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blvemonday · 5 years

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amelia st. james’ playlist.

gods & monsters by lana del rey.

in the land of gods and monsters i was an angel living in the garden of evil screwed up, scared, doing anything that i needed

primadonna by marina and the diamonds.

get what i want 'cause i ask for it not because i'm really that deserving of it living life like i'm in a play in the limelight, i want to stay i know i've got a big ego i really don't know why it's such a big deal, though

the fear by lily allen.

and i am a weapon of massive consumption and it's not my fault, it's how i'm programmed to function i'll look at the sun and i'll look in the mirror i'm on the right track, yeah, i'm on to a winner

i don't know what's right and what's real anymore i don't know how i'm meant to feel anymore when do you think it will all become clear 'cause I'm being taken over by the fear

holy by king princess.

honey, on your knees when you look at me i’m dressed like a fucking queen and you're begging 'please' i rule with the velvet tongue and my dress undone and i'll get you lost, but i'm having fun

hard feelings/loveless by lorde. ( @howolivery )

please, could you be tender? and i will sit close to you let's give it a minute before we admit that we're through guess this is the winter //

'cause i remember the rush, when forever was us before all of the winds of regret and mistrust now we sit in your car and our love is a ghost well, i guess i should go

i don’t want it at all by kim petras.

give me all of your attention give me summer in the hamptons if i cannot get it right now i don't want it, i don't want it, i don't want it at all

untouched by the veronicas. ( @jaxxdevon )

don't even talk about the consequence ‘cause right now, you're the only thing that's making any sense to me and i don't give a damn what they say, what they think, think ‘cause you're the only one who's on my mind //

i feel so untouched right now need you so much somehow i can't forget you been going crazy from the moment i met you

lovefool by the cardigans.

so i cry, i pray, and i beg love me, love me say that you love me fool me, fool me go on and fool me love me, love me pretend that you love me

7 rings by ariana grande.

whoever said money can't solve your problems, must not have had enough money to solve 'em they say, "which one?" i say, "nah, i want all of 'em" happiness is the same price as red-bottoms //

i want it, i got it, i want it, i got it

perfect illusion by lady gaga. ( @nathaniellynn )

it wasn't love, it wasn't love it was a perfect illusion mistaken for love, it wasn't love it was a perfect illusion

#shermer.task #q

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talkthereal · 5 years

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1. Keep quiet.

Please. When things are not moving according to your pace or how you would want them to happen, you are most likely complaining. So, here’s a solution- keep quiet. Bite your tongue, bandage it up & have it full. See, now you can’t talk. Everything you want to say will come out as oooaaahh. No, don’t write it down either. Practicing this has helped me a great deal ☺ I have been saved from saying things which I’d later on regret. “Why are you so slow?” “Goodness you haven’t done that yet?” Nah-ah.

2. Walk away

Like Literally. Go to the next room. Go outside. Just leave the world its peace. Do it respectfully though. Do not act like you have stomped out. Usually if the activity that is causing me to be bossy (“Babe, fix that curtain”, “Babe when are you going to fix the curtain?”, “God, the sun!”, “Babe, not like that”) is in the bedroom, I say “I’ll be right back” or “let me check on this” so that my husband knows I have not gone out in anger and I’m not throwing a tantrum. So, when you go to another room…

3. Too busy to pry

Do something. Cook a meal. Do the dishes ( :-p ) Call a friend.

If it’s a long-term thing that is causing you to nag then keep yourself busy by starting another project. By the time you are done he’ll most probably be done too.

4. Rest

Sometimes you are just tired. I can be a wifezilla when I am fatigued. So, we have an agreement at home to not have ‘serious’ conversations after 8pm unless it is a matter of life and death. We have our ‘serious conversations’ in the morning before leaving home when everyone is fresh and sane. Solution-sleep on it.

5. Pray

Yes, you can remove the bandage from your mouth and pray. Pray for strength and grace to wait. Pray for wisdom to make the right decision. Give thanks to the Lord and be filled with the joy of the Spirit. Let Him take charge. Let Him do the talking. Let Him take the wheel and give you rest. Let Him walk you away from the chaos in your mind to His still waters. Praying will work for you every time. It will even take your focus off whatever it is that’s causing you discomfort or distress. And speaking of focus…

6. Beauty

Everything is pink and rosy. Look at the positive side. Look for the positive side. If you are too ticked to see any positives then look at beauty. What calms you? What inspires you? Taking walks helps me, looking at cloud patterns inspires me. Looking at wedding pictures hanging in the living room makes me smile. This might seem cheesy to you but I’ll tell you it works.

7. Don’t take the wheel

Keep your hands off. So, hubby dearest is taking his time to get things done and instead of go at it with him again you decide to do it yourself. Don’t you dare. I have been prey to this countless times and by countless I mean I lost count because they were so many until God talked to me about this personally. Here’s what I learnt; whenever you do a task your husband was supposed to do or you had asked your husband to do (without him asking for your help), your husband feels disrespected. In girl language, he feels unloved. It is like the worst thing ever. You might as well cut out his heart while you are at it.

8. Speak life

Remove the bandage on your tongue only if you are willing to be well behaved and speak to yourself. To yourself. “I am patient” “I am wise” “A wise woman builds up her house, a foolish one tears it down” Calm yourself with words. Do not use this time to complain to yourself or speak anything negative concerning your husband. Reaffirm your identity as a lovely wife, as a respectful wife, as a virtuous woman. Try it. Do it even now. Do it in the mirror if you want to. You are patient. Believe it. Act like it.

9. Be empathetic

Try to see from his point of view. Perhaps you need to sit down with the person and find out what’s going on. Why the process is taking longer than you would have wanted. I got this bonus point from my husband actually. I was like “Babe, what tips can you give wives who are impatient, sort of like how I was?” and that’s what he said so may be your husband would like for you to be more understanding and behave in a way that shows that you empathize with him.

10. Perspective

Okay, so what is most important for you right now? The relationship or having your way? A happy husband or the results? I mean of course you might get frustrated at some point but that will not be forever, what is forever till death do you part is your covenant relationship with this amazing man. I’ll tell you when you change your mind to care for what is important, the frustrations will shrink.

Check your trust.

Check to see whether you are being impatient because you do not trust the person to deliver or to meet your standards. Perhaps he has failed to do something on time before? Or he has failed you before? May be you are the kind of person who likes to micromanage because you do not trust other people to be as ‘awesome’ as you? I have realized that I used to be so controlling (see how I’m using the past tense here? 😉 ) because of fear and mistrust. So check your trust.

If you have been a nagging, control-freak of a wife and have therefore disrespected or hurt your husband with your words or actions, say sorry. If you remember incidents, be specific in your apology. Let him know that you would like to start off on a clean slate. He can help point out to you when you show control-freak symptoms and you can work together to get you better.

Do remember that as a child of God, you are a new creation and therefore all these habits and traits are of the old person you used to be. You’re actually a very patient, meek, tender person ☺ Read the word of God, talk through this with Him and walk in your new identity.

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