#i had no complaints abt dressing up and roleplaying as a girl as long as i got to hold on to a male identity and appearance

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i think there is a common transphobic argument that's like "oh just be gnc" that falls apart when you realize there are trans people who absolutely have physical dysphoria but are mostly fine with their agab gender role and stuff

#don't get me wrong. this isn't abt trans ppl with no dysphoria and isn't abt reinforcing gender roles #but it's abt my experience as a person who grew up mostly ok with being called a girl! and i was never hyperfeminine but still #i had no complaints abt dressing up and roleplaying as a girl as long as i got to hold on to a male identity and appearance #it changed after puberty because that was when i realized that it wasn't dress up it was my actual physical body which was hell #which meant that something needed to change! but i didnt want it to be my gender role it needed to be my physical body #so i changed that and left the other stuff alone (well as much as i can without people giving me weird looks) #(which is its own problem) #thats why being gnc doesnt work for everyone bc there are cases of being gnc #but in the opposite direction #feminine transmascs and masculine transfems and others