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softxsuki · 2 years

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TW: cheating, possible physical abuse, toxic relationship

I'm the Hawks anon who asked for comfort from rumours about cheating. It's been a while, how have you been doing?

I've just thought long and hard about what went down and due to some fights, I've decided to leave him once I graduate as to disappear and distance myself immediately. I'm not sure if I've been projecting an image of toxicity to our relationship or if I've been just looking through rose colored glasses for me to ignore these things.

Recently, he's gotten violent. Not with me but with his family. His relative is a toxic one that spouts hateful things and plants ideas into his head that I would leave him and find someone better even before the cheating. He has thrown a weight at them. If it did hit them(it didn't thankfully), I don't doubt that they would've died. This relative has been harassing him and I because I've been "using him" and "long distance relationships" don't work. He slapped them. Hard. I doubt that this wouldn't happen to me. I'm afraid. He hasn't hurt me physically but how long would it take for him to point that hand at me? At some point, we would live alone. Taking out your frustrations on physical objects leads to physical violence at some point.

Would it be okay for me to leave under these circumstances? It's been years since we were together. Oh man. I typed out "he's such a good guy when he's not mad" and I just felt like I had a premonition about my future.

Hey! Yes I remember you! I’ve been good, just trying to sort my life out and still adjusting to find a proper daily schedule that I can get used to lol.

Listen, if you have any doubts at all about the relationship you’re in, to the point where you feel like that violence might one day be directed at YOU, then you follow your gut and leaveeee. He should be a great guy and an amazing man for you ALWAYS, not just when he’s in a good mood. Ofc it’s normal for ppl to have bad days, but that’s so toxic if he takes it out in you. Even if it’s just verbally or emotionally. You deserve so much better!

Thanks for coming to talk to me about it, I’m so sorry that you have to go through something like this. I’m sure it’s not what you pictured when you first got together with him, but it happens. Never feel scared to let people go if you feel like they’re bringing only fear and negativity into your life. There’s someone better out there for you who will give you a life you deserve; full of happiness and love. I promise. But pls keep me updated on what you choose to do!

Stay safe. Love you 💗

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thetaoofbetty · 3 years

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people saying that they hate betty attitude this season really don't know her character. i don’t know about you but the way lili played betty this season really was it for me, now i understand a bit why she was acting like that. from the "me and jughead haven't been together for seven years", the shoulder touch, the "hey"….she was confused, annoyed and hurt at the same time. this is my opinion at least. she don’t understand why jughead wants to be friendly with her when she thinks he hates her. she confided to him about polly and said it was nice to see him again bc we know how this is gonna end. but the way she acts is the most “betty” thing she’s doing in this season so far, she hasn’t commited emotionally to someone since she was with jughead, she seems annoyed more at herself than playing the victim like people are saying. i have the bad feeling she probably was also held captive by tbk when jug sent that voicemail. so that doesn’t help. people invalidating how she feels is really weird to me. even if she cheated, doesn’t mean that jug was in wrong too. what i’m mad most about this cheating storyline is the fact that she’s the only one who had it the worst. yes i said it. veronica doesn’t speak to her anymore, jughead literally caller her a bitch. meanwhile archie is allowed to talk with the love of his life and bestie !! and they have the guts to invalidate how she feels about being called that way. invalidate her trauma bc cheating is a bad thing but jug doing drug and stuff is better than a mistake made by a traumatized kid ! i’m not saying invalidating jughead now. i’m just saying that if they excuse his attitude why betty is a whore for it? twt is saying they ruined her but more of that kiss? she’s the normal betty cooper for me. one last thing this jughead makes me feel uncomfortable. i really hope he doesn’t hurt himself. i felt tabitha discomfort too…and the way he called betty a bitch…i wasn’t expecting a love poem from him, i mean he was hurt. but i’m too used to his soft voice towards betty. even when they fought back in high school there were heart eyes there. i want angst but pls don’t let them hurt each other more. we know they love each other but i don’t want them to end up like falice. they’re different, ofc. but i prefer the whole thing of misunderstanding each other than big ass fights like that :(

i'm sorry i missed this, doll, it must have gotten lost in my inbox. i'm gonna put it under a cut to keep people from scrolling for a mile:

people saying that they hate betty attitude this season really don't know her character. i don’t know about you but the way lili played betty this season really was it for me, now i understand a bit why she was acting like that.—i think i said this before but betty's s5 "hardened by life detective" vibes have been obvious from the start. if you take s1 betty who pushed every emotion and hurt down and you add a shit ton of extra shitty stuff to it, you're bound to get s5 betty.

