#stop talking like someone who'd tell swishy gay guys that it's their fault homophobia still exists

[obstinatecondolement]

I am still in my feelings about that "I didn't transition to look like Elliot Page: I wanted to look like Hank Hill" thing because like?? Very fucking rude to Elliot Page first of all?? What the fuck is the subtext here? That he doesn't look enough like a "real" man and is some kind of dilettante who we shouldn't take seriously until he mans up, or something?

Also like... as far as I know Page is not attracted to men, but it feels vaguely homophobic? "I want to be a Normal Straight Man who looks like a Regular Guy not a fucking [slur redacted]" Like fuck off? And it had so many notes! How is policing the gender presentation of other transmasc people being so roundly fucking applauded, oh my god.

#like I've also been seeing a lot of transition timeline stuff where the subtext seems to be #'oh wow when he started out he was just a silly little girl trying to be an uwu smol bean elf prince #but thank god! now he's jacked and has a big beard! a real man!' #dude!!!! #what your body looks like shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether or not you 'deserve' to be correctly gendered???? #I know guys who've been on t for years and have had top surgery and still do not pass even more than half of the time #and I know guys who passed as soon as they got a haircut and started shopping in the mens section #because of physiological factors beyond any of their fucking control! #even notwithstanding hrt and surgery! #I'm always going to be the height that I am #my hands and feet will always be small #even with body fat distribution changing my hips will always be wide #so if I still got misgendered after medically transitioning would it be because I just wasn't trying hard enough? #because that's what it fucking sounds like these people are saying #also! men don't stop being men if they don't style themselves like hank hill??? #stop talking like someone who'd tell swishy gay guys that it's their fault homophobia still exists #because they keep 'rubbing it in everyone's faces' #I hate you I hate all of you