#which would be insane because. yknow. someone following you doesnt mean they automatically see every single thing you post?

[gibbearish]

inside you there are two wolves. one of them knows it's shitty to expect people to be Good Victims™ and express frustration Correctly™ so as not to offend those who haven't personally harmed them. the other knows that all the sound theory in the world won't make people like or want to listen to you when you are mean to them. you are very tired of reading vague guilt trippy posts about how people should've known about something sooner

#i guess this is in light of recent events but lets be real guilt tripping ppl for that is pretty much a staple of this site #'i see yall not reblogging this' no you very specifically don't #youre acting like you have a checklist of all your followers and are going through it checking if theyve reblogged the #reblog if youre not a homophobe post #which would be insane because. yknow. someone following you doesnt mean they automatically see every single thing you post? #it's a meaningless statement because Not Reblogging Is The Default #you can't blanket assign values to the things people Don't post because that list is Literally Infinite because You Have No Way Of Knowing #What Posts They See #'i see yall not reblogging anything about xyz' like ok are you criticizing them for not following the kinds of people that discuss #things like that or do you legit assume that just because You talk about it and they follow you they Must have seen it and deliberately not #shared it due to bigotry #because if its the first one you know you can just say That right? #and if its the second i dont rlly know what to say there beyond You Are Not The Main Character #thats also why ive never really understood people adding onto hashtag hot takes with 'i just lost x followers because of this' #like it just comes across as i guess the same general concept of virtue signalling? not the right wing version but like the actual one #its like 'this take was so hot a bunch of bigots got mad and ran away‚ look how good my take is' #when its like . do you make before and after lists between each post and go and check the blogs of the people who left to see #that their politics are ones that would make them drop you over that #or did A Number that changes all the time happen to go down Around the same time you posted a thing and you assumed they must be related #like. yeah losing followers for things you post Happens and can be seen happening sometimes but like #on the scale of 'streamer loses thousands of followers after announcing she has a boyfriend' #not . a random tumblr blog losing a literal handful of followers #like. how often are you checking your follower count to be able to trace hyperspecific trends like that #and do you think maybe that obsession with follower count might have some affect on the way you treat other people #and like yes you /can/ learn a lot by looking at the full picture of what someone chooses not to address when given the option #but that works more in relation to like. politicians and rich people dodging questions about touchy issues or your friend refusing to #watch shows with female leads without saying anything directly bad about women #less so on social media. n even then its more 'u talk abt this group often but exclusively criticism‚ never neutral or positive stuff' #negative space is defined by whats around it‚ it cant be about the notes you don't play if you don't play Any notes to begin with #btw i want to be clear that i have been aware of the bans for a long time‚ so this isnt 'stop making me feel bad abt a bad thing i did:(('