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“Someone else’s lack of self-control is not a justification for abandoning our own. Nor is it a good look or a recipe for success and achievement.”

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WOMEN SHOULDN’T MAKE TOO MANY SACRIFICES

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Toughen up. Yeah, I said it. It's time you stop expecting the world around you to bend to your feelings. The harsh reality is that other people don't care about you and only you are responsible for your well-being. Stop taking what others say personally and stop placing so much value on the opinions of nobodies. So what if they don't like you? Do they even like themselves? Do YOU like them?.

Once you've mastered the art of detachment from the perception of others and lower your expectations of people who haven't made any pledge of commitment towards you, it will become easier to develop a thicker skin, to become more laser-focused on you and your own well-being, and to disregard that and those who do you no good.

In a world of snowflakes, be a diamond, which never breaks or bends under pressure.

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”I noticed before my “healing “ I got asked out by tons of men even rich ones and all of them were the same; manipulative and sex focused! I was always in chaos & constant fights with them i just look back and wonder cz I’m the same person physically. Nowadays I hardly get approached and when I do they are super kind and respectful….it’s like the toxic guys in my past just evaporated, so weird but interesting.”

Credit Maria Al Masani

#spoiled gf #feminine #hypergamy

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get in bestie we’re trying out new things even though we’re scared

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I’m afraid of living a stagnant life. I want to do more, I want to see more, I want to be more. I want to constantly grow and better myself in who I am, in my friendships in my relationships, in my career, in every single aspect of my life. I never want to settle for anything or anyone, even the person I am.

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Pilates never fails to make me feel rejuvenated.

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Happiness looks good on me.

Peace looks good on me.

Wealth looks good on me.

Prosperity looks good on me.

Joy looks good me.

Softness looks good on me.

Luxury looks good on me.

Security looks good on me.

Abundance looks good on me.

Love looks good on me.

I have everything that I could ever desire 💕

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The importance of reading the room! My mother worked as an interpreter for the UN and has a story for you ladies. One of her colleagues in the Chinese, Spanish or other language division who will be anonymous had a story about how reading the room is more important than being the best interpreter.

So these interpreters would fly over from their city or country to New York City and the UN would cover the interpreting costs and the per diem meaning hotel and food. One of the interpreters was married to a wealthy gentleman and would not take the per diem for the hotel as she would stay at a luxury hotel and go to to restaurants. My mother’s colleague stayed at a reasonable clean hotel 3 star walking distance within the UN to get there on time in a foreign city and basic food but it’s not cheap. So did most of their colleagues except one.

There was this one nerdy interpreter who was excellent at their job but insisted to be a pick me saying the UN money staying at a cockroach infested motel that was an hour commute every day, and ate power bars from the bottega. They thought they were so smart such a good pick me saving money for the UN at their expense, so surely Pickmeisha Nerdeisha get a promotion for putting up with cockroaches. And Pickmeishas Nerdiesha instead of pocketing the savings would be honest to return the extra money and report it.

Next time everyone’s per diems were cut substantially and everyone was asking why you can’t even find a two star enough subway stations to get to work on time and the women didn’t feel safe on the subway.

United Nations “Ms Pickmeisha Nerdisha Da Fooleisha saved us so much money twice so why can’t you interpreters live on the same budget?” A lot of what they earn would have to go into the hotel. So the interpreters gathered together and say “we need to get Ms Pickmeisha Nerdisha fired or there is no point into working for the UN in New York!”

So they came up with a plan to study Pickmeisha Nerdeisha Da Fooleisha’s mistakes and each of them report every flaw and mistake how she is a poor worker and not a team player. EVERYONE reported her and even got help.

Miss Pickmeisha Nerdeisha Da Fooleisha was officially fired for the team and could not work for the UN in New York in her language combination. She was so clueless. This smarty pants A student had perfect interpretation and tried hard to be perfect and save the company money and was super nice to everyone. Why did everyone hate her all of a sudden and suddenly everyone noticed only the tiniest errors she made and her colleagues far bigger mistakes were ignored. Pickmeisha Nerdeisha could not figure out what she did wrong!

If Pickmeisha studied the surroundings and thought what impact would she have on her colleagues who didn’t want to share the bed of cockroaches and wake up at the crack of dawn .. and just did like them she would not end up in this mess. She could have quietly pocketed the savings and use them to upgrade her messy hair and her wardrobe and been better off.

Your competence in your work skills gets you in the door but it’s your ability to read the room and understand people that gets you promoted.

Pickmeisha Nerdeisha was book smart and people foolish which cost her, her job and ability to advance. Why on earth do we praise girls for getting As but act like play time with friends is a waste. Maybe homework more than 5 minutes is a waste of time and playing with friends and learning social skills is a much more important investment. Eventually everyone will learn to be good enough at their job but it’s the social skills that take you to the next level.

We should praise our daughter for C’s and 3s and pay no attention to As and 5s. You did good enough now how did you play with your friends? What social skill did you learn? We used to put ladies a year in finishing school to develop social skills and sent boys to university. Maybe we should send everyone to a one year finishing school psychology networking and social skills boot camp and then train them a skill. I think people should study liberal arts or critical thinking on their own or in a Catholic university until the woke are kicked out of academia.

We put the wrong emphasis as society doesn’t reward your good grades and the doormat you are to the employer like Pickmeisha Nerdeisha was rewarded by being an A student and a pick me to her teachers. Real life doesn’t work that way.

You have to do a good enough job but also learn to read the room and not alienate your colleagues needlessly.

Credit Maria Al Massani

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I admire how she said no to long hours. The part of the story that they are not telling you is Arab & African women can be feminine and have a career because we have help at home. In lower income families the clan lives together so someone is cleaning and someone is babysitting as women who are not working work in the home together. In middle and upper class families you have maids and babysitters, cooks that make it possible for women to work outside the home because office worker women can easily afford domestic labour due to a lack of minimum wage. BECAUSE of minimum wage laws a western woman has to choose between a high powered career and family & because of anti family western work culture it’s impossible for successful women to set boundaries concerning their hours in the West.

In Africa and the Middle East you will see feminine career women balance work and family because of three factors: affordable domestic help from their salary, the family lives on the husband’s salary instead of 50-50 so she can actually afford domestic help, and #3 Arab wives can set work boundaries because of family that are seen as sacred and respected.

In the so called feminist West basically you have to lower your ambitions if you get married because crazy hours plus more domestic work and emotional labour gets too much before kids are even in the picture. If you do 50-50 it’s hard to get domestic help. Now even though we do, we clean after ourselves and have the occasional cleaning lady come in … if we had kids for me to work we would need a live in housekeeper and cook, possibly nanny. My parents live in a different part of town but let’s say my parents did agree to babysit so I am still on the hook for a live in maid and cook. Then I have to set boundaries with my office which would be looked down as women are weaker than gentlemen and unprofessional instead of Mashallah you are a mother taking care of the future of the society. Far more gentlemen can afford a trad wife in the West than a feminine working wife & mother, and a feminine working wife pretty much has to work for herself to have her time respected.

In the West when you see women at her level, the majority of them don’t have children. So before people believe the stereotype of Muslim women being oppressed understand western women actually face far more barriers and obstacles

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Traits I’ve Noticed in Confident People 

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it. 

Have a strong sense of self identity. Can be opinionated but open to challenges. 

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“Only the disciplined ones in life are free. If you are undisciplined, you are a slave to your moods and your passions.” - Eliud Kipchoge

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feng shui is real.

delete photos. delete apps. rearrange some furniture. give some clothes away. delete numbers. make your phone display neater. organize your seasonings. organize your clothes. organize your life so you can think clearer.