#can't wait to see how many people read only the first sentence and then unfriend me

[juliabohemian]

So, I saw a post in which there was an image of Tom Hiddleston saying “I ruined your life? Darling, you came looking for it” and I threw up in my mouth a little bit. I’m not going to include the image in my post, because I don’t want to give it any more circulation, but you can find it here.

While I feel a strong ethical obligation to point out how incredibly toxic this image is, and how disrespectful to the actor, I acknowledge that most people who share this image are probably perfectly nice people who mean no disrespect for the actor whatsoever. My commentary is not a judgment of those who have reblogged this image, or even the person who made it, but merely a plea to please consider the deeper meaning behind things you create and share.

That being said, take a moment to consider the message in the aforementioned image. Would you tolerate this mentality from a real man (or woman) in your life? Outside of bedroom roleplaying? Would you be okay with your BF/GF/spouse saying something like this to you?

Let’s say for a moment that you actually WERE looking for it. It being misery or drama or general unpleasantness. That would be pathological behavior. And anyone who would take advantage of that would also be exhibiting pathological behavior. It’s not cute. It’s not sexy. It’s just messed up.

And it is especially peculiar that people insist on projecting this bizarre, hyper-sexual alpha-male persona onto Tom, when one of the greatest things about Tom Hiddleston is that he ISN'T LIKE THAT AT ALL. Outside of that one photoshoot where he happened to be wearing leather (which probably was the photographer’s idea) Tom has shown nary a hint of such inclinations in any public appearance or interview. There are lots of actors out there who would probably say “darling, you went looking for it” but Tom is not one of them.

Friends, I really hope that none of your lives feel ruined by another person, whether that person is in your life, a celebrity, or merely a fictional character. But if it does, you certainly do not deserve it.

And before you comment to tell me how this is just a joke, just for fun, just for pretend...let me remind you that fiction and fantasy have a tremendous impact on society, on socialization, on relationships, self image etc. Any information we consume has the power to affect us.

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