#theyre not 'queer' theyre just friends who enjoy each others company most

[zebruh]

yall on tumblr will describe things that tons of cishet people I know irl do and be like "this is so queer and subversive #queerlife" and I just. yall really dont do anything but watch cable tv and think that's real life

#vwitty banter #i know two cishet women who live together and raised their children together while being married to two separate men #theyre not 'queer' theyre just friends who enjoy each others company most #and yes i do know for a fact that theyre not bi or polyam theyre jsut cishet #then i know cishets who do polyamory #polyamory isnt l g b or t #its just polyamory #and i know all these kinds of people because my grandma grew up with them #q slur

[queerloquial]

1. describe your idea of a perfect date

well i mean ‘we exist in the same space and enjoy each others company‘ is already 12/10, but go out to lunch at a favorite place, maybe take a walk afterwards holding hands. or maybe something just quiet and at-home, like playing a video game together and following it up with ordering pizza and watching netflix

im a very low-effort date, tbh

3. do you want kids?

nO. i am terrible with kids. animals i can deal with, i can understand them for the most part, kids have way too much variation

5. describe the cutest date you’ve ever been on

the first one that comes to mind is when we just went to the mall and walked around holding hands and hung out in one of the seating areas just texting each other

i rly like holding hands ok

7. are you a morning time gay or night time gay?

i am not a person before 1 pm at the earliest

9. opinion on brown eyes?

theyre cool i guess. no strong feelings one way or another

11. would you ever date someone who owned rodents or reptiles?

theyre not dogs so i am 100% down (which probs sounds weird considering squid owns a dog and lives with three others currently but i dont have a great history with dogs y’feel me?) rodents are super adorable and reptiles seem p chill spiders n stuff, thats where i draw the line tho. if its got more than 4 legs i want it nowhere near me

13. what is a misconception you had about lgb people before you realized you were one?

well i was raised conservative christian so i think that implies a lot of things

15. (if attracted to more than one gender) do you have different “types” for different genders?

idek my guy, its hard to tell when youve been attracted one person whos just happened to id with different genders at different times

17. night club gay or cafe gay?

cafes are calmer and i can buy eclairs, they win

19. video game gay, book gay, or movie gay?

video games all the way

21. favourite gay youtuber

i dont actually knowingly follow any. im just on youtube for asmr videos these days

23. have you ever been in love?

yEs, i am in love right this moment~ i think its getting close to 2 years since i first developed a crush, and our anniversary is just under 4 months away :3

25. how do you determine if you want to be them or be with someone

well first of all i dont feel attraction until ive been close friends with someone for a long time, so theres that second, wanting to be/be like someone is usually aesthetically based for me, while attraction is geared more towards ‘this person has a great personality and i love being around them’, their looks are never a factor in that sense

27. what is a piece of advice you have for young / baby gays

the first thing coming to mind is ‘dont feel like u have to hold to like, a life schedule of dating by X age, serious by Y, engaged/married by Z’. like straight people tend to date in high school and be engaged/married in their early 20s, and it can feel weird if u dont follow that schedule no matter what your reason(s), but like. its not a bad thing to wait until youre comfy/safe/have the opportunity to get into relationship things at your own pace. dont force yourself to live the way other people are, youre just gonna make yourself miserable

29. what is the most uncomfortable / strange coming out experience you have

every time my bestie tells someone im ace/agender. like, just bc she trusts them with her own orientation doesnt mean i necessarily trust them with mine, esp bc shes a pan cis woman and ive got so many labels and fine-print modifiers i can really only be described as ‘queer’ without going into a two-hour lecture with powerpoint presentation on the realities of gender, attraction, and expression. like ok they accept ‘mainstream lgbt’ identities, but whats their opinion on ace-specs and aro-specs? nonbinary people? nb people who dont align with male-ish or female-ish genders? am i now going to be subjected to uncomfortable questions on my gender/transition thoughts? its shitty and sometimes i almost regret coming out to her tbh

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