#this is why I think the aggrandization thing is not a good substitute either

[yampidimp]

I feel like one of the reasons some people self deprecate as a way to attention-seek is that it’s frowned upon to just ask people to give you attention

I remember talking to my friends from a few years ago and whenever I was directly like “hey I am having a really bad time and I would really like to spend some time with you guys right now because it would help” it seemed to make them uncomfortable or they were just like “idk how to handle that bye”

Plus it’s very common for people to talk about wanting attention as if it’s a bad thing to want people to notice and interact with and love you. Yeah the methods are often not helpful but what can someone do except hide it behind something when wanting attention is considered bad and others will often judge them for needing that

#I don’t really talk to those friends anymore… #it’s not like I was asking for them to be my therapist or anything #I just said ‘this is why I’ve been reaching out a whole lot lately’ #‘would it be ok if we hung out more for a bit’ #and like you’re allowed to say no it just hurt that they seemed upset by me just asking #but anyway yeah #this is why I think the aggrandization thing is not a good substitute either #because if you are saying these things as a cry for help then you’re still hiding it behind something #but I get it because sometimes if you actually communicate what you want directly people just. leave