Tewi at Touhoufest 2024 ‼️ This was probably my favorite cosplay I've ever made and I can't wait to show it off better at a proper photoshoot later lolol
Sometimes we realize that we’ve been the toxic one in someone’s story. Sometimes we were the villain. Maybe we caused them harm or any number of things.
It’s important to not get stuck on wishing you could change it, because you can’t. It’s important to hold yourself accountable, but getting stuck in a guilt spiral doesn’t help anyone. What you can do is do better in the future, and learn from your mistakes.
It’s also important to acknowledge that the person you were toxic to doesn’t owe you anything. Not forgiveness or even a chance to be heard out. But this doesn’t mean you deserve to punish yourself forever.
You’re allowed to forgive yourself. You’re allowed to move. You can’t change the past but you can change your future. And you can grow and do better.
one of the best tips for Real Life that I’ve ever picked up is to always highball your estimate whenever someone asks you “when can you get this done by” by about 25% (if you can get away with it). that way, if it ends up being harder than you thought, you’ve got extra time to figure things out and if you were right about how much time it takes then you get to look like an absolute genius instead of just a simply competent person.
what you may not have realized is that I learned this crucial piece of life advice from an episode of Star Trek where Scotty is telling Geordi that whenever he told Kirk something on the Enterprise was at full capacity, it was always only ever a notch or so below full capacity so that Scotty looked like the god of all engineers when he was able to magically hack the warp drive to run a little beyond what he’d told everyone else was “full capacity” and honestly that one throwaway gag from Star Trek has changed my life.