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fedoraspooky · 2 months

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In light of tumblr shooting itself in the foot, I've been thinking about what I should do with my art from now on. Obviously, deleting my old posts off here isn't gonna do shit, it's essentially locking my door after my house got emptied out by burglars. Especially with my old rp account I no longer can log into, they're just gonna steal and sell my old art that I posted there and I can't even flip a questionably-affective toggle about it.

Thing is, I dunno how many people are gonna actually leave. I'm not even sure I will, since I have a lot of friends here... And after so many shitty updates a lot of people are just hanging on out of spite at this point.

That said, I'm considering that for art posts and stuff, maybe I'll post them elsewhere and just link to them here so they're not on tumblr's servers? Idk... Tumblr tends to kill the visibility of links but I'm not really sure what else I can do.

Also, there's the question of where to actually post new stuff. Bluesky seems the most active but I dont know if old posts cut off after a certain amount of posts like twitter does, in which case that would not be a good archive in the long run. xnx

Cohost is functionally pretty close to tumblr, but ngl it seems super isolated on there bc of its commitment to not showing any likes on your posts. I get that its to combat the social media numbers game, but the downside is that it looks like nobody's even seen your work. If people like something of yours there's no way outside of notifs to see it, so scrolling down on your page and seeing only zeros after zeros of comments on stuff (comments are the only visible number), it's easy to feel like you're just posting into a void.

Pillowfort is pretty good, and they just added tag blocking and the ability to queue/schedule posts. Still kinda quiet and invite only, but if you sign up for the invite queue you can get one pretty fast. Also i probaby have a ton of invites sitting around if anyone wants one. I wish it had an app, but mobile web version works well enough I guess, and I'm already used to doing that with sheezy and newgrounds, so I just have those open in mobile tabs together.

Speaking of, Newgrounds has been pretty good, but due to the nature of the portal system and stuff you're more encouraged to post only your better-looking stuff there. You CAN post doodles if you want, but only outside of the portal, which limits their visibility. Kinda like dA's scraps system I guess.

Sheezy looks super promising customization-wise so I'm thinking of posting there more when it opens up to more peeps.

Toyhouse also looks really good for OC and story things too, and also has a good degree of customization.

There's probs options I haven't even thought about, but its good to know there ARE options. I may post in several of those places for now and see how it goes. Test the waters a bit.

If you're thinking of moving your art elsewhere lemme know where, I'm curious to see where people are going :o

Especially you moots, i need to refind my pals in these other places!

#tumblr #tumblr alternatives #alright where we droppin boys?

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rasparagus · 2 years

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the status of and my feelings about this blog

honestly i have been involved in fandom since i was way too young to be on the internet. and i took a break from being super active with fan accounts some years back bc its what was best for me. fast forward to 2021 and becoming a carat is quite literally what got me to start posting and interacting consistently again on tumblr bc the fandom seemed really chill and cool and overall just a nice way to find community, especially during a transition period of my life.

but now i realize why every other day there’s a new creator declaring they need a mental health break lmfao. its cus this shit lowkey sucks. ive barely been active in the community for two months and this is the most stress ive experienced in a fandom. i love being able to chat it up and write fics and read fics but the amount of discourse combined with so many people thinking they know every fucking thing about everything is exhausting. some of yall treat this like a job. i come here to chill but so many people use this community as a way to show how virtuous of a person they are or how witty and sassy they can be with no regard for actual human beings. i think some of yall have been on the internet so long that u have literally forgotten how to interact normally with others, even when they say something u disagree with. not every disagreement is worth some huge moral argument or name-calling session. i dont think its normal that i see a different discourse discussion occur on the timeline every day, all of them met with equal vitriol from the people involved; some things are simply not that serious. maybe if we all take a step back and remember we are people writing fake stories about people we will never meet, then the problems wont seem so big after all. hate to be a hippie but like,,,lets just vibe and treat each other like humans, man~

ofc this isnt about any of my lovely moots xoxo i love yall. but its hard to ignore the discourse that occurs within this fandom. and as someone who does a vast amount of philosophizing in my daily life for school/work/community activism and would truly just like to chill on here, the exaggeration of mild issues stresses me out. im someone who is deeply passionate about politics, social justice, and cultural criticism in day-to-day life (just like a lot of other people who tend to start discourse!). but i also am of the belief that we all need rest, and if our leisure time is plagued by the same seriousness of the “real world” then we’ll never truly get that rest. i fear that in an effort to continue my hobby of writing and interacting with other fans, i will find my mind never truly resting and will be damned to a life where i am convincing myself that i’m having fun when im not. and once again, it should never be that serious.