she is angry. she has reason to be and that's not just because of jughead's voicemail. she's been kidnapped and tortured, her job sidelined her (not that she should be an fbi agent but you know what i mean), her superior is not only a demeaning twat, it's someone she should not be sleeping with but she's being reckless. it's not like people with trauma are often self-destructive and reckless.

oh wait, they totally are and betty's self-preservation is pretty much non-existent right now.

and all of that is before we get into whatever emotional damage she's inflicted on herself for hurting jughead in the past.

from the "me and jughead haven't been together for seven years", the shoulder touch, the "hey"….she was confused, annoyed and hurt at the same time. this is my opinion at least. she don’t understand why jughead wants to be friendly with her when she thinks he hates her.—i agree, i've been waiting to see all season why she's so standoffish with him and, no, i don't think the voicemail is the sum of it. i think the voicemail is the outcome of it all, not the whole reason. we have jughead's version of the events in the voicemail (which was given not sober and emotionally charged), we don't have her side of those 5 years yet.

the truth might very well be, as some people say, somewhere in the middle.

she confided to him about polly and said it was nice to see him again bc we know how this is gonna end. but the way she acts is the most “betty” thing she’s doing in this season so far, she hasn’t commited emotionally to someone since she was with jughead, she seems annoyed more at herself than playing the victim like people are saying.—she is absolutely being reckless with herself, not playing the victim. she's the one who thinks she's a lost cause. if anything, she's probably internalized every bad thought everyone has had about her for the last 7 years and decided it's all true.

sleeping with archie and glen? incredibly bad ideas. and she knows it. she's found ways to justify it (saying she and jughead hadn't dated, etc) but that doesn't mean she doesn't understand she was playing with a certain amount of fire. and i think her starting the conversation in 5x08 with archie, realizing she can't keep using him to bury her problems (archie saying it more bluntly doesn't mean that betty doesn't essentially say the same thing in their conversation) gets lost in the episode but it was important for her to decide when it comes to that. going right back to glen after archie? yeah. also bad but easier for her to use him because glen isn't even a friend so her level of guilt/investment is much lower (probably zero, ha).

betty is never going to be emotionless when it comes to jughead and that means she can't hide from him and she pretty much always fails when she tries to. avoiding him seems to be her best defense against him.

i have the bad feeling she probably was also held captive by tbk when jug sent that voicemail. so that doesn’t help.—i mean, the timelines don't add up in reality but it's also riverdale and the class of 2021 came back 7 years later into the year 2021 so it's entirely possible.

people invalidating how she feels is really weird to me. even if she cheated, doesn’t mean that jug was in wrong too. what i’m mad most about this cheating storyline is the fact that she’s the only one who had it the worst. yes i said it. veronica doesn’t speak to her anymore, jughead literally caller her a bitch. meanwhile archie is allowed to talk with the love of his life and bestie !! and they have the guts to invalidate how she feels about being called that way.—she can make the bigger mistake and jughead can still be wrong for his mistakes. there seems to be some sort of competition of who has the purer fave and that's...weird?

truly, archie is the real winner here. he pretty much gets to carry out his love affair with hiram and still get veronica when he wants for the most part.

honestly, it's just hypocrisy. the same people that vague blogged or reblogged me to drag me for saying that it was bad writing for betty to cheat are now some of the people who say that jughead calling her names in the voicemail is bad writing. which is just, you know, funny to me at this point.

i have no interest in their character purity play but more power to them i guess.

