#its not okay to misgender people i dont give a fuck if you're trans

[electriccenturies]

...why... why has the mcr fandom suddenly decided it's okay to call ppl slurs???

the misgendering is old news by now but the constant f*g f*ggot f*g f*g is new and AWFUL. it is NOT progressive or okay??? you get to reclaim it for YOURSELF, it is still a slur if you say it about others!!!! especially about ppl who have specifically asked you to not speculate or talk about their sexuality... and ppl who have almost certainly had that word used to hurt them.

like i cant speak about fr*nk or r*y but the w*y bros have both talked about people thinking they were gay in high school and being bullied for it. the 90s were NOT like now, it was not SAFE. that is also why ppl call m*key GNC btw since ive seen ppl complain about that. yeah what he wore is p normal NOW, but it was not back then??? you can't just remove context from things??? so yeah, m*key wearing super tight girls jeans and eyeliner and doing whatever the fuck he did to his hair back then (and even just being openly touchy feely with dudes??? like those heychris pics) WAS gnc in 2005. so, so wild to me how people have latched on to g*rard being the "true f*g of the band" or whatever when m*key was also pretty openly doing gay shit too. it says a lot about what people actually care about: making g*rard a paper doll to project onto — he was talking about YOU!!!! — rather than actually being excited to have successful, gnc, probably lgbt icons like that.

i just dont get how people can convince themselves they're being Good People and treating LGBT people well while they act like this. like trans is not a slur, she is not a slur, but it is 100% misgendering to call someone trans or she/her if they have never asked you to??? why is okay to misgender g*rard as a 'joke' but not misgender YOU?

it's because you treat transness as a joke, sorry!

#i have blocked so many ppl for calling g*rard a girl/trans/transfem/she/a f*g that theres barely anything left to see #I truly dont know what to say to ppl who think thats okay... how can they claim to 'love' and 'respect' g*rard #while blatantly violating his wishes? he has said over and over to STOP forcing labels on him #its not okay to misgender people i dont give a fuck if you're trans #its not okay to force ANY label on real human people or to call them slurs??? WHAT?!?! idk how this fandom got so twisted #g*rard has made it super fucking clear that his identity is none of our business and if he IS trans he clearly doesn't want to come out #(he's also clarified what he meant by he/they but ppl who take 'i identified WITH girls' as 'I identify AS a girl' dont care about that) #like ive said this before i think but believing he legit uses he/they pronouns also means that you think his brother and friends dont care #enough about him to do it since they ONLY ever use he when refering to g*rard #if he actually asks for smth then yeah of course ppl should respect it! but he HASN'T and he's straight up done the opposite #u think he's gonna ever feel safe coming out now that his words have been twisted and ppl think its cool to call him a trans woman? #idk its just Gross. it is the exact opposite of progressive and kind #think whatever u want like i have a Theory about a member of MCR but u know what? i dont fucking TELL people unless they bring it up first #and then only in DMs!!! #keep it to yourself if you have to talk about it!!!!! #im bitter about how ive been treated btw but i am trans positive... just not cool with THIS version of the 'trans community' #just if anyone was gonna throw that at me... i want changes but i do very much want trans ppl to be able to transition... ANYWAY

[cantstopkillingtime]

hey! just noticed things were getting a bit heated with that issue about the loki thing. i haven't seen loki so i don't really care about the foundation of the argument, but as i trans guy i would warn against calling any person who disagrees with you "transphobic" and "homophobic", especially if they identify as part of the queer community, which they seem to. not only is it irresponsible, but it is dangerous as it encourages infighting in the queer community. if you don't like someone's argument, i would suggest finding a way to have a civil debate about it and support your reasoning with logic, instead of just jumping to the conclusion that someone's take is wrong because they are homophobic/transphobic. sometimes people will disagree with you, not because they hate you or the fact that you identify as part of the lgbtqia+ community, but just because people disagree about things. but there really isn't any reason to deflect it or hide behind that idea. if you feel uncomfortable about their take or want to argue against it, that's fine, just please don't accuse people of homophobia just because you don't like their opinion. i hope you're doing okay. take care of yourself.