when i started writing for svt i saw myself being here for a while, and i still really want that. but im barely three (very short) fics in and im already exhausted (and impressed) with how much the fun has been drained out of this fandom for me. i liked it better when all i did was watch gose and gush about vernon to my non carat friends. i really cherish the mutuals ive made and bc of those connections i desire to keep this blog semi-alive. i think it’d be really sad for me to give up on the fandom this early. but this fandom has a level of toxicity that is incredibly anxiety-inducing for me. sure my mental issues are my own and it isnt anyone’s fault, but ive noticed a common trend among other creators as well, so maybe its worth considering the environment we all are fostering. who knows. maybe i need to disappear for a while so i can re-discover the spark that led me to become a svt blog in the first place. this isnt me announcing a formal hiatus or anything. i could be back tomorrow thirsting over mingyu and wanting to write and post a new fic. or it could take me weeks or months to regain the fire that made this fun in the first place. this rant is merely a tired, old (not really) soul expressing their frustrations with a fandom that quite frankly takes itself way too seriously.

#this is ok to reblog #ro's.chats

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many-gay-magpies · 2 years

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oh boy here we go there’s even MORE noa feelings now bc of the cat comparison aaaaaaa now i can’t stop thinking abt noa curling his long-legged self up into a ball to take a nap, or like trying to compact himself on a couch so he can lay his head in one of the guys’ laps. noa is just as immortal as the rest of them and he doesn’t look so different but he’s still their littlest after all- according to the dark moon comics on the instagram noa started off as a baby in the orphanage, and all the guys probably still look at him and see that baby and want to dote on him. i see them (particularly heli and jaan) stroking his hair while he leans on them or has his head in their laps. but also i imagine noa refusing/trying not to lay on his brothers bc he’s “too old for that now” and them just going “oh no you don’t you’re never too old for naps come HERE” and pulling him in for head pats. just . the dark moon boys reminding noa he’ll always be their beloved youngest

THOSE ARE SOME WILD STORIES WOW. at least the ghosts your parents interacted with were benevolent mostly? that story with the shoulder massage is FREAKY but also . nice of the ghost? crazy that so many people died in that place. i’ve got my own ghost stories, my siblings’ apartment was haunted for about . 6 months? i think? that ghost was definitely Not benevolent though. if you want that story it’ll take a while ask if its own !

also jacob bae IS very cool i’m in love with him (not in a delulu way ok)

- vrvr anon

ohhhh yeah absolutely. lots and lots of feelings there.

apparently when i associate people/characters with cats i go all out with the cat-like mannerisms because now im just imagining noa with like. ALL OF THEM. sitting in places he in no way should be able to reach or contort his ridiculously long body into but somehow still manages to (on top of counters, fridges, very weird seating positions in chairs, far too small boxes/cupboards), leaning into touches and headbutting the people he loves like a cat (just picture him trying to pull the "im not a baby anymore stop petting my hair 😤" stunt whilst actively nudging jino's hand to keep moving LMAO), even the small destructive urge here and there... one of my enha moots says he condones violence in the webnovel, and im not entirely sure what that means but if that's the case i can totally imagine him being a petty little shit and knocking cups, books, and various other objects off of tables when his brothers annoy him (like a couple of the brothers are chilling in their dorm or something and noa has his legs propped up on the coffee table, jino is teasing noa about something, and noa goes very quiet and just. looks at jino's glass of water. looks at how close it is to his foot. jino sees the gears turning in his mind. "noa. noa stop it. dont. do not. noa. NOA. no- noa i SWEAR if you-" *crash* "hELLS DAMMIT--" ">:3")

also consider .

noa: stop calling me clingy. i am NOT clingy. i'm grown-up now jaan, just like you.

jaan: okay well. you see. your argument might be a tad bit more convincing if you werent currently laying across my lap and also computer keyboard.

