#maybe a year later and with the benefit of hindsight I'm still resentful you told me you had no idea it was going to happen

[oriun]

"There's absolutely nothing anyone could've done to prevent/stop it, there's no way anyone could've even known" is not a blank statement you can apply to yourself when you knew someone had the intention, detailed plans, date, and sufficient means to do something and you just sat back and let it unfold. You can tell yourself that to feel better about yourself but it is objectively a lie, regardless of how I feel about it.

#I get these things are difficult but pls don't try to sell *me* that story #maybe a year later and with the benefit of hindsight I'm still resentful you told me you had no idea it was going to happen #a few days after I made very clear what was going to happen #and I can look past it but if you say something that reminds me of it. uh. no #like I can be ok w the fact that you didn't do anything... but don't try to make me feel like it came out of nowhere #and like nothing could've been done #because it could've and it was. just not by you #i am ok with what happened. just not the framing of it now #idk