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Unfriendly, very sharp reminder that your identity does not actually preclude you from subscribing to oppressive, conservative worldviews. I see a staggering number of people who argue very conservative points, but they use progressive language, and have carved out a niche in their beliefs that allow them (and people exactly like them) to exist, so theyre totally progressive bro trust me.

If your beliefs about what rights people should have, who is allowed to exist in public, and what is "valid" to be are rooted in ANY way in your sense of disgust, propriety, politeness, or any other thing like that, instead of in carefully thought-out logic that is aware of the actual real world history and current state of human rights and how they are in jeapordy? You're not being progressive, you're being conservative, but this time the road is paved with extra double good intentions.

If real human diversity is to exist, if human rights are to become truly universal and inaliable, you are going to need to envision a world where you are made uncomfortable, and you will need to learn to be *glad* for that, because that discomfort will be a sign that your worldview is being expanded.

Using the language of consent, of civility, of fairness, of "common sense," to make points that boil down to "I just don't think people should x/y/z, I am uncomfortable with the idea of people being x where I can see it, I just think the bad ones should let the good ones set themselves apart," is violence. It is the very same tactics white liberals have been using for decades to argue down civil rights and human rights as disruptive, and thus bad.

Human beings fuck. We have kinky sex together. We eat food that you can't imagine enjoying. We talk in ways that sound like home to one of us and like nonsense to another. We look different than you. Act different than you. Believe things you find reprehensible. This is a good thing and should be celebrated.

if you think it is reasonable to ask any minority, even and especially another of your community, to be more presentable for our oppressors, or hide ourselves for the sake of the image of the "good ones," to be careful about "confirming the biases" of people who have always thought that x y z minorities are subhuman, then you have not actually done the work of unlearning the conservative rhetoric you were raised on, and you are poisoning the human rights movement as a whole.

Fight for a world that doesn't conform to you. It's the only way you'll know for sure that other people are allowed to exist as freely as yourself, and the only way to ensure you'll be allowed to be you, too.

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This is your regular reminder not to conflate top/bottom with dom/sub because the queer community does not need another goddamn gender binary, especially not from inside the fucking house

maybe reskinning cishetero gender roles with a coat of rainbow paint is not actually a good thing and inhereting the exact same stereotypes is bad and you shouldn't do it even as a joke! thanks

#problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic rants #problemnyatic thoughts #call it nitpicky but this shit has personally affected me and I have seen the shit idiot brain fungus it gives people #bottoms are all useless incapable pillow princesses who cant do anything lol!!! theyre just good for sex and whining #And tops make all the decision and also money and have all the life skills and are always arousing to the silly feminine bottoms #wow this is just ancient fucking man and woman sexism but you made it gay! die.

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Yeah you've divorced yourself form the idea of biblical sins, but have you also done the work of unlearning the idea that doing wrong, making a mistake, or causing harm renders someone an inherently bad or evil person unless they repent or are punished? You call yourself a prison abolitionist but do you still think that a given person may deserve more or less comfort, pleasure, safety , or autonomy in their life based on their actions? Yeah you've decided to be a progressive leftist now, but have you actually put in the work to genuinely unlearn the christian-borne ideals that linger in your worldview, regardless of where they come from or whether you consider yourself christian?

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so does putting "men dni" in your shit actually reduce the number of shitheads you get or does it just filter out the dudes who actually care about boundaries in the first place

#also what are the fucking polygender people supposed to do #do you just not want to have to deal with complicated genders?? or does my being a woman sufficiently ''invalidate'' my masculinity enough #because if that's how it is go fuck yourself all the way to hell #do you think men are just born nasty? or universally raised to be no exceptions? what do you think about trans men #look. you're allowed to curate your online experience however you want. I can't stop you #but the ways in which you do so say a lot about how you think about others #i understand that a lot of men get real fuckin nasty in asks and dms and whatever. I'm compassionate to that. #but do those kinds of men even give a shit about dnis??? #have you never been sexually harassed by a woman? i sure fucking have #I just don't fucking get it #i'm extremely nonbinary and deeply frustrated #thanks for letting me know i'm either inherently nasty to you or that pieces of me ''don't count'' for you to hate me. how fucking kind. #problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts

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I've said it before but seriously does "men dni" actually work to filter out shitty, boundry-pushing men or does it just filter out anyone you might find actually tolerable (due to, y'know, the respecting of your boundaries) while alienating every bi/gender/fluid person who sees your post/blog

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tiredly accepting that "tma" and "tme" are terms people are using even though I think that labelling people as "exempt" from an axis of oppression based on the magic of their identity is not the correct target is petty and misguided at best

#yeah yeah I know I know. I'm transfem i'm ''tma'' or whatever don't jump down my throat because i'm not in your shitty club #I just think maybe we need more solidarity and less rigid delineation of who's allowed to be hurt by bigotry. fucking sue me #problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts

