maybe this is a shitty take it probably is but whenever i see headspace hotels post about. a comfort zone? and i dont mean to minimise any struggles that person has experienced but it makes me think about.
in a fandom i am/was in (dsmp) there was a trend where there would be a fuckton of fics about this one character who had been beaten down and fucked over by all of the people who were meant to be responsible for his wellbeing. and the fic would take him into comfort and care and recovery and unconditional love and patience.
which obviously isnt like. realistic for recovery for a lot of people!! but i think it shows that there is some general understanding of headspace hotel’s concept of how one can lose their grasp on what their comfort zone is, and the recovery for that kind of stress and pain isn’t to push more, but to allow rest and healing.
there would be fics about learning how to set boundaries- oh, hey. i got one that isn’t even. in universe. hell i can do better than in universe cause i know thats touchy but. theres a really good au about ice skating, where one of the main characters is really used to life under an abusive coach. and doesn’t grasp what the exact problem is with how he’s being treated, or how he would like to be treated otherwise. he’s just tired, fragile, miserable and alone, and the circumstances have isolated him from the ability to voice that and realise that he need a pause, if anything.
the solution, all of this media really cleanly spelled out, is allowing time and social support systems. it kinda shows: under a long term stress like this, stress where someone is being openly made to lose sense fo what they’re comfortable with, people who are struggling with understanding what is being signalled to them by pain and sickness and then struggling more with voicing it, that while it might feel like a failure of a too small comfort zone, and self improvement is about being brave, i think these tings have relaly taught me.
hey. sometimes you. sometimes others. will crash and burn. sometimes things will crash and burn, either for you and for others, and smetimes its worthy to keep pushing at it, but other times we should be allowed the grace of a pause, and the grace of kindness and time. and maybe its the capitalist culture surrounding rest and needing breaks. maybe its internalised stuff. maybe its just social pressure of expected progress. but both of these options sjould be okay. sometimes things crash and burn. not all fires should be treated the same.
idk.
just. been thinking
4 notes
·
View notes