#but i highly suggest listening to the experiences of adoptees that are both pro and anti adoption

[junsongs]

Also in regards to my last post people are allowed to want their own biological children and yes there are many children that do need homes but I would maybe look into info from adoptees because many of them advocate for rare adoptions. Adoption shouldn’t be treated as a last minute consolation for not being able to have kids if you cant have them yourself. Adoption is extremely traumatizing to the child even in infancy and many adoption agencies put children in abusive situations because they work for profit not the benefit of children. Adoption in general effectively works like a legal form of human trafficking.

And on top of all of this not all people are suited to be good adoptive parents and women are socialized to believe our only purpose to be wives and have children so god forbid a woman find happiness in something shes been told she should have in order to be a “real woman.” And yes there is another conversation about how awful that conditioning is but disparaging women who have a desire for bio children does not fix that and it does not make you above anyone it makes you an asshole.

#bb24 #i wanted to add to my tags that obviously adoption is a nuanced thing and it is a system that needs to exist #but the talk about adoption often revolves around it being a solution for not being able to have bio kids and as a last option #when it should revolve around the well being of the child #and many adoptees advocate for rare adoption #not all obvi #but in many cases it is healthier and less traumatizing for a child to be able to be reunified with a biological parent if that is possible #but in the current adoptions system they get moreso treated like property to buy which adds onto the trauma that is already there just #being removed from bio parents for whatever reason in the first place #and its even worse in the case of international adoption #the adoption industry as a whole is extremely shady if you research it #but i highly suggest listening to the experiences of adoptees that are both pro and anti adoption #its very eye opening #about the conversation around adoption in general #and how its framed