#why can't people just be satisfied that they got to look at tom hiddleston again?

[juliabohemian]

FYI: I am not arguing with ANYONE about LOKI. Period.

I’ve spent enough time doing academic writing, asserting research findings, and debating about real world issues to know that people who invite you to convince them of your beliefs do NOT actually want to be convinced. 

They want to draw you into an exhausting back and forth in order to give themselves the illusion of control over your beliefs. Because the fact that you exist and believe something that they don’t like is just too much for them.

I will admit, I used to waste my time arguing with people about fandom related shit. Because I like to debate about things. I’m good at it.

But if I have learned any lesson from LOKI it’s that being good at something doesn’t necessarily mean that you enjoy it or that it is the right thing to do.

In real life, I am usually dealing with facts and data. These things do not need to be debated (or shouldn’t need to be debated, rather). They speak for themselves. They transcend opinion. Many of my fandom related opinions are a product of my life experience (I’m guessing I’m a good deal older than most folks in the Loki fandom) as well as my professional expertise in relation to education, human behavior, and child development.

Despite all that, I cannot convince a person to agree with my opinion, any more than Loki could convince Sylvie not to kill Kang. Because only people whose formative experiences are similar to my own will be able to draw similar conclusions. I have never been to war. There are things that only a person who has been to war can know. I would not expect a person who has been to war to argue with me about what that experience is like.

The next time you find yourself reblogging a fandom-related post you disagree with, so you can bullet point everything you think is wrong with the OP’s opinion and then invite them to “prove” their opinion to you, ask yourself what it is that you REALLY want. What are you REALLY hoping for? Do you want to be convinced? CAN you be convinced? If the answer is no, don’t reblog it. Go find something else to do, something constructive.

#not arguing with anyone about loki #I don't care about loki's sexuality or gender identity because it is completely irrelevant to his actual story #I don't care that loki kissed a girl #he could kiss croki for all I care #Loki made meaningful connections with multiple people why does it have to be about sex or romance? #why can't people just be satisfied that they got to look at tom hiddleston again? #why do people feel so much entitlement to fictional characters? #juliabohemianrant #juliabohemian #I just want him to be okay