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[themotherlessmom]

Long Post Alert: I always contemplate how or what to post when in truth some of the dopest people I follow are followed because of how authentic their post are. So heres to no longer diming my light in fear of rejection.😌

So today I came across @vsg_ashli instagram page while watching @iam_baegoals ig story . Even how I started following her is ironic or Divine timing for me and I'll tell you why. I had been consistently working out for about a month and per usual when I come across videos or post that I really enjoy or find inspirational, I save them. For me the save feature is just as great or innovative as the screen shot. I Love It! So I have a bunch of videos I enjoy saved or that have been saved so I can come back to later. Anywho I came across @iam_baegoals weightloss reel one day and was hooked from there. I was motivated and inspired by her real and relatable post. I had just got my waist trainer vest from @whatwaist, I had minor results happening already, so I was feeling like coming across her post was definitely a sign that I'm on the right track. And just fyi most of the pages or people I follow on my personal instagram page are motivating in some shape or form. So she was now added to my daily line up.

Fast forward to today. My husband and daughter are gone to work and school. My one year old son is in his bed sleeping, and I am in my bed stretched out with plans to relax back into a slumber. But per my usual I decide to scroll my insta. I check out @iam_baegoals story's from yesterday and come across @vsg_ashli. I go to her page and her post are simple and honest and very relatable to me as well. I'm and instant fan!

See it doesn't take me long to figure out if I want to invite a certain energy into my daily viewing. Being a stay-at-home mom for practically five years, I've spent A LOT of time on social media. And I know the effects of seeing certain images all the time. You begin to compare and contrast yourself with people who are generally wearing a mask. So over time I've had to change what I allowed myself to view to decrease any unhealthy influences.

When I was a new mom I followed other moms and drew inspiration and sometimes strength from their stories of the ins and outs (and highs and lows ) of motherhood. After my son was born I decided to create my own space to expel my creative writing and Mommy humor. So I created @themotherlessmom (@_motherlessmom Twitter) I figured if these mamas can make a living or at least bring in some revenue from being open and honest about motherhood than so can I. If I was feeling so seen and heard and encouraged by these other women sharing their truths, think of who I can help- who I can encourage to keep going.

So getting back on track, I'm now a Mother of two and have been struggling with my weight what seems like my entire life. I'd start and stop and get motivated and unmotivated again. I teetered between wanting to achieve this goal of weightloss and settling for the idea that I should just accept how I am and keep it pushing. But this time around I got clear about what I actually wanted.

With the Pandemic rolling into the new year I knew I had to make a conscious decision and commitment to myself. Before I thought that once I lost weight I'll feel better about myself. I'll be able to walk into the woman I'm meant to be. However, this time I realized that I needed to do the inner work first and then that can start to flow to the outside. So I did meditation and journaling.

I participated in the 40 Day Abundance challenge twice ( I missed some sessions the first time). I got clear about the vision I had for myself. I started to be intentional with my thoughts and words and deeds. But in order to do this I had to get quiet and alone. I had to make me a priority. My mental health had to have a reset. My heart and mind had to get into alignment. Then and only then was I able to commit to the process of bettering myself.

See I have always had academic success to lean on. Once I finished that part of my life I became a mother and in the first 3-4 year I was giving of myself and not so much too myself. And I had read about this and I knew other moms were guilty of this as well. So this time around I had to tap into my ancestral powers. I had to remind myself of who and who's I am. My family is known for overcoming obstacles meant to break us. I have this same ability inside me. I just have to allow it to push through.

And just like @vsg_ashli I too hope to partner with companies and brands in the future but will for now enjoy what's already in front of me. I believe that it is my responsibility to share my story so that others can find encouragement or empowerment through my words- through my Truth.

Surely, if I can gain this from @iam_baegoals and @vsg_ashli someone will gain it from me.

So heres to just going for it! Putting yourself out there and seeing what might happen. Who knows! The opportunity of your dreams could be waiting for you on the otherside.

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[themotherlessmom]

I've been doing a terrible job at keeping this blog updated at least once a week. I've also been doing a terrible job in starting a consistent workout routine.

Nonetheless, I have been busy. Completing or working towards completing commissioned writing projects. Reorganizing and rearranging funiture all over the house. Really just staying busy so I won't have to think about the pandemic or the social unrest.

It would be less than the truth if I didn't confess about how over this entire pandemic-distancing-orange's crap that I really am. This year was nothing like I expected but oddly greater than I could hope. And in the midst of EVERYTHING I am still grateful for just Being!