noa: that's irrelevant

jaan: pls noa i'm trying to do schoolwork

anyways on another but still mildly connected note, i know the seven brothers are all separated into different grades in the webcomic (like heli is a senior/12th grade, jaan, jino, and solon are juniors/11th grade, shion is a sophomore/10th, and jakah and noa are both freshmen/9th—or at least i think thats it, i could be wrong), but i imagine the whole immortality business messes with that a little. i dont know WHEN exactly they stopped aging, or how long they've been "stuck" at the ages they appear to have in the comic, but a one-to-four year difference is probably a LOT less significant when you've been with these same people for literal DECADES rather that just a few years. still with that being said the brothers 100% went "fuck that age is a construct anyways you're our baby brother forever" to noa. meanwhile noa is like "fucking christ could you all not have just experienced the disintegration of age difference relevance with time like all the other fucking vampires" (while secretly liking it more than he lets on lmao)

oh yes it was very wild (although i dont remember much very clearly because it was years ago that we lived there). i am both grateful that it was a benevolent ghost and sort of sad that i didnt have more interactions with him ksfgfjghfj-- if that ghost story ask offer is still on the table i will absolutely take it 👀

#asks #anon 📝#vrvr anon #dark moon nonsense #dark moon #help i need to figure out what my general tags actually ARE for this stuff

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daegalfangirl · 2 years

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2021 tumblr moots/personal recap for daegalfangirl/kvydence/puppyjwoo of whatever the user was cus i forgot

stole this idea from charlie 🥰🥰🥰🥰

i started off on tumblr by creating a new blog, with what could potentially be my writing blog. i was super scared to go into it because english is not my first language and my writing drafts are always sloppy and messily written. the first person i interacted with and decided to become moots with was actually @bluejaem and idek how tf i found her so don't ask but i think she had like 30 followers at this time I DONT REMEMBER IM NOT SURE. but this is kind of why i value aditi as one of my most memorable moots. however along the way i was able to make more friends from a discord server that @junjungsunwoo made that kind of will lead up into me listing the most significant moots of this year... SO UHM LET ME BEGIN.

@treasuretaeil - MY LOVE MY NUMBER #1 FAV FOREVER. you will forever remain as my #1 moot words cannot describe how much i love you and miss you and wish the absolute best for you. i really don't know where the attachment to you came from LMFBSZ but you are literally the sweetest most welcoming person ever and it broke my heart to know you were struggling maintaining yourself on this platform but i'm glad your off now to focus on yourself. i will continue to cherish our memories from before and hold a place for you in my heart. I LOVE U!!!! 💗💗💗💓💗💓💗💓💓💗💗💓💓💗💗💓💗💗💗💓💗💗💗💓💗💓💓💗💗💓💗💗💓💓💗💓💓💓💓

@bluejaem - ummmm this was obvious hello and you have so many notifs (the fame or whateva😞) im gonna drop an ask and ANNOY YOU into reading this cus i know ur probably not gonna notice this on ur own 😒😒😒 OK. well u were one of my very first moots and i treasure you like so much i think you're like my 2nd or 3rd follower ever on tumblr which makes me SO happy to know you since the start of my writing blog on tumblr. i remember sending you asks and talking about how i was gonna open up my blog and i ended up just becoming extremely inconsistent since the timings were never quite... right. BUT LET ME PUT THE FOCUS BACK ON U 🥰🥰🥰 you are literally like the kindest girl ever and my heart goes out to you and seeing you grow so much makes me so happy for you and i just love how genuine you are and your blatant love for jaemin is the cutest thing ever i have never seen anyone with as much of a jaemin craze as you (except one of my irl friends who is also PSYCHO for this man) also i swear i remember one time like in my first couple asks i sent to you i was like "i love your writings we should be moots" or whatever tf i managed to type out but ummmmmm.... it's time i confess i have never read like a single one of your works LMFQIGXISGX IM SO SORRY i just wanted friends OBROWHXOSB anyways... i see posts of urs sometimes and im just like "ooh i'll read that later" and rfhen i never do SO. ANYWAYS. UHM we will move on from that... anyways idk how to conclude this but i hope you hit many more milestones next year because you 100% deserve it