invalidate her trauma bc cheating is a bad thing but jug doing drug and stuff is better than a mistake made by a traumatized kid ! i’m not saying invalidating jughead now. i’m just saying that if they excuse his attitude why betty is a whore for it? twt is saying they ruined her but more of that kiss? she’s the normal betty cooper for me.—ask me how much money i'd bet that had jughead been the one to kiss someone, none of this year long saga of calling people names would have happened.

one last thing this jughead makes me feel uncomfortable. i really hope he doesn’t hurt himself. i felt tabitha discomfort too…and the way he called betty a bitch…i wasn’t expecting a love poem from him, i mean he was hurt. but i’m too used to his soft voice towards betty. even when they fought back in high school there were heart eyes there.—oh, doll, i think he's already hurting himself. he's not drinking or doing drugs because he's picked it up recreationally. this show isn't going to show him casually partying, that's not the track they've taken on substance use. his leaving that voicemail has had it's consequences for both of them and i'm sure sober jughead isn't going to be a fan of what he's said to her.

i want angst but pls don’t let them hurt each other more. we know they love each other but i don’t want them to end up like falice. they’re different, ofc. but i prefer the whole thing of misunderstanding each other than big ass fights like that :(—they've been talking about not being their parents since s1 and i think that's what they need to overcome now so it doesn't complete the cycle. and big fights in fiction usually means big passion. i'd be far more upset if they were indifferent to each other.

jughead was calling betty and leaving angry voicemails 5 years after a breakup while he was dating another girl, that's not exactly someone who's lost his passion for her, you know? her anger is buried and she's taking it out on herself but i feel like it's because she's been avoiding the one person who can push all of her buttons.

they need to get it all out there if you ask me. even if it's a big fight.

#besos!#ariedit #mentions of drug and alcohol use #long post #i mean like #offensively long

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woozisnoots · 3 years

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Hello alex! Maybe I'm to early for having a emergency request but I haven't really going anywhere outside my house beside buy groceries and I haven't socialize properly in months (maybe there is a bunch of people can relate). It's stressing and make me mentally exhausted for months 😭😭😭 can I request something like joshua fluff or wonwoo fluff that can comfort us? And I get it if you can't do it since I think I'm to early for asking. Anyway hope you have a nice day ❣️

no ofc it’s not too early! pls, i want to do this for you guys 🥺💓 these are meant to be small so i ended up doing both. i hope you enjoy and if you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox and dms are always open!

𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙣𝙙𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙦𝙪𝙖𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙚 𝙩𝙤𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧!

° pairing: joshua x reader, wonwoo x reader ° genre: fluff! ° word count: 1214 ° warnings: none! ° tagging: @jaeyoonurl bc she has a thing for j*shua hong

masterlist!

— joshua

in the scenario that you and joshua are living together in a small apartment complex, he does the slightest bit to annoy you whether it be intentional or not

like he’ll either make you stay in bed with him longer than usual so you’d be late to a zoom class / meeting

or he’d purposefully flick you behind the ear while you’re cooking which causes you to accidentally pour more than just a pinch of salt on your eggs

since josh owns that little projector that has slides of all the different constellations, he would turn it on right before you guys go to sleep as you lay next to each other on the bed and just stare at the stars from your ceiling

he loves making jewelry to pass the time while you guys watch netflix together. and wants nothing more than receiving an accessory that you made yourself

“joshua hong, please!” you fling your arms up to reach for the object now in joshua’s hands, much to your avail. “it’s literally so ugly. i beg you, please don’t wear it!” the little jump you add doing nothing but exhaust your energy.

you knew it was bad idea, you should have trusted your gut the minute joshua left to get the groceries. forty-five minutes was just not enough time for you to possibly make a small thank you gift for you boyfriend. a token to say, ‘this is what three years has gotten us.’

