#be kind to missionaries

[forestgreenlesbian]

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#feel like my relationship with my younger brother is changed completely forever not to be dramatic lol but i am sad #we used to b very close but he has kind of. found his faith again and gone full missionary christian which like. i knew meant the dynamic #was doomed lmao but actually acknowledging it makes me sad i feel like i'm grieving for the friendship we used to have even though #it is literally a me problem i think from his perspective he doesn't think anything has changed. but i feel weird about everything #also his new gf is nineteen and he is. almost 25 and i am the only one who feels weird about it like i know she's over 18 but! idk i can't #tell if i'm being overly cautious or if my gut instinct is right. my sister & her husband have a similar age gap but they met when they wer #both over 30 so like. it didn't feel weird. and i didn't feel comfortable actually seriously talking to him about it apart from the first #time he mentioned her over facetime (he went to another country to do mission stuff & met her there) so like an idiot i've just been #making jokes about the age gap becausee like. thats always been our thing lightly bullying each other lol but he blew up at me and said #i've had nothing positive to say about her since he's been back home and that he thinks i hate her and i'm out of line for constantly #implying he's creepy for dating someone younger. idk i felt like such a freak idiot horrible person about it. it completely blindsided me #bc yes the jokes were coming from a place of idk how i feel about this situation so i'm going to rely on the humour-based communication #we have always fallen back on as a safety thing but i guess i was wrong or the dynamic shifted or something anyway it's all fucked #& everyone is just telling me i feel weird out of some?? misplaced kind of jealousy thing?? because i'm 'losing' my brother to his gf lol #which does not feel right at all he has dated so many other girls and i have never had a problem it is literally the age gap like i haven't #even met this girl i'm sure she's very nice! i just worry about her being nineteen!! jesus. and yes maybe i do feel some resentment around #a brother younger than me who seems to be able to live his life with zero difficulty whilst i'm stuck being this unemployed loser who ruins #literally ever friendship & relationship ive ever had but i think thats ok right like i can't help feeling that. i don't fucking knowwww #am i just projecting all these sad feelings about our friendship dying onto his new relationship or like. am i right to be genuinely #concerned she's six years younger than him and still a fucking teenager!!!!!! i don't know

[moxley]

the terms dom and sub, much like top and bottom, have entered mainstream fandom parlance and in those contexts no longer strictly apply to bdsm or even strictly to “who penetrates”. stuff like dom or top has become a shorthand way to say “i think this character would be the person leading during sex”. hope this helps

#tal.png #astarion being vanilla missionary is funny and true which is why i am not reblogging to razz #but like … the kinds of shit actual kink practicers get up to has little to no resemblance to fandoms use of terminology lol #nsft #and yes cishet ships do get referred to with top/bottom now. i don’t rlly care but it is funny

[mermaidsirennikita]

🎄Romance Advent🎄 Day 12: When the Duke Was Wicked by Lorraine Heath

One-sentence summary: After losing his wife and child, devoted husband the Duke of Lovingdon becomes a dissolute rake, only to be dragged out of his stupor by family friend Grace, who wants him to help her find a loving husband.

Why read it: I recommend this book a good bit as is, but in my opinion it's right up there with Lorraine's Greatest Hits (Waking Up with the Duke, The Earl Takes All, among the general Scoundrels of St. James) and doesn't get the credit it deserves. It's incredibly emotional, super sexy, and gives you that classic "local man won't say he's in love even though all he thinks of is her and they constantly end up doing sex acts in various semi-public locations". It also presents something you really don't see a lot of in historicals, and it really asks something of the hero on a very deep level. (Also: you can always read Surrender to the Devil to see Grace's parents fall in love, and Between the Devil and Desire to see Lovingdon as an innocent boy who I guess learned a lot of shit from his eventual stepdad, Jack Dodger.)

Lives rent-free in my brain: I mean.... Lovingdon and Grace do that thing where they're casually getting drunk in his study, as buddies do, and casually getting drunk turns into casually making out and casually making out turns into him going "I want to taste rum on your lips" and she's all "oh well keep kissing me I guess" and he's all "oh great" and flips her onto her back, pours rum on her pussy, goes "I said I wanted to taste rum on lips" and Goes. To. Town. One of the most inspired scenes Lorraine has ever written.

#romance novel blogging #romance advent 2023 #romance novels #book recs #me offering you this book like a mormon missionary: have you heard of our lord and savior RUM ON LIPS #but fr i cried the first time they had (penetrative) sex it's that kind of book #comes at you with full feelings

[unamazing-sheep21]

Got back from rainforest holiday. Conclusion is that colonialism is the cause of all modern world problems. It is the cause the world is heating up. Wish those mfs minded their own business fr. wtf.