So as I try not to harp over the would've- could've etc. I am elated to still be among the living and healthy.

So, I won't complain.

[themotherlessmom]

Changing Seasons

It’s that time of year again. The sun is setting earlier. The air is getting crisper. The leaves are changing its foliage and beginning to fall. Just like the seasons, personal change and growth is among us. Yet another opportunity to remake oneself and rebirthed a truer, newer version of ourselves. Oh, how I l love the changing seasons.

-themotherlessmom

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A sure sign of growth is being able to recognize when you are not staying focused on a goal or objective, and you can call yourself out on some of your own shortcomings. I know and recognize that I can get distracted from my own personal tasks, kind of easily. A couple weeks ago I had a lot of momentum to get my book started, and I did. After getting into chapter 2 I took an anticipated break to not only celebrate my 29th birthday, but to celebrate my now husband 31st birthday as well.

Yes. That is correct. I did also get married during my...I mean Our birthday weekend. As I am glad and grateful to be a married woman, I feel like now is the perfect time to add more coal to the fire and see this book agenda through. In the midst of my realization about my procrastination, I had to take a moment to try and pin point the ROOT of my actions. When my grandfather was sick, things began to move rather fast, and my world seem as if it was constantly changing. My way of coping was by staying busy. After my grandfather passed away, those same coping behaviors became routine. As long as I was busy, I didn't have to fully focus on whatever stresses were present at the time.

Now I am at a point in my life, where I cannot allow myself to short change myself in any of my endeavors. I admit that my anxiety tried to get the best of me, and caused me to begin to worry unnecessarily. The unnecessary worrying definitely detoured my momentum for writing. Now I won't say that their aren't time's that haven't been or aren't challenging, but for the most part me and my family are sailing on calm and cool waters. And I couldn't pray for anything better.

Contentment and Peace.

It's been a long time coming.

So here's another reminder for me to stay the course. To never put too much on my own plate, for the Lord will always supply plenty. To be grateful and to gives Thanks, and remember ALL things shall be added, in His timing, which is always on time.

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[themotherlessmom]

Happy Tuesday!

This mama had a very busy, but very fun weekend. I was able to get a lot of things done and even had an opportunity to add to the catering business. But let back up.

For first time readers, Hello and welcome to The Motherless Mom blog!

I've recently rebranded my blog and have decided to make serious moves to build and elevate my blog and brand. I have been inspired by countless other Mommy bloggers and have finally decided that I will wait no longer. It's time for me to just do it. So this blog will really talk about a bit of everything. Being a SAHM of Two, having a blended family and the challenges and triumphs of that, becoming an entrepreneur and assisting my husband in building his catering/chef business. So there's so much for me to cover, in addition to maintaining/establishing my social media presence and growing my followers. And hopefully be able to tie all this into writing my book.

So yes, this mama is a busy mama. But I am not complaining. However, I am taking things a day at a time, and making sure that I am strategically moving and posting in a way that is consistent and good for me.

So yeah, I needed to unload if you will, my weekend or allow myself the relief sigh that happens after work has been done. I'm making plans to make sure I post twice a week on this platform, but I will be more present on Instagram so feel free to follow me @themotherlessmom

Until next time❣

[themotherlessmom]

Re-branding. Planning, executing, but most importantly, trusting the process.

@themotherlessmom

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#themotherlessmom #mommyblogger #momlife #mommieclub #MomofTwo

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Leveling up 😏💪

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So glad to be able to witness another season of blessings and overflow. God has be so good to me, there aren't enough words to describe it. Out with the old & in with the new. April be good to me!

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I am just so amazed at what a woman's body is capable of. Carrying and sustaining life. I know it may not be every new mothers desire, but I encourage new moms to give breast feeding a try for at least 6-12months. Give your baby the best head start. I know it may not work out for every mom, but it's definitely worth a try. Your baby will appreciate you. 😊 #wedothis #blackwomendobreastfeed #bwdbf

#blackwomendobreastfeed #bwdbf #wedothis

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Unapologetically me

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#blackwomendobreastfeed Because these moments are precious 😍 #bwdbf #breakfast #bonding #motheranddaughter

#motheranddaughter #breakfast #bonding #bwdbf #blackwomendobreastfeed

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#icanbeboth #rp

#rp #icanbeboth

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P E R I O D. And you definitely can't claim "Single Parenting" when it's actually Parental Alienation. If you knew better you'd do better... I suppose.😒 #iSupport #fathersrightsmovement

#isupport #fathersrightsmovement

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Not touching that creamy crack lol