#if however they arent only sex and ur trying to use it to cope w something else shit will get SO ugly so fast

[prettyboykatsuki]

fang do u have any personal casual hookup rules u abide by in terms of safeguarding urself mentally and/or physically after the deed is done? i know u have a very rational insight to sex-ed & sex positivity and i appreciate it bc a lot of other ppl's advice and rules for casual sex boils down to no kissing (which is kinda heartbreaking to me but i'ma sap), use protection (obviously) or it just tilts in a way that shames women in particular for even wanting smth casual. sorry if this comes at an odd time i just feel like if anyone can give it to me straight it's you!!

ok i know u said for afterwards but i do want to say my number one general hookup advice which is don't have sex with someone you wouldn't share a meal with and don't have sex with someone who isn't willing to feed you afterwards!

this has been my general rule of thumb for any form of casual sex and relationships and it will save you a lot of trouble at any point. it's my golden rule for casual relationships.

its a very easy litmus test. if you ask the person you're sleeping with if they have any snacks or if they could get you some and they respond positively / without being confused or annoyed, you are like soo golden. even better if they offer without asking. it seems very basic, but sharing food like that is a very good sign they like genuinely see you as a person. don't sleep with someone who wouldn't be able to meet you at the most basic level of sharing food with you. its not an inherently intimate thing, but still shows respect. ik it seems random but im so serious

i think no kissing rule sucks booo i want to makeout i dont use it. protection is obvious. in terms of protecting yourself like 99% of the battle is just picking a person who is at a baseline decent like genuinely. so genuinely. but its also the hardest part

im not going to be helpful on the emotional front (ex manwhore) but physically drink a lot of water afterwards and keep some babywipes on you at all times!!!!! cleaning up downstairs and having washed hands can save ur life. i reccomend a toothbrush too like try to do all of those things immediately if u cant shower right away

#return to sender #im not good at emotional attachment stuff i do not get attached to people easily at all rip #in fact i was usually the dickhead but not on purpose #and also like. casual sex is casual sex. people r gonna wanna impose on u about it if u mention it #but always rmb its just sex. if you're starting to feel like its more than that just pull away and reallign a bit #the act itself is morally neautral #so if things r happening bc of it then theres usually smth bigger go on #just be mindful of ur headspace going into it and know ur reasons #but 9/10 if ur reasons r Only Sex u wont run into many problems #if however they arent only sex and ur trying to use it to cope w something else shit will get SO ugly so fast #getting attached happens but again. not the person to ask on this one