#colonialism #colonization #my country is still haunted by the ghost of the occupation and it's been 76ish years wtf #why do so many former colonized countries suffer from violent dictators #the colonialism in my country wasn't settler colonialism nor was it missionary colonialism ( they tried and failed) it was like #“this land is ours now lol but you still have to work it and btw I won't pay you lmao and you can't eat your harvest” kind of colonialism #it makes me so angry when I think about it wth

[techmomma]

I've been playing Fallout: New Vegas for a month now and I really like the game. Like I absolutely like it more than Fallout 4 in terms of story. Gameplay's still pretty good too.

But ohhhh. Boy that Honest Hearts DLC leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

#if you haven't played it #there is a quest that is called Civilized Man's Burden #and it's not like a fun deconstruction or parody #it's what it says on the tin #which is like the entire DLC summed up #the only two named characters that you have any kind of meaningful interaction with #are missionary stand-ins #there's like three named Tribals(tm) and not a single one of them has any agency #you and the Missionaries decide everything for them because they are Innocent and Ignorant #AND YES #THE TRIBALS ARE HINTED TO BE DESCENDANTS OF PEOPLE WHO WERE LIVING ON A RESERVATION #WHEN THE BOMBS HIT #it's so yucky #yucky-disgusting

[spurgie-cousin]

Just saw the video and commentary you posted around the poverty cosplaying and I just want to add that there used to be a different place in Arkansas that did a similar thing, sorta. It was through a charity organization that shifted focus so they no longer run the program, but they used to have a "global village" where people would get assigned different regions of the world to live in by lottery with a couple key differences. First, they used actual names of actual countries and provided actual information about the country/culture. Secondly, it wasn't for mission training but instead was meant to be an educational tool to help middle school and high school students to consider how existing in different global and socio-economic circumstances change your decision making etc. and in depth discussion and educational activities were facilitated frequently. I went there as part of an overnight high school trip and while in retrospect the "poverty cosplaying" does give me the ick I still feel like that particular program was informative. Mostly I'm shook that two distinct programs like this exist in AR? I've literally never heard of the Harding one from the video until now and went on a Google deep dive to see if they were connected in some way, but not that I can tell. Anyway, no deep thoughts really, just thought it was super interesting/weird.

There is something in the water over there in Arkansas man lol. I can never learn just some normal fact about AR, it's always something weird.

I totally understand wanting to create more empathy for those who live in poverty, especially in teenagers who are in a really formative years of their lives. And it's one thing to replicate conditions in your immediate area which you are intimately familiar with, but I just can't get on board with play-acting poverty in different areas of the world. I just think about how I'd feel if some religious group in another country tried to replicate my life experience for shock value.

Even replicating the conditions semi-well can't replicate the actual stakes faced by the people they're cosplaying. You can't replicate the stress of a single mother working 2 jobs and supporting 3 kids in a one-room house, you can't replicate the stress of food insecurity and legitimately being worried about when your next meal will be, etc etc. And something about pretending to do them when you can just go back to normal life at any time just feels disrespectful in a way I can't really articulate.

Idk if people get something from it that's great and I do get the thinking behind the one you described at least, I'm mostly still ranting about the first camp lol. I don't have any doubt that some of the people running the camp you went to had good intentions (the other one though I'm really not sure based on the town names) I just have a lot of mixed experience in Christian missionary culture where poverty is treated voyeuristically which is just definitely the vibe I got from the first camp.

#idk my dad grew up really really poor and i live in an area with a lot of poverty and so maybe i'm just overly touchy about it #but so much of the “philanthropic” culture i experienced in Christianity was making an other out of poor people #it's hard for me to really articulate well i feel but it was just this disconnect like we are different. we are the saviors. #we're on a different level. when in reality i mean everyone is an arm's length away from being in a bad situation in the right circumstance #i think the fact that a lot of the missionary work we did too was just classic surface level stuff like putting a bandaid on a gaping wound #kind of stuff that never addresses the root issues of poverty left a bad taste in my mouth for the community too #my church in particular has had this fundraising event every year for 80 years for the same area in africa building infrastructure and its #like....it's been damn near a century. how has this goal not been accomplished yet like where is this money going too?? #why have the missionaries in question seemed to make so little progress #idk ok im done lol i havent ranted in the tags in so long

[boag]

Just talked to some Jehovah’s Witnesses about the occupation of Palestine on my porch

