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definitelynotcesia · 2 years

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Hello Cesia how are you?? First of all I miss you, I promise I'll read those recent updates as soon as my uni stops filling too much on my plate hahaha

I was mindlessly scrolling on Tumblr and I saw your recent post about ADHD. I wanted to speak a little about it since I do have it and it sucks honestly. So I'll probably get too excited, if you don't want to read it I totally understand, you don't even need to post it, do whatever feel comfy for you sweetie I mean it ( ˘ ³˘)♥. - Kaomoji anonie (U❍ᴥ❍)

So the thing is, doesn't matter if you are diagnosed or not, you'll suffer from people's prejudice either way, because of misinformation, both from neurothypicals and ADHDers themselves. But having a diagnose helps you and those around you understand yourself better, if the right information is spread.

The first thing we think we hear about ADHD is in the name, Attention deficit and Hyperactivity (no shit Sherlock), and that's all most people know about ADHD, they can't focus, can't sit still, are impulsive, in other words, disruptive behavior, these behavior are often mistaken as character flaws, that's why they say "oh you're not trying hard enough", "why can't you sit still?" , "If you cared about it you would remember" witch is understandable because you know... misinformation...

So I want to point out two important points

1- ADHD is caused by a biochemical imbalance: we lack two neurotransmitters, noradrenaline and dopamine. The first one is responsible for concentration and alertness, as well as memory, creative and cognitive processes, if you lack those (especially in your frontal cortex) you can't focus on one thing only and have a poor working memory (the capacity to keep and manipulate info during tasks for example). Dopamine is for pleasure and motivation, if you lack these, you can't keep motivated, specially in boring tasks and you seek for constant stimulation. And all that in the frontal cortex, the CEO of the Brain Enterprises.

2- There is a lot more to ADHD than just not paying attention, being restless and impulsive, because it's more about executive function issues than anything else. I'll list a few signs so you can understand better. Remember that every mental health problem are different for everyone, my advice is to know what describes you better:

Bad object permanence: What is out of sight is often out of mind, explained by bad working memory. That's why we forget important stuff.

Hyperfocus: It's only been talked about more recently, we sometimes spend hours doing something that gives us dopamine so we forget to eat, drink water and other basic human necessities (right now I'm very hyperfocused, just left a pratical test, have online class rn, have to study for lots of stuff and haven't shower or had eaten all day, but this text needs to be perfect because It gives me dopamine haha).

Emotional disregulation: When we feel things we FEEL things, like or I'm so happy and life is all unicorns and rainbows or I've never had a happy day in my life. (Also can we please talk about more about normal female hormonal stuff and ADHD in woman?? Please I need info on that)

Rejection sensitive dysphoria: This is bad honestly, lots of us are so scared of judgement that we may develop social anxiety and depression.

Sleep problems: insomnia or hypersomnia are common in ADHD

Sensory issues and there's a lot more

A fair amount of us learn trough life that we are basically born for failure, especially in today's society that demands focus, motivation AND COMPETITION to be successful. So lots of ADHDers may work even harder to get the same or worst results, leading to frustration, lots of us may give up and start believing what society says, leading to low self esteem. For me it was better to blame myself than my disorder, so I didn't work, I would get bad results either way, that's why today, even working very hard and achieving great things, I can never feel proud of it, and it hurts.

In conclusion, if you think you may have ADHD, do research, get a diagnosis, get to know your symptoms, know what works for you (work smarter not harder). There's a lot of tips on reddit, it's worth it to search there and try things out to see if it's right for you. With the right method and with self knowledge everyone's ADHD can be controlled, and for that to happen you HAVE to prioritize your mental health, you're allowed to feel.

And please DO NOT believe in any misinformation, or lack o information about you, having a disorder doesn't make us lazy, a bad person, a failure or any other bad character trait given.

"You are not born for failure, you just can't expect a fish to climb a tree" - it's a metaphor on how neurodivergents can't be expected to fit in the neurothypical norms. Just so you know "a fish can swim like nobody else can" - Michael Phelps is a great example of that, figuratively and literally (I wanted to do that joke so bad, I was waiting for that moment)

Phew I talk too much I'm so sorry, but honestly it was worth it, I felt comfortable to do so, hopefully not too comfortable haha (´-﹏-`；)

omg my kaomoji baby!!! first of all, oh my gaf i miss you so much :<<< i miss reading your very lively asks and i'm so glad to get one now hihi. second, you don't have to worry so much bby. i know how hectic uni can get so take your time. my asks is always open for your reactions if you finally have time to read it (but you also don't have to send one if you don't feel like it, its totally fine!!). third, don't ever say sorry for getting "too excited". i'm even more thankful, and genuinely enjoyed reading every bit of information you added!!

honestly this feels like a dsm5 review for me (and the funny thing was that i was reviewing neurodevelopmental disorders right before i came to tumblr today!!), so i'm really happy that you sent this one. and it's even more interesting to read these information from your point of view. it's like reading facts and all your personal inputs help me understand the disorder better. so really, thank you for sharing this!!! im so happy TT

i also love the quote you left. it just ties the explanation a lot more. so again thank youuuuu@!!!!

to those who are curious of the ADHD post (if there's any), it's this!! it's a reminder that even when you have mental disorders or not, it's important to educate ourselves so we know how to be respectful and kind in any way we can.

#— kaomoji anonie (u❍ᴥ❍)#[🐇] cesia ask box

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askemilydeanyo · 5 years

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I don't get turned on anymore. I haven't in a few months. I am 21 female, I do smoke alot of pot which I heard doesn't help. I can't figure out why Im like this? Is it possible my past relations made me this way? My last significant other was like this they were not really into sex and they didn't make me feel very wanted in that aspect.

