#if this is entirelt out of place im sorry 😭

[gurorori]

as much as the argument of 'aros can still date/aces can still have sex' is important to keep in mind because of technicalities and the people who those stamensts do apply to, something i always felt is it slowly starts sounding a lot like 'hey we're not like totally weird and unlike the rest, like some of us still do The Thing okay? we totally still can do The Thing! not so different after all!' and that always made me feel a bit icky. like as if you're trying to justify the identities even existing in the first place, as if you're bargaining

asexuality and aromanticism are both meaningful identities and deserving of recognition and respect, regardless of if they can still replicate or engage in expected societal frameworks of behaviour

#if this is entirelt out of place im sorry 😭 #im the girl who while no longer identifies as ace and arospec (but used to very strongly for years) feels very. much. for the communities #and i know ppl who sau this don't necessarily always do so in bad faith but the mroe i hear this the more it loses meaning to me especially #when it's said in rebuttal to like. ppl wanting like actual representation and not 'oh this character is ace but does end up having sex #but but still ace :]]]' and vice versa #like it can definitely be rooted in. disrespect. and lack of care for the identity as a whole. #when the majority of ace/aro people are likely not in that bracket and have their own boundaries n stuff going on #removed from sex and from romance