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This is weird but! Do you have any tips for someone who wants to start wearing binders? I’ve wondered if I should start with a compression top first just to see how I feel about it? I can’t afford to invest in something that I won’t like/ won’t be able to wear due to comfort reasons ya know? Not in this economy

i have absolutely no idea where you live lmao BUT i would say there are definitely a few options so u can try on a binder without buying one first, or u can always return one that u try on & don’t like (just wear a thin tshirt underneath)

but ok so the first is that a lot of lgbtq centers will have binders or be able to connect you to local binder programs! there are more free / discounted binders out there than u might expect, which is awesome. i can’t specifically help w this but if u hmu off anon i could

secondly most queer sex stores have binders that u can try on. again, age & location dependent, but it can be a great fun & affirming space too

i think if u are able to get a binder thru an org, the policy will probably always be that u can return it to get a new size or style; most likely the same if you got it at a sex store.

for ordering, right now i would go with underworks for your first binder, their quality has stayed consistent & they last for a long time. make sure that you measure yourself properly before you buy or order anything, bc sizing doesn’t work like a bra or sports bra (you have to measure your shoulders & your chest to keep ur body safe). my org used to work w gc2b but there have been a ton of complaints from the community in the past few years; i know they’re “revamping” their QA but i’m not sure what that actually means lol. gc2b does have tons of skin color options for their nude binders, so hopefully the quality does legitimately improve bc i rly loved their stuff years ago. but yah for now i would say underworks is probably ur best bet for a comfortable(ish) binder

other basic safety stuff — don’t bind for over 8 hours, make sure you break up binding with both rest, & if you’re able, gentle movement (transyogateacher on ig has a wonderful series for chest & shoulder relief). w a s h your binder omg lol. a binder is an undergarment so you should wash it every time you wear it, like underwear, but at least every other time. you can wash it with dish soap or a small blob of detergent l & hang dry, so it’s v quick & will help ur skin stay healthy! (plus, less gross). if u wear a binder during sport or movement, be sure to wear a size up. & most importantly if ur binder starts to hurt, take it off

if u want some help connecting to a local free or discounted binder program & ur in the US i can definitely help, if ur not in the US i can do my best to help lol so lmk!

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st0ned-butch-blues · 5 years

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heppy twenty (bi)neteen :o

lmao I was too depressed to use tumblr this year, but I’m back on my bullshit just in time for the new year :) this is gon’ be my year !!!

~2019 Resolutions~

Mental Health Goals

Get a comprehensive psychiatric evaluation (or neurocognitive testing or whatever it’s called lol) done. At the very least, get tested for ADHD and possibly get medicated for it.

Seek help and ask for support when you need it. Friendships are built on mutual support, you are not being a burden. Become comfortable crying in front of other people.

Try to not just survive, but find ways to be genuinely happy at Colby. Make your last year at Colby the first happy one.

Document one moment of happiness every day. Stitch this together into a video at the end of the year.

Make an active commitment to ugliness. Accept that because of your BDD, you will never be happy with your body and that is okay. Your worth is not tied to your beauty, and your crippling body insecurities are doing nothing but holding you back. De-value beauty as a political act of resistance. "Beauty" is gross, conformist, and associated w all sorts of nasty shit like ableism/racism/fatphobia/gender binaries. Fill your social media feeds with diverse bodies, and especially bodies that reflect your own.

Physical Health Goals

Overall, cultivate a better relationship with your body.

Eat in a way to nourish your social, mental, and physical health.

Develop routines to take care of your health so that it’s not so overwhelming (stretch, exercise, eat healthy, stay hydrated, make a list of reliable coping mechanisms for rough mental health days).

Fix your sleep schedule, get at least 7 hours of sleep every day. If I’m feeling ambitious, maybe even try becoming a “morning person.”

Get STD testing.

Academic/Intellectual Goals

Make the most of your study abroad experience.

Don’t let your perfectionist impulses overwhelm you or else your procrastination will get out of control. Don’t ditch class or let late assignments pile up.

Be more organized, set aside time every day to make to-do lists and actually use your planner.

Declutter the photos, notes, drafts, etc in the storage of your phone and computer.

Prepare club agendas ahead of time during the summer.

Make sure you get help applying for an independent major so that you can actually graduate lol.

Build a portfolio. Make a list of projects you want to work on. Create more content in general (photo series, short videos, documentaries, podcasts, etc).

Consume more content. Read more books, watch more documentaries, and maybe start listening to podcasts.

Learn for the sake of learning and not for good grades. Become an engaged student again by participating more in class and asking “dumb questions.”

Force connections with professors outside of the classroom, attend office hours.

Nurture your creative side. Overcome singing anxiety, play around with poetry, and anything else that gets those creative juices flowin!

Continue reconnecting with your Korean heritage. Learn Korean, record interviews with family members, learn your mom’s recipes, and learn more about korean shamanism, queer korean history, etc.

Relationship Goals

Most of your problems stem from the root cause of loneliness. Find and cultivate queer community for yourself.

Prioritize fun! If you don’t have a fulfilling social life, it tends to negatively impact every other aspect of your life, so make sure you’re setting aside time to spend quality time w quality people.

Make a list of fun social activities to do w peeps. Essentially a “friend bucket list.”

Decorate your room next year and keep it clean so you can actually invite ppl over.

Be better about responding to messages/emails. Star important emails that are time-sensitive.

If you feel comfortable (but a v big “if”), POSSIBLY find a fwb and get good at sex cause you know you aren’t gonna see any of these fuckers after you graduate so hopefully that’ll make the prospect of sex less anxiety-inducing L O L.

Come out to mom and dad as either bi or queer by the end of the year.

Activism/Allyship Goals

After study abroad become pescatarian and reduce intake of dairy products. Source as much local/seasonal/sustainable food as possible.

Pay more attention to where your money goes and who you’re choosing to support with your dollar. Stop using Amazon. Only buy second-hand clothes from thrifting, Poshmark, Depop, etc.

Dedicate more of your activism energy towards learning how to become a better educator (esp to learn how to communicate w those who are apathetic, ignorant, or centrist).

Set aside 10% of your income for donations: 5% goes to direct crowdfunding posts, 5% goes to local nonprofit organizations

#personal #wow it's almost 5 am and I'm rlly out here writing new year's resolutions instead of sleeping or packing for my flight tom #r i p

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