Hi! Thanks for your question. There are certainly a handful of things that could be causing this.

To start, yes, smoking pot doesn’t always help. Like any one (or combination of) drug(s) affects people differently, marijuana is no exception. For the bulk majority of my pot-smoking career I would experience intense euphoria after smoking and my sex drive would spike drastically. I loved having sex with myself and with partners and was so fully engaged and intertwined in the experience that I considered this to be some of the most sensual sex I ever had in my life. After going some time without smoking and then picking it back up again, I found that smoking caused my sex drive to dramatically decrease. I was no longer sexually interested in my partner while high, less interested in my partner while sober, and found that when I was high I became incredibly self conscious. It was an extreme contrast from the experiences I had in the past, which left me feeling pretty jolted for a while. Crazy how things change, huh.

On the topic of pot, I am curious if there are any other drugs that you are taking. SSRI’s have been proven to drastically effect sex drive, as well as medicine for epilepsy, ADHD, blood pressure, anti-psychotics, pain management, AND birth control.

So the first thing I want you to consider is if you are taking any of those drugs, and how often. If you are, I would suggest contacting your doctor, setting up an appointment, and addressing your concerns. Most health professionals acknowledge that libido is a vital part of our lives, and will make accommodations accordingly. If they don’t, you might need a new doctor. *

Another thing to consider is what birth control you are or are not on. If you are taking hormonal birth control, like oral contraceptives or a hormonal IUD, they can and often do effect your sex drive by lowering your testosterone levels. If you are on a hormonal birth control, go to your doctor or gynecologist and have a discussion about potential other options. I know that the copper IUD and condoms are two solid options! It’s all about finding what works for you.

* If you are in Louisville, Kentucky, message me again and I can connect you with my lady doctors. They are seriously a dream team and are some of the most helpful and understanding women I have ever encountered in my life.

Something I also seriously consider would be doing a full blood scan. These can typically be done through your primary doctor or gynecologist office. For perspective: I was on one birth control for 7 years that I felt worked just fine with my body. Suddenly, my prescription changed to a generic brand and my body reacted terribly. I became depressed, my skin, body changed, and sex drive changed (negatively) amongst many other things. It was so bad that I actually thought I had developed bi-polar disorder. When I mentioned this to my doctor she suggested that we look at my blood levels. These tests revealed a huge spike in my estrogen that was caused by my ‘new’ birth control. Needless to say, after switching methods I successfully confirmed that I am indeed not bi-polar, and realized the huge role that synthetic hormones have on my body.

Doing a blood-screen will also give you good insight into your overall health, which plays a massive role in your sex drive - which leads me to my next point, being your diet and activity level. Do you have a balanced diet? How often are you exercising? What are your hobbies? I could go on and on, but what I’m getting at is how generally healthy are you? If you find that you spend a lot of time sedentary, or eating high-fat, high-sugar, high-carb food, this could play a huge role in the decline in your libido.

To address your last concern, totally, it is definitely possible that your past relationships have affected the way you view sexuality. When humans spend large amounts of time with people it’s easy to become accustomed to their ways. We start to use the same lingo, share the same beliefs, shop at the same places - the list goes on. If you are in a romantic relationship with someone who didn’t openly or frequently express their sexual desires to you, it makes sense that this is what you became accustomed to. However, that being said, it should not have a substantial overall effect on your sex drive as a whole. What about solo sex?

Are you masturbating? If so how frequently or infrequently? Do you ever look at other people and become sexually aroused? Do you have sexual fantasies? Did you used to have a more vibrant sexual past and it just recently became dull within the past few months, or did you feel a gradual decline for a while? There are a lot of things to consider, and it is important to assess whether you are not feeling turned on towards others or turned on in general. How much sexual attention are you giving to your own body?

Additionally, there are plenty of life factors that come into play. You mentioned that you smoke weed. You mentioned that your last relationship wasn’t exceptionally sexual. Have you recently started a new job? Are you overwhelmed with school? Did you recently move? Are you having a tough time in a friendship? Are you happy with the way you look? Are you living in a new environment? Sometimes these things take the forefront of our attention and sex becomes less important. This is just part of the ebb and flow of life. Sure, in a dream world we are all balancing school and work and a social life and our sexuality equally and proficiently, but that just can’t always be the case, so the less important things take the back seat. Consider what other external factors might be occurring here and you will probably gain a bit of insight.

So here is your homework in a nutshell: Figure out if any potential medicine you are taking is effecting you. Consider testing your blood levels. Incorporate more activity into your daily life as well as nutrient-dense meals. Make sure you are sleeping enough. Make sure you are practicing self love so that you feel sexually attractive to yourself, as well as potential partners. Explore fantasies that you have perhaps left in the background of your brain and see if these elicit exciting sexual feelings. Watch some porn if you watch porn. Read some books on sex if you like to read. Talk to friends, see if they have been in a similar funk. Google some stuff. Read some forums. Consider seeing a sex therapist if these feelings don’t subside. Try to set aside time to masturbate, even if you aren’t necessarily in the mood. Try to reconnect with your body in a way that you might have in the past. But most importantly, delve into all the facets in your life and see if there is any one thing you can pinpoint, and if you find it, tweak it. You know what’s going on inside of you better than anyone else.

Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to have a high sex drive for the time being. Some people just don’t - and if you don’t now, that’s not to say you won’t for long. Like I said, it ebbs and flows. I am a self-identified sex freak and there are times where I go weeks, even months without having sex. It always comes back. Tap into yourself and find what works for your body, your mentality, and your emotional-mental-sexual self. You’ll find the answer there.

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