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𝑨𝑬𝑴𝑶𝑵𝑫 && 𝑨𝑺𝑬𝑿𝑼𝑨𝑳𝑰𝑻𝒀

tl ; dr : he’s asexual but not sex repulsed , does find aesthetic attraction in other people , and only consents to sexual relationships with those he has a strong romantic attachment to ( good personality and strong intellect generally required ! )

i’m not usually one to make super long-winded meta posts about things , but being that this is something pretty important to me ( and also something i’ve noticed i’ve gotten a lot of questions about ) , i thought i’d give a go at discussing aemond && asexuality .

please note that some of the info i am about to dump on this topic is based solely off of my own experience , and the research i have done to discover my own identity. it is NOT meant to generalize the experiences of those on the ace spectrum ; it is simply meant to explain how this identity pertains to aemond , and how he experiences the world. :)

first and foremost : yes , aemond does have libido . he can and does become aroused , and does experience and enjoy physical pleasure. that is to say , he is not sex repulsed – meaning that he is not adverse to engaging in sexual activity , and as many of you know , can be rather enthusiastic about hitting the bedroom with his romantic partners. sometimes asexuality can be conflated with never having or wanting sex ( which CAN BE true in some a-spec identifying folks ! ) , but in aemond’s experience , this is not the case. it can be said , however , that his sex drive is low compared to others around his age.

with that in mind , let’s dive a little deeper : does aemond find others attractive ? the short answer : yes. the long answer : yes , but only to an extent. there are a series of traits that can be found in both men and women that aemond finds aesthetically pleasing , in the way that someone might find a certain painting style appealing , or might feel certain flowers are more beautiful than others. there is no sexual desire attached to this kind of attraction . so , for instance , aemond may look at alys rivers and think the dress she’s wearing is gorgeous on her , or that her eyes are the most beautiful he’s ever seen ; however , the fact that he’s found physical attributes about her which he is drawn to does not indicate any desire to have sex with her. let’s go back to the flower analogy : you might think a rose that you stumbled upon in a botanical garden is the most awe-inspiring thing you’ve ever seen , but you don’t want to fuck it. aemond is like that , but with people , too.

it is here that i will briefly note : personality and intellect are far more attractive to aemond than any physical attribute will ever be , especially when considering a potential partner !

so under what circumstances does aemond get it on ? a great question ! if you are familiar with the term ‘ demisexual ’ , that would be a pretty good way to think of it ( though i would characterize aemond as being so far on the extreme end of disinterested in sex , asexual is the more apt identifier in my opinion ) ! in plain terms : aemond will enthusiastically consent to sexual relations with those he has formed a deep ( romantic ) connection to . for the one-eyed prince , LOVE AND SEX are deeply and inherently connected ; all that to say , he could have love without sex , but he could not have sex without love . i would attribute some of this to the values and belief systems he was raised with , but i will also say that , considering the world which he lives in , aemond has an overall pretty progressive view on sex. if a man can have women outside of marriage without repercussion , why then should it be any different for a woman ? while he might have no interest in any of this himself , he does not externalize his views and experiences on others by any means.

and finally , i want to address this : in your headcanon , did aemond lose his virginity at the age of 13 as is implied by the show ? i think you can guess my answer , and it is NO . yes , aegon did take aemond to the brothel on his thirteenth name day , and yes , aemond did go to a room with one of the working girls that night. he won’t lie to you , he was curious at first , and the girl which was selected for him by his brother was indeed very pretty , but when she dropped her robe , straddled his lap , and asked the sweet little prince what he wanted , aemond promptly responded , ❛ 𝐈 𝐖𝐎𝐔𝐋𝐃 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐑𝐄𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐍 𝐓𝐎 𝐌𝐘 𝐒𝐓𝐔𝐃𝐈𝐄𝐒 , 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐈 𝐖𝐎𝐔𝐋𝐃 𝐋𝐈𝐊𝐄 𝐌𝐘 𝐏𝐄𝐑𝐒𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐒𝐏𝐀𝐂𝐄 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐍 𝐌𝐎𝐑𝐄 . ❜ the girl was duly compensated for her time ( which she mostly spent bored out of her mind as aemond recounted his current studies to her ) , and to this day aegon still doesn’t know the truth about that night.

so yeah , that’s it , that’s the post. if you’ve made it this far , thank you for reading ! as i said before , this is very personal to me ; asexual characters are not easy to find in general , but especially in a series rife ( and often gratuitous ) with sex. i think this is part of what attached me to aemond so quickly , and i’m so glad that all of the lovely people that i’ve spoken to so far have embraced this aspect of him and have been so willing to learn and work with me to develop some amazing plots && dynamics ! so thanks again , and outside of an ic response , i swear you’ll never hear me talk about anything this much ever again !

#ooc. 𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐖𝐁𝐄𝐑𝐑𝐘 𝐂𝐎𝐖 𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐇𝐔𝐒𝐈𝐀𝐒𝐓 ━━━━━ 𝐦𝐮𝐧 𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐬.#iv. ♛ 𝑻𝑯𝑬 𝑺𝑷𝑨𝑹𝑬 ━━━━━ ℎ𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛.#ngl i'm a little nervous posting this #pls be gentle on me —#this is just my interpretation of things !!!#and i fully respect differing opinions on this !!!

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