#it really is like talking to a brick wall. an aggressively bigoted brick wall

[transmascissues]

gay trans men: isn’t it fucked up that so many cis gay men proudly talk about how disgusting they think our bodies are, get violent when they realize they were attracted to one of us, push us out of community spaces because they don’t think we belong there, invalidate the orientation of the cis gay men who enter into relationships with us, accuse us of raping the cis gay men we’ve had sex with, aggressively misgender us and make assumptions about our bodies, act like their personal lack of desire to be with us means we must be fundamentally unattractive and morally reprehensible, and generally treat our existence like a personal attack worthy of a violent response when all we’re trying to do is exist?

those cis gay men & their friends: oh my god, you’re literally trying to force your disgusting female pussy onto gay men! this is conversion therapy! you’re a predator and a rapist and you deserve to die!

gay trans men: …we literally do not care if you have sex with us. nobody said anything about that. a lot of us are t4t, asexual, and/or already in a relationship, and the rest of also don’t want to have sex with you that badly because we would much rather be fucking someone who actually likes us; this has never been about who we personally want to sleep with. we’d just really appreciate it if you could treat us like human beings and not actively try to make the gay community hostile toward our existence. you don’t have to be attracted to us, just don’t be awful to us? and maybe, once you have that part down, ask yourself why you were so quick to assume a subset of queer people are all violent predators?

those people: HOMOPHOBES! EVIL GROSS FETISHIZING RAPIST HOMOPHOBES!

#it really is like talking to a brick wall. an aggressively bigoted brick wall #i promise none of you are such spectacular lovers that we’re going to those lengths to fuck you #the more mad we make you the more likely it is that none of us would touch you with a ten foot pole #like. ​me and my five year committed gay relationship do not want to fuck you #and even if it ended tomorrow. i still would not want to fuck you personally #bc i 1) am primarily t4t. 2) have fucking standards. and 3) have no interest in fucking people who don’t want to fuck me #this was never about wanting to get in bed with you #we just want to exist in peace #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #trans men #transmascs

[shjiyemis]

Vis-à-vis the "violent or aggressive" shit, you have no idea how many friends I lost for publicly saying "The Condesce speaks in AAVE and changing that is whitewashing."

It is un-fucking-real how acknowledging that makes me guilty of "hostile behavior". Really pulled out the Angry Black Woman shit because I politely told someone they were being racist.

So, basically, thank fucking G-d someone is talking about this shit, because you are doing the right thing.

It's very good to talk about this stuff! A lot of people who tend to believe they're progressive, especially about the discrimination that minorities face (whether it be about real life or representation through media) when ppl are called out on their ignorance it either pisses them off OR they try to victimize themselves.

These talks are important, it brings lots of things to light and it sucks that people feel the need to silence these talks or paint them as aggressive or over-bearing.

I've really given up any type of fight on this bc like, I'm just gonna be talking to a brick wall who doesn't wanna listen y'know? It's very easy to block ppl and I do not get tired of it any. Don't give bigots or assholes your time it's not worth it tbh, they wanna be foolish that's on them.

#eidolonyaldabaoth #shye speaks #important