#investing ur energy and emotions into the wrong thingationship and now when it inevitably goes badly ur pouring ur frustration

[girltomboy]

Last week my bf and I found out that one of our friends has been talking "seriously" to another friend's ex crush and it kinda shattered my faith in him like not only is this girl barely 18 (?? I think) but she was also the root of some huge drama that happened last year. She started secretly texting our friend and he told our other friend who then stopped talking to her and moved on. He was super broken and disappointed though. And a few months ago she apparently texted him again, this time he didn't tell our other friend, and now they have like a Thing?? And he already said he's been thinking about how to tell friend number 2 about what's been going on, but he still hasn't done it, and their Thingationship is just naturally progressing, like he's been tentatively telling me and my bf about some of their inside jokes or things they tell each other, and I'm like ?? Bruh what the hell are you doing lol. My bf apparently told him that his secret situationship is a bad idea and really unfair to our friend as well who suffered terribly after his friendship breakup last year. And he just agreed and that was it. But nothing changed, so we just figured he's enjoying the attention and connection with a girl which has been so rare for him, but I'm like... does the world end and begin with this one girl who's too young for pretty much everyone in our friend group?Just cause she made the silly decision to text you again doesn't mean you have to disregard any feelings you have for one of your best friends... Not to mention this wouldn't even be the first time he has a Thing with a close friend's ex girlfriend or crush 🙄 Like idk I know they're both single and there never really was anything beyond a simple friendship between this girl and friend number 2, but what do you even get out of a potentially failed talking stage that you have to hide from your close friend...? Idk this thing really shifted my perception of him, I noticed he was still following this girl on insta but I thought it was just a coincidence that they still follow each other after the failed attempt at integrating her into our friend group last year.

#later update: it turns out that my bf had actually had a serious talk with our friend about this and the friend said he would handle it #THEN nothing happened again. and he was still talking to her just not telling us/my bf about it LMAO #like he definitely became more lowkey when he saw that we didn't react well to the news he'd broken to us; he probably expected us to congr #tulate him or something lol. and then later he texted my bf to tell him 'she broke up with me hope ur happy' like bro... once again u were #investing ur energy and emotions into the wrong thingationship and now when it inevitably goes badly ur pouring ur frustration #into ur closest friend? who literally told u it was a bad idea from the start? 😩 #so my bf patiently explained to him all the hurt that could have potentially been caused by this bizarre talking stage evolving into #something more serious and that he was just wasting his time and emotions AGAIN. and maybe putting his friendship w our other friend #in danger. but he was still frustrated and freshly hurt so his moodiness persisted but then eventually he recovered #and then in the same week he also quit his job and got sick so he was still a bit under the weather #anyway we've been spending time with him and stuff #just updating cuz i didn't even know my bf had talked to him at length abt it and he showed me screenshots. and my friend was apparently #mad that my bf was bringing up our other friend and his old crush on his girlie as if that was not even the entire point? #like ur only chance at having a meaningful relationship is by being a rebound for your friend's failed relationships? plus you KNEW this #wasn't meant to be and that it was gonna deteriorate. and she ended up being the one who broke it off.