#galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Sometimes you choose floor time. And sometimes floor time chooses you

#galactic gab #ok. to reblog

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

A lot of people on this website really need to learn that their advice is not always welcome.

If someone hasn't asked for advice, offering it can often be insulting. When you send unasked for advice, it often comes with the insinuation that the other person hasn't already thought of/tried what you're suggesting.

I often see this being directed at chronically ill/disabled/mentally ill people with the underlying theme of assuming we're still sick because we just haven't tried X. But it just kind of seems to be a general problem online as well.

Often, people just need to vent about a problem. Offering unasked for solutions to someone who just needs to vent is frustrating at best. And far too often, if the person the advice is being forced on doesn't respond with perfect grace and kindness, there will be a flurry of people rushing to defend the advice giver's intentions.

But when it comes down to it, you may have good intentions but that doesn't negate the effects of your actions.

If you think you have some advice to share, just try asking if the person is looking for advice. If they are, great! Share your advice! But if they don't want advice, you need to respect that, even if you think your advice would be beneficial.

#galactic gab #ok to reblog #we'll see if i regret that lol

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

✨Fun and quirky New Years Resolution: wearing a mask in public to protect yourself and everyone around you✨

#masks help protect against flu and colds and other viral illness aside from COVID #and even if you think the risks are worth it choosing to not wear a mask endangers everyone around #it may be a new year but covid isn't gone #galactic gab #ok to reblog #antimask/antivax propaganda will be deleted/blocked

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

#I'm just excited we can make trans flag out of hearts ^_^ #galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

You know it's a packed therapy session when it's like "so [significant and atypical trauma that's never come up before] probably is affecting how I'm reacting to this" and your therapist is just like:

#galactic gab #ok to rb

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

It has seemed that over the past several years, the pushback against trauma olympics has morphed into this idea that all trauma should be treated as equal and that any differentiation is inherently ableist.

And while I agree that competing over who has it worst is an exercise in futility that is often damaging, I think the inability to have conversations with nuance regarding different traumas has been really damaging to community discussions.

Like, yes, what is traumatic to one person may not be traumatic to another and what a child's brain counts as trauma might not make sense to an adult. If you're traumatized by something, then it was traumatic for you. It doesn't matter if other people think it shouldn't have been traumatizing, your trauma is real.

But I think it is damaging that community discussions have become so warped that stating that some traumas are more severe than others is met with hostility. There are, in fact, degrees of severity when it comes to trauma.

Hell, I'm very carefully picking my words in this and not really specifying any specifics because I don't want to deal with the hostility that would likely ensue.

Acknowledging that some experiences are more inherently traumatic than others does not invalidate your pain and struggles. Each person's response to trauma is shaped by a vast array of factors including the support a person has after the trauma. It's not bad or wrong to be more affected by a specific trauma than someone else who went through something similar because we all are shaped by our own unique circumstances.

However, that doesn't make it ok to flatten the way we talk about trauma by never acknowledging that some events are more inherently traumatic than others.

This shift in the community has made it really difficult for people who have gone through very severe trauma to talk about their experiences without being attacked for ~invalidating~ other people's trauma just by talking about their own experiences.

I'm leaving reblogs on and I'm to discussion on this, but anyone coming in with hostility will be blocked.

#this also applies to disability in general but that's a conversation for another time #nervous to post this but i have a block button and I'm not afraid to use it lol #galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Waiting with husband at urgent care. Nerve pain in his hip and leg has kept him from sleeping and he's really struggling. I'm really really hoping they do something to help him

#but also I'm so tired and i just want to go home ;;-;; #galactic gab #vent tw

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Happy Mother's day to anyone who had to take on that role without recognition. Those who had to raise siblings when their parents failed to do so. Those who have had to become a mother in all but name.

You should never have had to take on such responsibility so young, but you deserve celebration and appreciation for the care and love you provided!

#galactic gab #mothers day tw

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

It's like I've forgotten how to know who I am. Like I've forgotten how to communicate with other parts.

I am just here in the abyss. Floating along in blank stillness. Unable to connect.

I feel fine. I'm ok.

... except for waking up each morning with a jaw sore from clenching, needing active focus to release. Except for the horrid tension in our shoulders that requires constant management to avoid more severe pain. Except for the many ways our body continues to keep the score.

#galactic gab #parts stuff

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Everytime I log in and see this shit

#galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Reasons to keep going: fireflies exist

#i love seeing the twinkling lights of fireflies throughout the gardens #like bits of magic dropped into the world #galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

I'm so tired of resting. I'm tired of being in pain. I'm tired of my days revolving around managing pain and feeling like it's not making a difference. I want to DO things again.

#sorry for all the whining lately #I'm really struggling with this flare #galactic gab #vent tw

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

Gender euphoria moment: realizing I no longer have a fucking shelf of an ass ^_^

Like, it's not flat now but it no longer sticks out so much

#I've been too dissociated to really notice changes to our physical shape #i really only ever look at myself shoulders up in mirrors #but i ran my hand down my back today and was like !!!! #v exciting #galactic gab #trans stuff

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

I have an intake appointment with a new therapist on Monday!

#after weeks of trying to find a therapist specializing in DID who also takes my insurance and not finding anyone #I'm going with someone who seems competent enough for now #and I'm gonna try to get on a wait-list for a DID specialist #galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

I just took a big and scary step towards finding a better therapist! I'm shaking a bit but also proud of myself for getting through the fear and dissociation to do it

#galactic gab

[paradoxesofgalaxies]

I'm reading Dissociation Made Simple and I'm getting rather irked with how "integration" is being treated like a dirty word. It's very much presented as if the majority of people with DID are anti-integration. I'm only about halfway through the book so we'll see where this goes but definitely not appreciating the mix of "however you heal is valid" and presenting integration as a bad word

#the book def seems to be a more plu//ral take on DID and there have been quite a few eyebrow raising passages #like fusion isn't the right path for everyone but I'm sick of fusion being villainized in favor of embracing plu//rality #words broken up to avoid showing up in the tags #not interested in discourse about this #galactic gab #vent tw