#one thing about me I can’t turn away religious missionaries #it feels so rude idk . I don’t fw what they’re doing but also they were already indoctrinated and get doors slammed in their faces all day #so I like to be kind to them and hear what they have to say just like human to human #even tho I know I’ll never agree enough to buy into what they’re selling #they were nice tho they showed me a corny video about God’s Kingdom and just talked to me a lil bit #and gave me a pamphlet that I’m prolly not gonna read #they just got out of church I think? #bc there was like a parade of Jehovah’s Witnesses in nice clothes walking down my street #idk where their church is I didn’t know we had much of that demographic in my neighborhood akdjskfkakcmskfm #most of the people I’ve met here are puerto rican catholics lol

[deanmarywinchester]

once again rotating the fact that the terror succeeds ALMOST completely on two separate levels as a tragedy within a tragedy. like okay in the smallest matryoshka doll, the terror is adventure/exploration horror/tragedy. in this narrative, men boldly go out into the wilderness to conquer it and fail because of problems at the level of (white) Man: poor leadership, poor supplying, zero rescue plan, class divisions causing friction. it succeeds as an exploration narrative (frequently—and nearly always in the case of period exploration narratives—an explicitly colonialist genre), because it has compassion for the explorers even though they’re condemned to die

and almost all of the characters in the exploration narrative are unaware that the larger matryoshka doll in the terror is horror/tragedy about the damage colonialism does to Indigenous lives and livelihoods and spirituality, the environment, and even the perpetrators of colonialism. in this narrative, men arrogantly go where they are unprepared and unwanted and fail because of problems at the level of (white) Society: namely, that Society should never have sent them in the first place, never glamorized their assault on the arctic, never bound them into class structures and fetishization of western goods that fractured them and sapped their strength. which is fascinating! it’s so interesting to me that condemning the explorers and having compassion for them can coexist, and it’s Wildly fascinating that unlike in most tragedies, hardly any character truly understands what they did wrong and what fatal flaw doomed them to die.

and the fact that it Almost succeeds on both levels makes it all the more frustrating to me that Indigenous stories are deemphasized and I can’t even figure out how to fix it. like, I think it’s important to the function of both levels or story that we mostly see the Netsilik from the explorers’ point of view until the end, when showing the Netsilik as a fully functioning independent society contextualizes and makes ridiculous the suffering of the explorers. the protracted, “heroic” deaths in pursuit of glory were totally meaningless and absurd. safety was there the whole time if they had the humility to reach out and learn and hadn’t spent years in attempts to subjugate. in my ideal version of the book, the final 150 pages or so is the first silna POV we get, but I think that kind of hard left turn is more difficult to pull off in the tv medium and I don’t know how to accomplish what I wanted from the tv show

#my posts #the terror #the terror lb #I’ve made similar posts about this but I think I finally articulated it correctly #idk ive just been thinking about if and how it’s possible to save explicitly colonialist genres/microgenres that uncritically cropped up in #my childhood #tell me why missionaries who were executed by indigenous peoples were glamorized in my catholic school to the point where we were supposed #to aspire to that kind of death #anyway. the terror

[faultyconscience]

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#have this...acquaintance i suppose who is like p uber christian #like...lived in guatemala parents were missionaries there level christian lmfao #and she came for easter last night and was like. literally lowkey lecturing how 'x brand of christianity is the right kind' #and i'm like???? BITCH #ur literally at our fucking easter dinner rn so can u stfu for one goddamn minute and just eat some greek food?!?!??! #i admit i'm not always great at reading a room but like. READ THE FUCKING ROOM MY GUY #.ooc ( it feels so empty without me )

[venusararara]

Omg I want to draw more NSFW of other ppls ocs w/ Gatherine but she only fucks in like 3 positions HFKSBFKW

#she doesnt like looking strangers in the face during sex so it's usually from behind #missionary if ur lucky and she likes u a bunch #it'd be ooc for her to ride. shes not that kind of demon #she will ravage u in 3 (three) different ways #lmk if i can draw gatherine fuckin ur oc in 1 of 3 ways LOL

[narke]

was super obvious about my crush today but i did get a sweet failed hip bump sweep to successful scissor sweep to failed cross collar choke to failed arm triangle to failed s mount armbar to mounted triangle to roll to traditional triangle finish

#ok so its like a super long convoluted story to basically say i was kind of weird and blushy but probably ultimately not that noticeably so #but we were doing hip bump sweep setup drills and there were odd numbers so he went with me and anyways halfway through the ‘this is kind of #like missionary and our crotches are kind of thrusting together’ thoughts hit and i got kind of blushy and distracted and quietly went to jo #in a training partnership and left him to coach #but he bantered with me about dua lipas levitating so probably not noticeably weirder than i usually am woth him #he did do a kind of sing songy? flirty? (lying to myself) ‘thanks [name]~’ at the end of class so who knows #JOIN. NOT JO. jesus christ #well in other news someone complimented my guard recovery skills hehe

[crowned-peony]

I'm going to spread the word of fictional dick.

