#so i dm'd them and we had a seperate discord conversation for abt 2 weeks off and on that ended in them thanking me for my time and saying

[falled-over]

this one is abt me personally and i dont want to impose my ideals onto other people but i feel like my ally ship to communities i support and am not a part of does and should not include ex-communicating their detractors, but rather engaging with them in attempts to change their mind. it should not be the job of people within those communities to educate people who violently oppose them, and those violent opposers should not go without someone stepping in to speak to them compassionately. 

#like if someone is being racist literally whos job to change their mind #the people theyre being racist towards? absolutely not. #idk if this reads how i want it to #deciding to cut people off because they disagree with you on moral politics is your own choice ig #a few years back i talked to someone on here who was gender critical on the fast track to becoming a terf #but in their personal posts they talked abt gender in a way i remember talking abt it before i was as comfortable in it as i am now #so i dm'd them and we had a seperate discord conversation for abt 2 weeks off and on that ended in them thanking me for my time and saying #i had changed their mind #and like it wasn't exactly easy. of course it was emotionally distressing or whatever the fuck. but better me than no one at all right #they weren't a raging trans ally. i think they said they were still gender critical. but i had humanised trans women to them #and like its one person #but you never know #i do think that educating others is overlooked in ally ship these days and thats very selfish #actually i think abt that in the case of jk rowling. #i do think if twitter were less volatile it could have gone differently.