@jaxminskale - girl idek wtf happened to you... you seriously just went inactive out of nowhere and you might never ever read this... but that's okay☺️ i always really liked you in that discord server rbh you were one of my favs you reminded me a lot of one of my old bffs from when i moved away so i felt that pull from your personality. THATS LOWK KIND OF WEIRD THOUFH. but we'll move on from that... you were so good to get along with like the female chenle nickname was 100% CORRECT. anywyas i hope you're doing good and taking care of yourself. 😊😊

@junjungsunwoo - A LITERAL ANGEL AHHHHDFWHZSH. you are the sweetest person ever yena you have the kindest heart and i will literally fight anyone who says otherwise. you are probably my #1 kindest moot and i will forever cherish you as that. you were definitely memorable to me as well even though i doubt i may be for you since i was uhmmmmm VERY INCONSISTEN T when it came to my activity. i don't know what to add but i love you and your sweet angelic personality please never change it. i've seen you at a low point and i've seen you at your high points and i hope i communicate with you more going into 2022 🥰🥰🥰💗💗💗

@trippy-dejun - WHERE THE HELL DID U COME FROM. iDK WHY THAT SOUNDED SO RUDE BUT I GENUINELY HAVE NO IDEA WHEN I MET U. however i still love u and you mean a lot to me. everytime i come back for like 5 minutes (only to go inactive for another few months) you're always so welcoming and smother me with love it's like cute annoying grandma vibes wirhout the annoying because i love the affection but this is the only time i'm admitting to it. U RLLY DO GIVE ME MORHER VIBES THOUGH... but i think ur my age or maybe a teeny bit younger BUT THIS SHOULD NOT BE FAKEN AS AN INSULT like you're crazy as hell so maybe like crazy nice animal mom. PERFECT DESCRIPTION IDCCCC anyways i lOVE U and hope ur doing amazing. maybe i'll drop by on discord and say something in the server to yall and smother you guys with love for a change. 😊 Sike (to the smother part i'll drop by LORD im not that bad of a friend/moot)

@taemin-jaemin - i also have no idea when we met i just remember seeing you and thinking who is that but never confronting it and i just saw you and yena in the same light as like two twins OR SOMETHING WOXHWU IDK like you're such an angel so sweet and everything even though we don't interact as frequently as id like i hope that you're doing well and take a break from the collabs THIS GOES FOR U TOO @junjungsunwoo LORD. y'all need to take a break seriously like take a nap... drink some water... JK but i genuinely do wish the best for u sarah i hope we have more chances to interact more going into 2022.

@kpopsnowball - your personality was always too perfect for me to believe it. we stopped interacting but that didn't make me forget you. you always stood out to me as someone memorable for your sweet and caring attitude. you are such a genuine friend and have the kindest soul ever and i wish no one ever takes advantage of that because you really do deserve the best. i didn't want to make this one really long for you i just wanted to give you something short to appreciate you.

@jaeminscoffee - tbh we no longer interact either but you were also very memorable to me because of how we would interact. you were the only moot where i had lengthy conversations with in my tumblr messages and it was just so fun i always smiled reading your messages. although we no longer talk i do cherish the conversations we had and hope that you have an amazing new year!!!!💓💓💓💓💓

@renchinworld - YOU!! YES YOU!! hi u might not remember me since i've only sent an ask once (or twice?) and we've only messaged just a TEENY bit, but you are someone id like to interact with more. i don't rlly actively seek to interact with any of my new moots but YOU i feel a pull towards you. you seem very similar to me and it makes me wanna be friends with u so bad LMFAOOO but i really hope that we do get to interact more coming into the new year and i'll be sure to drop by and read your AMAZING works bc i will never forget that fic that i actually did forget the name of like i have vague memory of the title but i'm not guessing it because i'm not trying to embarrass myself. ANYWAYS moving on... i will try my best for us to have more frequent interactions! just you watch 😴😴😴😴

FINAL NOTE

i wrote this all in the night it's 3:20am currently and i am feeling absolutely exhausted but i wanted to finish this and post it no rereading FUCK the grammar mistakes idc these are my raw genuine feelings i get so emotional in the night so there y'all have my love my feelings towards y'all. in conclusion I LOVE ALL OF YOU!!! Thank you for making my first year on tumblr as amazing as it was. 😊

and that's a wrappppppppppppp bai

EDIT UPDATE:

