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bobcathoneybee · 3 years

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that’s some next level catering to a yt person. reasons will become more clear as we go along for the ride. esp hurtful bc of everything going on in the last year alone. twinkie never rang more true until this year.

one. around xmas 2020:

“whatre you doing for nye”

“oh im going out to a small gathering”

“oh with who?”

“I DONT HAVE TO TELL YOU”

“whoa. okay...”

i was just asking since he NEVER wanted to go out to anything related to NYE in the five years. the reply was always, “YOU can go, i will be at home.” so see how i can be confused? also the spanish/grapes tradition? what happened to never not doing it? “oh last year really sucked so i dont see how doing it will help” cop out.

two. NYE to ring in 2021:

“how does this look?”

“i think you should button it, looks more put together”

little did i know i was helping him dress to impress new girl. that in itself was just rude and so disrespectful to me. if you’re going to see someone new. figure it out yourself.

a few days later he decides to finally tell me bc he knows he’s been acting so damn weird. but i dont think it’s bc he respects me too much (his rationale). i actually think it’s bc he feels guilty, and telling me will make HIM feel better, which was the driving factor for the previous Oct when he was not letting me pay for packing supplies and helping me pack. “it’s time (for me to start dating again)... weren’t you dating someone when you asked me about the boat noodles?” “NO. i was talking to someone and it was ONE date, which conveniently fit in the schedule while on my way home.”

three. a week before my bday:

“how was your weekend? what did you do?”

“oh K and family drove down in an RV so i was at my parents’ house”

“you went over both days?!”

“yeah”

“did you take pics of the RV or with family?”

“no”

in retrospect, i wonder if she was intro’d to the whole family that weekend. esp after seeing the pics from first friends gathering a few weeks later (two down).

sometime this week, he tells me that he’s thinking of taking june 1 off bc he wants to take me out to lunch for my bday. my bday is 5/31. so i’m like huh, cos it’s the day after. it’s the weekend. he doesn’t like to talk to ppl on the weekend.

four. my birthday:

bcb calls me in the morning but i miss it bc i wasn’t up yet. i called back at 230p or so and he doens’t pick up. calls me back around 430p and says he was at a bbq with some friends.

i believe this was when my spidey senses started tingling again. i bit my tongue and didn’t ask during lunch the next day bc it would make for such an awkward ride home. and me thinking oh he spent my actual birthday with new girl. i see.

five. convo from last week:

“whatre you doing this weekend?”

“oh i’m getting together with the guys bc it’s the first time we’re seeing each other since the pandemic started”

“ohh okay tell them i said hi!”

BET HE DID NOT TELL THEM I SAID HI. *side eye

six. social media that night, pics happened to pop up as i was doom-scrolling:

bcb likes to untag himself in things so i duno if R tagged him at all or if it was removed after he received the tag notif so that i wouldn’t see it.

either way, i was hit in both places since it’s posted on more than one platform.

wasn’t sure if they were still dating until i saw the pics. was finally able to put a face to the name. the name bc someone mentioned it to me thinking i knew her first AND last name. how absurd. why would i know this bit of info to begin with? maybe bcb needs to be more clear with what he’s telling his sibling about his dating life and how that relates to how he’s treating me.

seven. thursday, 6/17:

convo #1: in the afternoon -

“hey whatre you doing friday?”

“i’m not sure yet, why?”

“i’m having lunch with a family friend, thinking i could stop by (before my family dinner) since i’ll be in the area.”

“oh i was thinking of going to my parents house but i haven’t decided yet.”

“oh, okay”

convo #2: on my way home from dinner in the city -

“did you decide if you’re going to your parents house tmrw?”

