The fact black women are amongst the most educated demographic does not and will NEVER give YOU, specially if you are white, to demand ANYTHING from them, not comfort, not information and no explanations when they deny talking to you.
They are more than just your sources of information because guess what, they're NOT A HELP COUNTER. In fact never have been.
They are incredible individuals that have been mistreated for hundreds of years to this day.
Black women and girls shouldn't be put into the limelight only when it's convenient to you. They are real people who deserve so much love, respect, understanding and compassion.
Black women and girls don't have to be strong for you. They are not your caretakers and you're not entitled to their emotional labor or time.
Loving black women is essential for change, if you don't love all black women you are against the community as a whole.
If you're white don't fucking talk on the post or replies.
Otherwise an excellent post! 💞 But particularly the use of the word Females in this context is just a bit terf-y. Just enough to get my hackles up.
But especially since you don't want people feeling embarassed about something they have absolutely no control over, I'm sure any transphobic implications were accidental.
After making my post about innies and outies I saw a few people commenting that they thought it was referring to belly buttons and they they didn’t know there was such a thing as an outie. And honestly I’m not surprised. Being the owner of an outie myself for the longest time I didn’t know either, I just thought there was something wrong with me. So I want to make this post to educate anyone who is confused about the array of ways a vagina can look.
Firstly there are the innies - the ones we are all familiar with, the ones we see in porn, the ones that are idolised. An innie is when the labia majora (the outer lips) is larger and the labia minora (the inner lips) is smaller, so not visible.
Then we have the outies, the ones we rarely see in porn and get referred to as “roast beef pussy” and other derogatory names. The ones that women have been made to feel ashamed for having. - an outie is when the labia minora (the ‘inner’ lips) are larger than the labia majora (the ‘outer’ lips) so basically, the inner lips protrude, to varying degrees, and are visible on the outside.
I personally have been made to feel ashamed of what my vagina looks like by men, both directly and indirectly, and it has severely impacted my sex life, it has made me very insecure and I know many other females who feel the same way I do. It makes me sad to think about how we have been made to feel embarrassed about something we have absolutely no control over.
In conclusion, all vaginas are beautiful. Innies, outies and anything in between. No one should ever feel ashamed about how the look and anyone blessed to see a womens vagina should be nothing but grateful and love them exactly the way it is.