THIS IS

THE FUNNIEST ASK I HAVE EVER FUCKING RECEIVED

LMAOOO

FIRST OFF

i wasnt heated at all, i just hate losers that think marvel has good writing and that the sylkie romance was "PACED WELL" and "MADE SENSE", it was bad and forced, plain and simple,

also i didnt call her transphobic as a joke, she fully misgendered me, and then made a shitty excuse like "its your fault you see it as a gendered term" after being called out by my friend, WHO IS ALSO A WHOLE TRANSGENDER MAN

whether she likes it or not, she was fully and unbashedly transphobic, and i dont play nice with cis people, because they do not deserve my kindness or respect without earning it

now calling her homophobic, that was a joke on how marvel both queer baited and has terrible queer confirmation all at the same time, and then after she blocked me, she reblogged someone who was openly racist on my reblogs too!!

also i dont give a fuck if she is bisexual as well, still cis! and still called it good, which i insulted her take for, thats what my whole thing was!!

and she talked down to me, called me "babe" and "maam" how is she not the biggest cunt in this scenerio!!

also you arent some fucking gospel either, going on anon like a fucking coward, and saying i should use "logic and have a civil debate" what is this, a fucking ben shapiro video and im causing "infighting" in the queer community, do you fucking hear yourself!!! im causing infighting in the entire queer community cause i called some lame ass cis cunt a transphobe for misgendering me and making fun of me AS A PERSON!!!! cause i called her analysis of the sylkie romance lame and wrong

you do not give a fuck about my wellbeing and i def do not give a fuck about yours

#this isnt a fucking war field #its tumblr #this made me angry #also if you cared about my wellbeing you wouldnt have sent me shit #or at least got off anon so i could actually talk to your face fucking coward

[transfemininomenon]

Hey, i'm actually a "truscum" i found out recently, but im a little confused on the whole ordeal. Im not even sure if i actually am truscum or not- because some posts seem to tie up with me being one but others dont, but i saw you were really against them, so i wanted to ask if you're okay with a friendly calm conversation about it? I am very confused and i just want to learn a bit more or find out if i'm wrong about the whole ordeal. Are you open to it?

i'll be honest im not sure how friendly i can be with this kind of conversation because i really truly genuinely, and i don't use this word lightly, Hate truscum and its hard for me to really be civil about the discussion. but for the sake of this and me giving you a lot of benefit of the doubt that this ask is in good faith i'll explain why i do not like the entire truscum ideology

1. i guess i'll start off with the Big One - the claim that dysphoria is Required to be trans. i'll preface this by saying that i am someone who has experienced, and currently Experiences in wildly different degrees depending on what is happening in my life, dysphoria throughout my entire life. i had my entire teenage and young adult years stolen from me by it. i won't get into details about it because that is a Very Very Personal subject for me, but needless to say dysphoria is something that was a very prevalent part of my life.

anyway. the notion that dysphoria is a Trans Requirement™ is something that i hugely disagree with. i used to think that me figuring out i was a trans woman was because i experienced dysphoria, but frankly the opposite is true. dysphoria is what made me refuse to believe i was a woman or could ever be one. it made me believe i was a man and that was all i would ever be. it wasn't until i really started experimenting with my gender and unpacking a lot of stuff i felt about myself that i started to finally realize the woman i was. i first started trying our she/her pronouns nearing four years now, and started using the name Alice a few months after that. being referred to as a woman & experimenting with different feminine things gave me such incredible feelings of euphoria that i still experience to this day whenever i discover something new about my identity.

and that is something ive heard from SO many other trans people i know. or different things too - i know people who are completely fine with their bodies, just certain words and terms never felt Right to them. because the thing with dysphoria is that it, like all things gender related, is a product of society. dysphoria only exists because transphobia exists - people are told that there are these two rigid things that you are and HERE is what makes you one of those things, and those things are drilled into you literally since birth. everything from colors to jobs to hobbies to cars to entertainment to clothing to Literally Everything is gendered, and when that happens then of fucking course there are gonna be people who don't fall in line with that, and when it's so instilled into people and seen as such societal norms of COURSE people are going to have trouble with that.

and that's not even getting into the subject of gender on a biological level. the fact of the matter is that the two sex system Isn't True and that biological sex is very complicated. intersex people exist, people with all kinds of different chromosomes exist, people of certain body types that have higher levels of different hormones exist, SO much goes into that subject that frankly narrowing it down to two things just doesn't Work

and that's the real problem at the end of the day. dysphoria only exists because of a fucked up gender binary that clashes with both biology and sociology. people are complicated on both a biological and personal level and having set binaries for things is bound to cause confusion & doubt.