“i’m probably going to hang out with some friends”

“oh okay.”

realized “friends’ is codeword for new girl.

oddities in behavior:

bought a new bike even tho he won’t use the rowing machine he purchased last summer that is LITERALLY sitting in his apt, doesn’t even need to go outside and see ppl. how many more times will he use it? not sure. it depends on how much how big the drive in proving me wrong is for this sort of thing.

watches hockey now. NEVER watched it before nor was he super interested. seems like he picked it up recently so there’s something to talk about if nothing else. (after breaking his NYE tradition)

went to a playoff game on a WEEKDAY. HE NEVER did that. to DRIVE to LI on a weekday for that sort of thing. complained that the tix were exp ($200+ each). and i’m like then why did you get them? “well they’re for the playoffs” “oh i didnt think you even liked hockey” i’m going to guess he paid for it bc someone wanted to go, and a topic they can connect on.

for trips and tickets to things, i usually split down the line and exclude a trip dinner or a few smaller things bc he says he got it and would like to pay for it. not sure yt ppl would offer to pay back in general. it’s an asian thing to offer/not let others always cover no matter how generous we know them to be. it’s to “not take advantage” bc we know better. and it’s considered rude to have someone else pay all the time.

at this point, it’s the emotional part that i’m supplementing (if it’s a missing piece) bc i have no idea if hes ever talked to her in regards to concerns about his life in general or if he’s still putting up some facade and only wants her to see the presentable side.

he didnt do his usual NYE tradition of the grapes this year on top of GOING OUT to something with other ppl present. he would rather invite ppl over to his place and provide entertainment and food instead of ever going out there. that is MAJOR.i cannot even begin to explain how impt doing this is to him. but not doing it and bending over backwards already. he NEVER misses the grape thing during the countdown no matter how “bad” a year may be. it’s like him having to watch it’s a wonderful life before xmas every year. it’s a thing he does NOT miss.

maybe it’s a mid-life crisis thing, like buying the car and then sort of regretting it bc it’s another thing to pay for so therefore has to stay at his job longer. btw, there were weird crumbs in the crevices of the front passenger seat the day after my birthday (when he picked me up), and then the whole actually voluntarily hanging out with ppl for a change. he absolutely hates being around ppl, yet he’ll do it for her. i’m sensing a pattern here for how he treats and changes for yt girl vs me and i didn’t even plan that many outings with my own friends for him to go to, max once every half year for a triple date.

but again, it’s like when we broke up, he removes things he can control when he’s super stressed. job he cannot control so the next thing to remove was me bc he can control that. now he’s finally thinking of leaving current job bc he has a sufficient amount saved. guess who helped him itemize and estimate his sinking and emergency funds? such a clown.

i’m done. i can’t do this anymore. it’s taking a toll on my mental health. all this walking on egg shells all the time when we speak on the phone/FT on every single workday/weekday. what C said about the situation rings true. i hope it happens. <^>

this brings me back to something i posted on my finsta:

“if you have to choose between me and her, choose her. because if you really loved me, there wouldn’t be any other choice.”

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petekaos · 4 years

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hey bro! how r u? am here today to ask ur thoughts on wyel. i might have set the bar high and now i expect a lot haha from what i've seen - and given the fact it's korean - i wouldn't erase the possibility of a bromance. but bro am i going to kill someone if they don't gimme development,, at this point i can even deal w bromance only, but i hope they won't villainize the woman and make everyone jealous. we only got 80min, give us fluffy and a well written woman character :'( - emo sis

bro, btw, there's something on my mind recently. i remember some time ago u said it would be nice to brightwin to step back from being sarawatine (smth along those lines). at that time i wasn't sure i knew why, so i just kept the info. now, after seeing brightwin and bright only 2gether reaction w jennie i am thinking bout how much they love their characters and also how close they are. i feel like win drew a clear line; he often said "tine, not win" to reinforce THAT was his character.+

on the other hand, when bright was alone he didn't seem to mind about drawing lines. he would say he was sad for wat, then he would explain what wat's feeling. if someone asked "why did u [wat] do smth" he would not draw a line as to say "i'm not him". maybe bc he doesn't care bout how others perceive this, maybe bc this is clear enough for him. nway this got me thinking, what was it that made u say they needed to step back? what details did u observe? /emo sis

hiiii my friend! i’m doing okay, how about you? so first off, where your eyes linger. i really think it’s a good show so far with the limited amount of screentime, the characters are all likable and well-written, the chemistry between the boys is off the charts, and the scenes are all well shot! honestly, it wouldn’t really bother me if it was “just a bromance” because as you said, all i want is some character development and a well written woman character. so far i’ve been liking her and i think this could go in a good direction, i don’t have too many expectations or anything, but i do think this show is very well done so far in terms of production and acting alone. we shall see how it goes, however!