I FORGOT SOMEONE SO SO SOSO IMPORTANT IN MY MOOTS RECAP I AM SUCH AN AWFUL PERSON IDK WHY I FROGTO TO PUT SYMONE

@symoneismeh SYMONE I AM SO SORRY 😭 I DONT KNOW HOW YOU SLIPPED OFF MY MIND WHEN YOU CONTRIBUTED SO MUCH TO ME ON TUMBLR THIS YEAR. okay omfg firstly i am actually SO sorry for that idk how i forgot 😭 but just like yena i think you are an absolute angel with the kindest soul. i was blessed to have the opportunity to meet you and become moots with you because you genuinely are such an amazing person and my days become brighter when i talk to you. thank you for all you've done with me this past year and i hope we can interact more in 2022. I LOVE U SO SOSOSOSO MUCH AND IM SO SORRY 💗💗💗💗💗💗

#Wow #no words #first year writing and i was very inactive #ALSO THANK YOU TO ALLL MY FOLLOWERS CUS IM NEAR 300 #IDK HOW YALL TOLERATE ME HUT I LOVE YALL SM #MAAH #MWAH**#OK BYEEE I NEED TO SLEEP

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jhuntingtonthethird · 3 years

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just another rant

I hate everything that comes with stan twitter. People police you on how to act and for a few times it was okay, but then it came down to the silliest requests which I can understand that yes, disabled people need more accessibility to socmed, BUT to expect everyone to obey you is a little too much? I hate anxiety inducing tweets like "if you don't retweet this right now then you're racist! homophobic! classist! Keep this on your profile to avoid being softblocked!" make it seem like everyone has an obligation to spread politics on their social media. There is a lack of genuine feelings for politics, and it's more so just peer pressure to be active in politics. In my opinion it's okay to spread politics, as long as the message comes across but bullying people to do it is just too demanding and too weird? like idk about you but if my comfort space was to go on twitter look at kpop memes i would not want to see children being starved posted on twitter with all the millennials trying to act like white knights to save the poor kids, when in reality the picture being shared was a picture from 2003 and those kids would have already been saved by volunteers. I don't like aid. Aid foundations are sometimes sketchy, and I dont think food aid is enough. You would need to give pads and tampons to women who cant afford the transportation to go to a store for a pad or young girls who are forced to stay at home from school because they cannot buy tampons. You need to give the people the necessary tools to build themselves up from the ground so they wont need to be spoonfed by white knights who think they're underdeveloped because they don't wear shoes. I have a lot of problem with aid but since we're talking about stan twitter I JUST HATE HOW THEY MAKE YOU FEEL SO SHITTY like yes i wanna be part of this community, oh I have to retweet these mentally damaging pictures of global warming to be your friend? ok i can do that... oh you want me to completely change my layout to support blm and to put pronouns and to put my flags down all for other people to look at? ok but its not really a dating profile where i need other people to know me that much. oh okay now my moots are talking to antis and trolls and i have to deal with that daily? alright i'll just softblock them! oh this moot unfollowed me because i didnt unfollow another moot who ended up being problematic... well there's more people. i don't think that just because someone was accused of lying about their age is something to be upset about. yeah, they're fake but this drama really is so boring. if you need me to unfollow someone they have to either sexualise the idol so much to the point of discomfort or harrassing others and sending gore pictures to them. even then, it's all so upsetting! i joined this space because i wanted to look at kpop girls! why is it suddenly become such a struggle just to prove myself as an ally... i don't enjoy having to constantly see gruesome things on my feed when obviously i can be happy without seeing it. i know people will say "oh black people have to experience this first hand so if this makes you uncomfortable then it doesnt measure to how much we endured just being black" YES I AGREE but I dont think its necessary to be actively progressive, some people want to have quiet lives and fight for their own struggle. we recognise our privilege and help however we can. it's still necessary to take a break from socmed if things bother us too much. do you think i enjoy seeing muslims being murdered especially when i was raised as a muslim? no so you excused black people for not being online during the blm protests so you should also excuse others to be offline without them having to explain why. anyways on the kpop aspect, i absolutely hate the unpopular opinions trend when people bring down other artists and the stupid fans keep replying to the thread getting all offended when clearly the thread is meant to cause uproar and to offend the fans so the fans will hate the person with a jimin profile picture. it's all a game to trolls. sometimes that