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Queer person with an interesting and vivid identity lovingly cultivated from a garden of self-discovery and the beautiful and intricate lattice of contradictions that makes us all unique and indispensable to the tapestry of our shared culture: Hi, I-

Some crab-bucket maxxing identity cop who simply cannot sleep at night if even a single queer is not dumbing themself down for easy digestion by our oppressors: NOOOO YOU CAN'T DO THAT YOU CAN'T BE URSELF ITS AGAINST THE RULES

#some people will really identify as nonbinary and then demand other people put themself in strictly defined boxes Or Else #L‚ frankly #problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts

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if you hold any kind of belief that boils down to "no one takes me seriously because this similar group of people are joyful wrong" you are invariably the asshole and you need to figure out your priorities.

Maybe hold contempt for the people who hate you, not the people self-expressing differently than you. Chances are the same people giving you grief wouldn't actually respect you if the other guys changed (even if they say so) and actually hate those guys for the same reasons. And they will continue to hate you for the same reasons they hate those guys no matter how hard you try to differentiate yourself.

Giving credence to the closed-mindedness of your enemies is a stupid dipshit move for exploitable rubes and you should instead increase open-mindedness in the world. Seems like you're already hurting for some acceptance in the first place, maybe the solution isn't less of it?

#problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts #seriously over the brainworm of respectability politics #this guy was a dick to me. I HAVE to be a dick to someone else to win him over #maybe don't try to win that guy over and just be fucking nice. asshole #This isn't high school there is more than one cool kids table #and maybe the judgy table was never the cool kids in the first place #grow the fuck up and embrace the diversity of self-expression idiot #probpemnyatic rants #mumblr

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sobbing and pleading and begging the queer community to stop reinventing the fucking gender binary for every aspect of queerness

#problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts #this is about top/bottom this is about dom/sub this is about butch/femme #also butch is not just shorthand for ''wears jeans and a flannel'' or ''has muscles'' #Sometimes... people.... are multifaceted

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fnaf fans do not justify, excuse or try to lessen the impact of scott cawthon's political donations challenge (IMPOSSIBLE)

#they just cant help themselves #it's kind of insane #problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts

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man i know this is swinging a bat at the worlds angriest and most useless hornet's nest but i cant stop thinking about how ridiculous shipping discourse is. Babe if your activism and morality starts and ends at how other people consume fiction you're fully lost in the sauce. How is this your biggest concern. Like I know people can care about more than one thing but it just feels. SO asinine. even if you think that the way people ship or whatever IS a sign of like anything about their real actual life, why focus on the shipping and not... the actual things they have done, if there even are any. There are actual people doing things that cause harm right now in the physical world, like building oil pipelines through indiginous land and I promise it's a better use of energy to do something about local real-world issues than it is to get mad online at what media people use to unwind and how

#problemnyatic discourse #problemnyatic thoughts #problemnyatic rants #at what problemnyatic cost... #like at the end of the day you have to love the needy more than you hate their oppressors #go help the homeless folks in your area itll feel better. Volunteer or something #I cannot imagine giving that much of a shit about what other people ship or what they think about other people's shipping habits #yes i get the irony here as i Am Poasting about it but I just. see it so much. and people get SO into it #and I just. get left wondering. how do you live like that???? aren't you tired???????? does this not alienate people???? yeesh

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posing these tags separately because tbh i think this is something folks need to consider way more in general

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tbh the use of "wholesome" as meaning "nonsexual" rubs us the wrong way. I've had plenty of wholesome sex. The whole mode of sexual interaction we call "making love" exists and has a name, and I'd call it wholesome. It just feels puritanical to me to suggest that sexuality is inherently "unwholesome," or as is often paired with the word, "impure." It also feels kind of babying and demeaning. idk. I feel like you don't see this terminology as often anymore but I'm glad it seems to be dying from my vantage point. Good riddance.

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So at what point have you stopped "defending fat people from being fetishized" and started taking offense to people finding fat bodies attractive, including sexually, and even perhaps finding the fatness to be itself an alluring quality?

sexual attraction is not synonymous with fetishization! you must allow the former to exist without ascribing it to the latter otherwise you're really just fucking up the whole body positivity thing altogether

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I swear to god and hell and the wind that cusps the tender first leaves of the youngest trees if I have to keep seeing fucking

TAKES

about the ana mardoll thing on my dash.

#shut the fuck up everyone shut the fuck up none of you have good takes not a single goddamn one of you this is so annoying shut UP #EVERYONE'S TAKE IS SHIT. DISCOURSE SOLVED. POST ANYTHING THE FUCK ELSE. #No. I'm not posting my take. Not a single goddamn one of you can be trusted to have modicum of nuance about any of this. #I'm fucking exhausted stop making me think about this stop making me see it and for the love of all that is and ever has been #stop saying WORDS about it #FUCK. #mumblr #problemnyatic thoughts #discourse