and yeah, i did say that! i think i mentioned that i hoped bright specifically could take a break from being sarawat, although i definitely do think win could also benefit from trying out other roles generally. i think the big difference is in the fact that you already pointed out--win tends to separate himself and tine a bit more than bright separates himself from sarawat, leading to win being a bit more detached from tine when he’s not actively playing him, which can lessen the emotional toll it takes on someone once they need to bid farewell to their role. the thing about win and bright is that their characters are very similar to them, and these roles are their first breakthrough roles. i don’t think anyone could have predicted 2gether’s fame and success, no matter the polarised opinions on the finale.

so, it makes sense that they get attached to their characters, and i think win is a bit more clear about the separation of himself and tine, which is why he always refers to tine as “he” and not “i” as bright does sometimes and as many other actors do. however, the reason i said that is because of the fact that win and bright are just so... similar to their characters. it can be good, because it’s easier to access and portray certain emotions, but especially in bright’s case, it can take a huge toll on the person. bright, for example, always gets into sarawat’s character really quickly, and you remember that one breakup scene where he almost cried at the thought of sarawat and tine breaking up? yeah. it affects you deeply and it becomes hard to separate yourself from the character, especially when they’ve changed your life in such a pivotal way. he’s also mentioned in jennie’s reaction video to the finale that sarawat taught him how to love a man, essentially, and that both sarawat and tine led him to the realisation that he couldn’t necessarily call himself straight. he also truly knows sarawat down to the bone, thinking about aspects of his character as well as his emotions pertaining to specific tine-centric scenes. these are all signs of an outstanding and empathetic actor, but when a character you play gets so much international recognition and has changed your life in exceedingly personal ways, the lines start blurring. win has realised this in some way or another, i think, and i believe he’s also taking a step away from tine. i just would like for them to spend some time away from their characters, because they just are so similar and it’s too easy to lose yourself in that, take it from personal experience. this is not to say that sarawat and tine have been bad for them in any way, or that they should never play them again. i think the boys could benefit from a good break before settling back into their roles if necessary.

those are just some of my baseline thoughts on that, generally! i hope this could provide some kind of insight into why i think that. i hope you’re doing well! <3

#i'm sorry if this is a bit all over the place fsnfh i can't seem to be able to focus #rahul answers #emo sis anon #always so nice to hear from you!!! love sharing more of my Analytical Thoughts w you and getting to read your opinions! <3

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gilmoregirlsbigbrother · 5 years

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DREW’S JURY Q&A

Clash

What did you do other than just follow Dan?

LOLLLLLLL I don't think I followed Dan for any of the game. He and I absolutely worked closely together, along with Andrew, but calling Dan the leader and Andrew and I his followers is a huge stretch. We won our HOH comps and kept each other safe, we held our shit down, and made it work until the end. I saved Dan at the final four, and he saved me at the final three. As far as what I did without him, we had a whole ass alliance without him that fully ran the start of the game through the first couple rounds of jury. We also had the zwooper chat when we got here (which is more of a premade than anything Dan ever had btw, the word premade gets thrown around a LOT more often than it should) that gave me a stronger connection to you, and got me info about Nick's game. Like I said in my opening statement, I'm not gonna come here and try to argue some strategic mastermind strategy that ran the game start to finish, but one thing I never was was a mindless follower. Thank you.

Karen

What do you guys really think made you get to the end? The “strategy” that y’all played or the fact that everyone sucked infinitely more at challenges than both of you that you really had no competition. Also when did u think was the point in the game in which you guys knew you were making the end?

