their own choices and be empowered by [prostitution/porn/surrogacy/statutory rape/bdsm], women who consider themselves victims need to take accountability for the choices they had.”

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:/

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historically men have had no issue with marital rape

major religions insist that a wife must sexually service her husband, supporting marital rape

historically most men have been married

put this together

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Its so true, Dworkin and Mackinnon predicted everything about this current era. Porn has become sex now; teenage girls being bullied into anal and getting choked by boys and coerced into sending nudes at an age typically understood as one of “exploration”—now porn defines sex and sexuality; and Gail Dines and many others have talked about the deeply deadening effect of porn on empathy and the ability to recognize women as people. Porn crept ever further into the mainstream and it has totally saturated our culture, from the ‘arts’—not just streaming/TV or Lars Von Trier films, but I’m thinking of stuff as small as frames of comic books traced from porn, art distributed online traced from porn—to the personal intimate lives of human beings, women being choked, spat on, beaten—then again, even back in the 80s, men were using porn to abuse women, and the most widely available stuff was still not as vile as the porn you can find with a 2sec Google search from any phone or computer today. Deepfake porn turns all women existing in public into potential victims of violent and degrading misogynist fetishism and sexuality. OF and its ilk makes it possible for any woman to monetize herself in the form of porn and in a time of increasing economic instability, inflation, high food and gas prices, the upcoming potential loss of health insurance for millions, I’m sure it’s more appealing than ever. Porn terminology is everywhere, “MILF,” “ebony,” etc. And all of this is done under the guise of sexual liberation and free speech, and to argue against it is seen as puritanical, condescending at best, hateful, antifeminist, “SWERF”/“TERF”-y at worst. It is a demonstrated fact of the research done into porn that it shuts off vital abilities to connect with women as human beings, to empathize with women and to reject violence against us; that porn usage conditions the user into seeking out ever more intense, bizarre, violent content to use in order to achieve the same pleasure and orgasm that “vanilla” content used to do for them. What must it be doing to all of us, collectively, to have porn on every level of our culture now? What is it doing to the position of women in our society, already half citizens at best, earning significantly less than men, with our bodily autonomy stripped away in many states, being denied life-saving procedures and medications—not just mifepristone etc but even things like lupus medication and anti-inflammatories that may potentially affect us and our bodies if we chose at some point to maybe get pregnant—even being arrested for drinking or taking drugs while decidedly not pregnant because it could affect a potential fetus at some point? Are we not degraded objects already? What does it mean for us to be reduced to “cumsocks” and pornographic objects on top of all this? How deeply destructive is this society, how much further will it go to enforce the category of woman as hole, woman as receptacle, woman as vessel, woman as meat?

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baby fever is the most foreign concept to me in the world. when i found out women don’t have to have children if they don’t want to i was like YAYYYY!!! I’M FREEEEE !!! ^_^ i was like 13 and i have never looked back…