“but you gave it to me!” joshua refutes back. you let your guard down, breathing rapidly in order to catch your breath from the unnecessary movement of having to keep up with him. he, on the other hand, took this as an opportunity to run, sprint away from your wrath and make a clean line for the bathroom before shutting the door to securely lock it in place.

joshua hears your wallowed out screams coming from the other side and softly chuckles under his breath, wondering when you’ll ever get used to his childish antics at times. he safely unravels his hands to reveal the tiny object. and he can’t help but smile wide, ear to ear, and think, ‘so that’s why i felt something pointy.’

you’ve given up at this point. by now, he’s probably already seen your gift and for all you know, everything is doomed. your hand laid flat on top of the door, deciding whether to shrivel in front of him now or wait until he confronts you first. yet, he’s able to make that decision for you as he abruptly opens the door causing you to fall forward straight into his arms.

“why, hello gorgeous,” you watch from underneath him, the corner of his lip rising up to form a cheeky smirk. you squint your eyes menacing at the thought that he could possibly be wearing the horrid gift you made. tilting your head to the side, you open one eye to catch a glimpse of green hanging from joshua’s left ear. he turns his head just slighty so you could get a better look. “you’ve really out done yourself, if i had anything to say about it. though i have to say, i didn’t think you’d go for the cute food aesthetic. i thought you hated avocados.”

blood immediately rushes towards your cheeks and hide your face from joshua’s vision but he was too quick. using his brute strength, he pulls your weight so you’re standing in front of the mirror, back facing him. your mind spirals as you feel joshua tuck strands of your hair behind your ear. “awe lookie, i knew you’d be wearing the other one,” he says before deliverying a small peck to your cheek, leaving you a scrambled mess. “what a perfect anniversary gift.”

— wonwoo

spending time with wonwoo during quarantine would be rather quiet and simple, but that doesn’t mean your time spent together is boring

having little to nothing to do all day makes you realize how much renovations you guys can do around your home

your morning conversations over breakfast would be about different home décor that you found on amazon and you would end up having such a fun time talking about it because you guys turn them into little debates over if the items are actually necessary

that being said, wonwoo would be so willing to buy anything that would fill your guys’ boredom. and yes, that would include getting two separate desks, possibly four computer screens, two headsets, two light up keyboards for the heck of it, and of course: two very comfortable gamer chairs

no, he would not let you win at any games for freebies — you gotta earn that shit

out of all the days of the week, nothing was ever reserved for sundays. truly, every day was a free day — lounging around, doing chores, testing new cooking hacks to see if they actually worked. but sundays especially were just extra... boring. the very end of the week with absurd nothing to do. which has led you to spend this sunday morning in front of your dual computer screens with your boyfriend joining you on the other side of the desk.

“damn it!” you exclaim, lightly slamming the keys on your keyboard due to this endless frustration boiling inside of you since you’ve started playing. “how do i keep losing... it’s club penguin for fucks sake!”

your hands collect your face with pure dread and exhaustion, wondering how your supreme logic failed you during card jitsu. you hear a hearty chuckle coming from wonwoo sitting across from you. “the cards are just in my favor, sweetheart.” he eyes you as he takes the warm cup of coffee to his lips to take a sip. “how about, best two out of three to see who has to make breakfast?” the huskiness of his voice growing deeper with each word, leaving you in trace for just a moment.

you ponder at the bet, looking back between the screen showcasing your pink penguin and your beautiful barefaced boyfriend, ultimately coming to a decision. “what about. i watch you wipe out your penguin foes for the next few rounds and then we can make breakfast together,” you suggest instead, your mind thinking far beyond your apparently lousy deck of cards.

“fine by me,” wonwoo shrugged, adjusting himself comfortably to his seat. you silently admire him from where you are, noticing how notably meticulous he was being when he’s focused. wonwoo’s eyes captures yours but gives you a puzzled look. “are you not gonna come over here?” he quietly asks.

the simple question makes your head drop, feeling embarrassed as you try hard not to show him how flustered he made you. regardless, your legs move without you having to think it over. and instead of sitting on the small space that he left for you on his chair, you move his arm aside to face him before straddling your legs and sitting on his lap.

wonwoo, completely unfazed, takes his free arm not holding his mouse and tugs you in closer to his chest so you can lay your head on his shoulder. for the remainder of your morning, your eyes slowly start to droop to the sound of penguin screams and victory.

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