The challenges were a huge part of it, sure, like you know me as a player, I've never been shy about putting up for a challenge and using it as advancement in the game. In the endgame, absolutely the challenges had a lot to do with it. But I didn't win every challenge, I had to be able to depend on a trio that was just as serious about going to the end together as I was. But I also didn't get put up for Liana's hoh, or nick's, or adrian's, or clash's, or sammy's. Like I won't claim it to be genius strategy bc you also know that I'm always more than willing to own when I didn't put a whole heap of effort into something, but it was enough for the situation at hand, and honestly was probably still more effort than most.

I knew I wanted to go to the end with Dan and Andrew when I voted out Clash over nick bc until then I hadn't decided which path I was gonna take. I knew we were fully capable of powering to the end once Sammy left. I wasn't positive it was going to happen until I won F4 veto and knew I was voting out liana bc there is always room late game for one person to change their mind and push someone out the door. I trusted it wouldn't happen before that point but you never know for certain in these games until it's real and the post is coming out. As far as me and Dan specifically, this wasn't my ideal F2, as much as I love Dan, I would've taken Andrew bc that was the promise I made at the start of the game. So I didn't know this was happening until I lost part 3 of HOH.

Nick

Throughout most the game you were a non-factor and it wasn’t until final 7 that you decided to win a competition. You said you didn’t want to be backdoored and you wanted to do stuff in the game without becoming a target until final 7 and that sounds great... but you then targeted me of all people which simply is what the house wanted. I want to know why you decided to go after me because I don’t really accept the fact you think I didn’t trust you... I told you about my power before Clash who was my final 2 and you know I had nobody. So were you a bit clueless that I was that alone or were you just kinda going with the flow? And don’t talk or mention your threat level going in because to me that’s a terrible reason as to why you should win considering you didn’t display any sort of threat level gameplay all season. Your game didn’t match so don’t try “I’m Drew so I should win” on me because I don’t really like that one either. Make me want to respect your overly loyal game because to me coasting and being loyal can overlap and I am debating which one applies to you.

Okay so I'm Drew so I should lose??? Like??? You can say my game didn't match all you want but if I'd come in here trying to be HOH every other round when there were enough people here who know what it's like to play with me when I go on an immunity tear, I wouldn't be here. These are just facts. As for why I targeted you? You were targeted at F7 because by the final seven, you were the only one left who wasn't in either of the alliances that were in effect for basically the entire game. This "it's what the house wants so it can't also work for me and I shouldn't do it" mentality is small and in no way applicable to every round, and I'm a part of the house too. You may have trusted me and I thank you for that, but we hadn't been playing the game together in any meaningful sort of way for a long time, we barely talked votes, and I had no viable reason to keep you here. It wasn't being clueless or going with the flow, it was just my call and I made it. And as disappointed as you probably were to go home on the HOH of someone you trusted and wanted to work with, that doesn't leave me with any obligation to keep you if that's not the path that I also wanted to walk. As far as your last question, that overlap is gonna depend on where you fall on liking me slash my game, pure and simple. It's always the case that likeability colors everything jurors think they see and believe. If someone wins their way to the end, if you like them then it's amazing and they put in so much effort and they deserve it, if you don't like them then it's you wouldn't be here without your immunities. If someone flipped sides on votes a lot, if you like them then they're a strategic genius who was always making their life in the game better, if you don't like them then they're a fucking snake and they've lost all your respect bc they were loyal to nothing. And if someone chose their allies early and made the decision to stick with them to the end of the game regardless of who else might have wanted to work with them, and they were able to get to the end together, if you like them then it's a supremely loyal style of gameplay, if you don't like them then they coasted to the end without really needing to try. The call on which side of that coin this flip lands on isn't up to me, it's yours. I wish you luck making it.

Andrew

Hello gentleman. I love you both and I am beyond happy that our solid alliance of 3 made it to the end, but I do have some things to say. And since I’m an ugly, pretentious English major and I actually did care greatly about this game, this is gonna be a longer read. The issue is, I have come to find entering the jury that I was getting votes, but now those votes for me have to be oddly dispersed between you two in an environment where people are finding some big flaws in both of your games (and yes I am humble bragging that I could have very well won because I generally suck at BB and my best BB placement before this was 9th so let me have this moment).