like, people's identities are SUCH personal things in so many different ways. there isn't any Right Way™ to be trans. i know trans women with beards, trans women who have no interest in starting hrt, trans men who wear dresses and makeup, non-binary people who make no effort to be androgynous, i know SO many different identities and different people. because the fact is that there's no right way to be trans because nothing is inherently gendered including people's very bodies. people are themselves and there is no Right way to be themselves.

that's on top of the lack of education when it comes to the subject of gender. such a huge part too of me figuring out i was trans was literally learning that it was even a fucking option. i genuinely didn't know just Being A Girl was an option. reading up on gender stuff and researching the different idea of transitioning was intrinsic in my figuring out who i was because oh shit turns out there are people like me and that is Okay.

like, dysphoria literally could've been a non-issue for me. i could've lived in a world where i could just Exist and enjoy whatever i wanted without it being weird. i could've decided so much sooner that i wasn't happy with the way my body was growing and not spent my entire teen years being so confused why i was so sad seeing my girl peers. i could have from the start just gotten to be a girl and never have had dysphoria be part of the equation.

im not trans being i experience dysphoria. im trans because being a woman is rad as hell and it's what i wanted. im trans because changing my name to Alice was the biggest moment of my entire life. im trans because rebelling against the societal restraints of gender is fucking metal. im trans because my friends can't even remember me ever not being me now. im trans because im a great older sister. im trans because god nerfed me and i said nah thanks man but im not feeling it.

my identity and my gender are very personal and complicated things, and narrowing it down to "i experience dysphoria" is frankly insulting to me.

anyway, that's the big point out of the way, so here's some shorter ones

2. this is kinda expanding on the last point, but truscum both insisting non-binary people aren't a thing and them insisting "transtrenders" exist is hmm Bad

the sheer fact of the matter is the concept of being non-binary has existed from the oldest known records of human history on TOP of that concept being prevalent in many different cultures so what do ya know there's a healthy dose of racism involved in the denial of non-binary people. the gender binary is such a western concept and there are SO many different cultures where different gender identities exist.

and, frankly, going back to the above point that gender is fucking Fake and is a societal concept - again, of fucking course there are going to be people who see a rigid set of rules on gender and are like "well wait that doesn't fit me" so of COURSE non-binary people exist

on the subject of "transtrenders" i feel like i shouldn't even HAVE to get into this subject because of how inherently transphobic it is. the concept doesn't exist. there are people who experiment with their gender and then decide their assigned one is fine. there are people who go through all kinds of different identities. there are people who come out as a different gender and then revert back due to backlash. there are people who get told the way they present their gender is the Wrong Way™ and get branded a trender. it's a dangerous thought process that literally does nothing but serve the cis status quo and make people afraid to experiment and think about their identities.

3. the idea that Those Evil Trenders™ are stealing resources from the Real Trans People™ is, frankly, fucking bullshit. issues when it comes to trans people finding difficulty accessing healthcare comes from a transphobic society hellbent on denying us care on top of fucked up healthcare systems in general. hormones aren't some limited quality hard to acquire thing - when i started hrt transferring my prescription from my clinic to my local pharmacy was a non-issue because it's something basically any pharmacy will have for ALL kinds of different purposes. it's an issue because healthcare in general is a god damn Mess on TOP of inherent transphobia

and, frankly, truscum are directly involved in that transphobia in the medical field. unless you find an informed consent clinic you're going to have to jump through all kinds of hoops to prove you're Actually Trans™ by getting referrals from other (almost always cis) people and then get put on ridiculous waitlists to make sure you're not about to change your mind. that kind of attitude is only encouraged by truscum and it is one of the biggest source of trans people having such difficulty accessing healthcare.

4. truscum as far as im concerned are no different than any other transphobe. two years ago before i started hrt i was harassed by truscum multiple times, each time having them tell me i wasn't trans, that i was just a trender, and it genuinely boggles my mind that anyone thinks misgendering me because i disagreed with their ideology is Woke, actually. I've seen so many fellow trans women getting called men by truscum who disagreed with them. i was actively told i shouldn't start hrt because i "wasn't really trans and was gonna ruin my life"

i really hope all of people live in anger every day knowing ive been on hrt over a year and a half and am fucking Thriving

anyway that's all i got to say on the matter i realize my points became less thought out as it went on but frankly the first point is enough for me to not like truscum

(please refrain from reblogging this i don't want any clowns in my inbox)