wouldve been avoided if we all just blocked people as soon as we see something we dont like and i've been doing that for months now... i have too many people i blocked including some of my own followers. I hate orbits who make fun of new orbits bcs they recently discovered loon through 2017-2018 memes of them and now are calling choerry's fans cockroach and calling gowon as gowon minaj and crunchy. these old orbits police them like "IN 2020, do this: dont find old memes funny bcs if you do you're cringe and you're an awful fan" the humor has always been dry and unfunny, even today their idea of what humor is is so disappointing. like "OMG WHITE CIS MALE MAN TALKING ABOUT LOONA STAY AWAY FROM HER". the stan language itself is so unfunny "NOT YOU LIKING LOONA YOU GAY BOY". i guess its the trend now but i find it so difficult to contribute to the conversation IRL is someone talks in tiktok. anyway even if it is unfunny you cant tell someone that they cant find old memes funny anymore. you're allowed to dislike it for sure. but telling new fans to not enjoy memes that encouraged them to stan loona? you're just scaring them. anyway bye i have to talk to my boyfriend now i might add later on but what are the chances of me even writing it lmao

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mitaesoroo · 4 years

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all odd numbers 🤭

(1) Do You Sleep With Your Closet Doors Open Or Closed?

closed :)))

(3) Can You Whistle?

baRELY!! but not really

(5) What Is Your Favourite Colour?

black, yellow, and blue

(7) What Is The Temperature Right Now?

62°F

(9) How Many Followers?

40 💕

(11) What Is Your Eye Colour?

darkkkk brown

(13) Do You Sing In The Shower?

noo but i do hum

(15) Grab The Book Nearest To You, Turn To Page 64, Give Me Line 14.

don't have one near me

(17) Last Person You Cried In Front Of?

i usually cry alone so honestly idk..

(19) What Did You Have For Lunch?

earlier i had sopa de frijol con huesos but rn mcd ;-;

(21) Favourite Animal?

cats, wolves, foxes, and etc 🥺

(23) What Time Do You Usually Go To Bed?

lately 4-6am 🙂 but im working on it

(25) Do You Prefer To Swim In A Pool Or The Ocean?

i can't swim.

(27) Bottled Water Or Tap Water?

bottle water

(29) Post A Gif Of What You’re Currently Feeling Right Now.

ill post a meme

(31) Dogs Or Cats?

C A T S

(33) PlayStation Or Xbox.

both ;o;

(35) Do You Believe In Magic?

🤩😶.

(37) Can You Curl Your Tongue?

yeaaaaaaa

(39) Is There Anything Pink Within 10 Feet Of You?

uh pan dulce?

(41) Have You Ever Caught A Butterfly?

noo :(

(43) Do You Have Strange Dreams?

aside from sleep paralysis nah

(45) Name One Movie That Made You Cry.

the boy in the striped pajamas

(47) If I Handed You A Concert Ticket Right Now, Who Would You Want The Performer To Be?

i seen mx once so i say BTS 😩

(49) Are You A Heavy Sleeper?

nooo but i wish 🙄

(51) Do You Like To Read / Write?

i like to read fics and mangas

(53) Would You Rather Carve Pumpkins Or Wrap Presents?

wrap presents :P

(55) What Season Are You In Right Now? (Weather)

seasons? oh lol my city doesn't know a seasoN?

(57) Post A Screenshot Of Your Tumblr Feed.

sorry only one post be fitting sjsjjs but usually 2-3 moots be active rn

(59) Coffee Or Tea?

coffee

(61) What Is Your Sexuality?

i dont label it because idk tbh

(63) Favourite Pokemon?

gaSp i have so many but i really like dragon types c:

(65) What’s Your Opinion On Instagram Stories?

im barely on insta

(67) Are You A Virgin?

yee

(69) If You Were Far From Home And Needed To Sleep For The Night, Would You Choose To Rent A Crappy Motel Room For $60 Or Sleep In Your Car For Free?

motel 🤕

(71) Whats The Next Movie You Want To See In Theaters?

idk i barely know what goes on these days

(73) What Is Your Favourite Quote Right Now?