#The only kind of missionary work i will do #well not sexy missionary work

[becoming-with]

Christian mystic groaning when the bible became mainstream

#sincere thought about the kind of industrialisation of spirituality under missionary preaching and power structures infecting spirituality

[headofocs-inklesspen]

I’ve subjected my coworkers to this before, but the way indoctrination works, especially into extreme high control religious groups and cults, fascinates me.

You’re not immune to it. No one is truly immune to it. Successful indoctrination, especially regarding cults, finds the smallest little insecurity and magnifies it. And to hold you in until you’re passed the point of easy escape, they keep you focused on that insecurity, and add new, seemingly connected insecurities, while simultaneously convincing you that they have the answers, they alone have the solution to your insecurities.

They set up and manipulate experiences and interactions with outsiders that deepen the belief that they alone understand, they alone love you and want the best for you. The outsiders are cruel and unsympathetic and why would you ever want to go into the greater outside world when it doesn’t have it’s best intentions for you at heart.

They manipulate and love bomb and overwhelm every argument and uncertainty you have until you think exactly as they want. And you will never be immune. Because everyone will have a low point, will be insecure, will be desperate for faith, will feel like an outsider no one understands or loves. Everyone is vulnerable, maybe not at all points in their life, maybe some less so than others, but everyone is. And claiming you can’t be manipulated or tricked by propaganda actually lowers your subconscious watch for it and makes you that much more susceptible.

#crow rambles #‘I think I dodged the stereotype of being autistic and deeply interested in psychology’ #also me: ‘you know what’s fascinating? how indoctrination and manipulation works’ #don’t get me started on evangelical ‘Christianity’ and how it’s all cult manipulations and no actual Christianity #or on how the US gov unintentional set up the Mormon church to drive the FLDS becoming an extremist cult #because I could give an essay on how the US gov directly caused Warren Jeffs and the FLDS becoming an isolated extremist cult #indoctrination and manipulation #indoctrination #part of why I pay close attention to what the evangelical far right says is because identifying propaganda helps protect you from believing #another thing that can help people from falling for manipulation and indoctrination is being kind #especially to those only just starting to fall into it.l #be kind. it disrupts the manipulation effect of the ‘us against them’ mentality #like obviously you are only responsible for yourself #but being kind to the Mormon missionary boys will do more than yelling at them #kindness opens opportunity to question what they’re being taught #hatred just reaffirms that only the group loves you. only *I* love you. the outsiders are evil and hate you

[77ngiez]

byt i think that theyve wised up to my tactics like, i ran away from them on these dope ass electric scooters (sadly discontinued now) or just literally running away. for years. cause unlike the baptists they will not take "i'm not interested" for an answer ant least not quickly

but now they're cahsing me on hoverboards. htye just upped the game

kinda genius of them ngl. maybe i should reach out to president nelson and get him to provide hoverboards for all missionaries

#I JEST I JEST… #anon in all seriousness if they rlly wont take no for an answer and its wearing on you feel free to like. ask me for advice #missionaries can be really persistent bcs the gospel is like! so special! to us! and we want everybody to have the happiness and salvation! #+ missions are kind of the mormon coming of age type story #but if theyre disrespecting boundaries thats not okay #you can probably reach out to the local mission center in ur area to contact them abt whats going on and they’ll probably do smth about it #if its not that serious and im reading into it too much tho then ignore all of that HAHA #amia.txt #hoverboard missionary anon saga

[criminal-sen]

Just saw a post that was this person going around calling vegetable dishes 'vegan' and getting a mixture of annoyance and 'shock' from their friends and family as a result. Their conclusion was that people HATE it when there's no animal abuse in their food... but ma'am? Sir? If I may? Iterate my humble take?? It may be because the market has become so utterly inundated with the word 'vegan' - we now have vegan leather (it's plastic), vegan shampoo (no animals were harmed and basic reading comprehension used to suffice FINE), vegan wool (plastic), vegan bread (most bread is ALREADY FUCKING VEGAN), an the list goes on and on.. that I'm sure the 'shock' you saw on the faces of your poor friends was merely resentment at the overuse of an already overused word, masked by the politeness they are sparing you because I'm sure EVERYONE already knows you're vegan and doesn't want to get you going🙄

#i am playing with fire by using the v word at ALL in this post #but good god the smugness that radiates feom these ppl is astounding #*from #like. shop local. eat less meat. yes. sure. good. #that doesnt make you better than other ppl. and it does NOT mean you need to be some kind of dietary missionary ffs