Drew. I’d still like to believe you would have brought me to the end, but there’s no way to tell now so I’m not going to focus on that. What I AM going to focus on is the fact that multiple times throughout the game, you implied that you didn’t really care about the game all that much and were really just there for Dan and I. Now, while I do LOVE that you basically did anything we said, I’m not sure if that constitutes a vote for you from me - so if you want to defend yourself on that point then now would be the time. A part of me really doesn’t want to reward that behavior. And before you say, “well no one cared about the game,” I have myself, the guy you’re sitting next to, and some jurors that would say otherwise in a heartbeat. So why DO you deserve mine - or anyone’s for that matter - vote when you seemed to just do whatever Dan and I said and on the surface seemed to get lucky with the alliances you got sucked into early on? Yes, you aided in what was alliances were created during and after the crucial early Madison boot, but it wasn’t just you since Clash and I both had a pretty heavy hand in that as well. What did you do to not only separate yourself from Dan and other players that had their heads in the game that not just separates you, but puts you ABOVE in terms of all around gameplay?

I don't have a defense for that, and I'm not gonna try and hide anything behind pretty covers. There were absolutely times where I was only still playing the game because I hadn't been voted out yet, and not because I had a deep invested interest in being the winner of Gilmore Girls Big Brother. I didn't gather enemies or vendettas in this game so there were absolutely times I didn't have a personal stake in a decision because neither person staying affected me more than the other, and went with what my alliance wanted. I'm not gonna pretend I played some powerful singular game and that I was the best or the most dedicated or the social strategic legend or anything to say I played this game better than anyone on the jury and that there should be no question as to whether I deserve your vote. I knew what I wanted from a very early point in this game, and every decision that I made or agreed to was in service of that. You me and Dan at the final three, and you and me at the final two. If I went along with suggestions you made, or didn't have strong opinions of my own to provide, it's because it didn't matter to me which outcome happened because neither assisted or took away from my goals for this season. I didn't make big moves or flip any scripts or point to any players across the house and shout YOU'RE GOING HOME at them in angry old man voices. I would have if I'd needed to, but in order to get the outcome I wanted, I didn't need to. You and I both know what a winning resume looks like where a win is undeniable, and I don't have one this season. But I don't think Dan does either, and that's the choice you have to make. I fell short of my final goal for this season, but outside of that, accomplished everything I wanted in this season. Whether that ends with a win or a runner-up, I'm good. But to ultimately answer your question, I didn't do anything to singularly put myself above Dan or you, or really above any of the other jurors aside from actually getting what I wanted out of the season. And I'm asking for your vote anyway.

Adrian

Hi. Congrats to the both of you making it to the end of this game! As someone who was the first juror, I was gonna base my jury vote on the fact what other jurors said as they came in one by one, and that was a failed tactic. So I am forced to ask you guys a question because everyone left is split down the middle...

Anyway, your question is: if you had to turn back the clock in this game and have a reset button... when would you use it and why?

Honestly wouldn't change a thing, there weren't any points in this game (aside from the final eviction) where there was an outcome that negatively affected me, so I'm good with how this all played out. I might go back and try to stop the whole Andrew/Randy situation before it got to the level it did, but that's about it.

Liana

What’s your favorite musical instrument?

Piano, I'm a basic choir boy and piano warmups always made me happy

Sammy

Do you think you were active this game if so rate your activity 1-10 and how well did you interact with other players. What was your original strategy coming into the game and did you continue it to the end or how did it change?

Oh my activity level was a solid 4 prejury, maybe up to a 6-7 once like F8 hit. I think I interacted well enough??? Enough to not make enemies and to ultimately have more people wanting to work with me than people I wanted to work with, which is the goal. Honestly my strategy coming into the game was to go far with Andrew and to use the Karen Madison vote as a galvanizing point to shape the game and drive everything forward. I would never claim to be the sole driving force or anything behind it, but it's exactly what happened, and by then the trio was fully committed so I shifted to that and that went to the end

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