"sometimes even to live is an act of courage"

(75) Did You Like Swinging As A Child? Do You Still Get Excited When You See A Swing Set?

OMG YESS I LOVE SWINGING like every time i got the park with my siblings!!

(77) What Games Do You Have On Your Phone?

idk what to name them but yea and knowledge games

(79) Been On The Computer For 5 Hours Straight?

l dont have a laptop ;-;

(81) Do You Like Meeting New People?

not really *^*

(83) Do You Sleep With Your Bedroom Door Open Or Closed?

closed

(85) What Do You Wear To Bed?

shirt and shorts

(87) Are You A Day Or Night Person?

night

(89) Tell Me About A Dream That You Had And When It Happened.

i forget as soon as i wake up 😬

(91) What Sounds Are Your Favourite?

rain hitting the window, thunders, cat purring, old movies playing in the background, soft lofi music, and etc

(93) How Do You Look Right Now?

a mess

(95) What Tattoo Do You Want?

i want many but i guess my first tattoo would be ⭐️🌙☀️ <- with my two sisters

#OF COURSE YOU DO IT RIGHT BACK HHH #HASJSJXHSHXH #LOVE YOU #answered ask #mooties #kass 💜🐼

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vitalmindandbody · 7 years

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If not my surname or my husband’s, could we call our child after a New Zealand volcano?

Franki Cookney and her husband didnt much like each others surnames, so now theyre having a baby theyve are determined to pick a brand-new one

When my husband, Rob, and I marriage last year, the question of what to do about our surnames barely registered our discussions. We are both novelists, so our figures are on every piece of work we do. That we would hinder our own seemed a payed. There was just one niggling indecision. What would happen if we had babes?

I had always thought that we would just stick both our mentions on the birth certification, but I knew this didnt fairly solve the problem. Whose call would go first? And which reputation would end up being used?

We could use a double-barrel mention, but didnt detect our surnames, Cookney and Davies, lent themselves to hyphenation. Whichever tell you have selected, the result is clunky and we were reluctant to saddle small children with it.

We could have just chosen whichever mention seemed best with our babys first name. But in that scenario, one parent intent up not sharing a surname with their child and neither of us craved that. Plus, Id heard too many fables of parents being stopped at airfield protection because the calls on their passports didnt match that of their children.

The traditional alternative of taking my husbands surname was never on the table. Quite apart from the feminist principle of not was intended to abdicate my identity for his, I wasnt keen on the appoint. Rob supported this and was by no means offended. The disturbance was, he wasnt a fan of my identify either. Its precisely a bit unwieldy, he mentioned. Its almost Cockney but not quite. Youre incessantly having to spell it out. We looked at our moms maiden identifies and our grandparents names but ever objective up back in the same situate, feeling that it wasnt equal, that picking one surface of their own families over another wasnt fair.

We hit on the idea of taking a new name about a year ago when before our wed we went to write our wills. As we chitchatted to one of the attorneys, it transpired that he and his wife had done exactly this. Theres a fair fleck of admin, but its good, it wreaks, he alleged , nod decisively. Abruptly, it didnt seem so outlandish. This wasnt some childish uprising or bohemian pretentiousness, this was something solicitors did!

We mooted it with pals, who were largely unfazed. What figure will you go for? was the thing they were most curious about. Good theme. Could we compound the messages of our mentions and make something new, we meditated. Schedules were realized: Dents, Cave, Devine, Kinsey, Dacovnicks Cookies? Nothing of them quite hit the mark.

As our marry gleaned nearer, we introduced the reputation activity on a back burner. But when I became pregnant 3 months later, we were forced to look at the situation afresh and decided to change tacking. How about a region? I suggested. Somewhere weve called that we desired. A backpacking stint before we got married had left us with batch to choose from but most sounded quite bizarre when attached to a couple of ordinary Brits. Rob and Franki Tongariro possessed a certain vigour, but naming yourself after a New Zealand volcano would be ridiculous. And Zhangjiajie might invoke memories of fantastic Chinese mountains, but imagine having to charm it every time you booked a “hairs-breadth” appointment or called your internet provider. For a while Salento and Chaltn were on the listing, after places in Colombia and Argentina. But we werent convinced we could pull off the undoubtedly Latino-sounding former and supposed the latter would lead to a lifetime of correcting people who declared it Charlton.

Then Rob enunciated, What about Stone Town? The beautiful age-old city of Zanzibar City is where he had asked me to marry him. It instantly seemed right. Stone was straightforward but important. It seemed good with both our first names and after a few weeks of trying it on with other calls would work well with almost anything we decide to for our newborn. It was perfect: a solid figure( with a potential for puns that was not lost on us) that felt like a constructive solution to our problem. We would keep our original surnames for act and borrow this new family name for our personal lives.

By law, all you need to do to change your figure is, well, remained unchanged. Simply borrowing and using your new mention is enough. Informing your details and chronicles, however, requires a document of proof such as a marriage certification or, in our case, a deed ballot. “They dont have” official space of acquiring a deed referendum. You can write one yourself utilizing free templates from the internet, but lack of lucidity about the process solutions in some institutions necessitating an original certification despite the fact that no such thing subsists. You can either fight it out or you can do what we did and compensate 15 -2 0 for a company such as the Deed Poll Office to draw up the word on your behalf and publication and stomp it on watermarked paper. Dedicated the inventory of bodies and organisations you have to notify and the potential proofs over what constitutes an original credential, this seemed a reasonable compromise.

Perhaps “its been” naive, but we didnt expect to meet with opposition. Uncertainty, perhaps. Intrigue, for certain. When it is necessary to getting married, we had ditched almost every institution moving, prohibiting the union itself, and no one had wondered us. Surely this too would be seen as a modern update on an outdated habit. But when we announced our decided not to our families, the reaction was mixed.

Franki and Rob. Picture: Christian Sinibaldi for the Guardian

While they understood our predicament, the common restraint was that the child would lose the connection to its family history. Try as I might, I cant know what this is. To me, family history disappears far deeper than ones appoint. Its in accordance with the rules “were living”, our values, the gumption and shared ordeal passed down through generations. It is part of the storytelling our parents did and its in the narrations we, very, “re going to tell” and the beliefs we will share.

Our beginnings are not in our identifies, they are in our centres. My grandmother, whose surname was Jones, is important to me not because of her refer but because of her adoration. My great-grandmother, a midwife I never even assembled, let alone shared a identify with, forms a part of my feel of identity. Why? Because of the behavior my “mothers ” talks about her, because of the pictures she has decorated in my heads of state of that life, that family, that time.

Interestingly, the appoint itself has also supported a sticking point, with a few people commenting that its bearing. Youre doing this really unusual thing but youve picked a really everyday identify, said one colleague, as though by doing something different we are obliged to go the whole hog and announce ourselves Rob and Franki Thundercats.

In fact, the accessibility of the mention was something we fantasized would help us sell the idea. It is about to change “were in” naive there, more. My baby, a former primary school teacher, insisted that someone called Stone would be teased. Another relative describing him as a dead weight of a name.

In my experience, children will come up with nicknames no matter what. I wasted much of my school years known as Franki Cookie while my first name was frequently elongated to Frankenstein, Frankincense or Frankfurter.

Never tell people your epithet picks in advance, admonished one sidekick( too late ). Its as if telling beings in advance is inviting a talk or consultation!

While my familys impressions apparently matter to me, I suspect she might be right. Eventually, this is our decision, based on our motives, and I hope they will come to see it as a practical and positive step , not an irresponsible one.

Its almost impossible to get everyone on board, counselled another friend, who changed her surname by deed referendum in 2004. The suggestion upset my grandma but my papa, her son, understood. When I married my husband, he took my mention. Im still not sure his brother was 100% behind us, but when we had our first son, he was the first to be born into our empire. Im so excited that we are the first in our tree!

This is exactly how I detect. I love the notion that our newborn will be born into this new, specially choice and carefully thought-out family name. And if the working day he or she decides to change it either to something new or to one of our old family names we will fully support that.

Even when you change names, ancestry can still be traced and, if nothing else, I like to think we will be appeared back on as the ones who tried something new; who instead of clearing do with an disappointing place, made creatively about how to solve it. Thats their own families legacy Im happy with.