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#bc i finally acted only to find it wasn't a sustainable solution
thedreadvampy
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sorry guys it's a traumadump time
#the thing is it's just a bit mindboggling to me how i know all this and yet
#i was running scared from doing anything about blanket contraceptives until i was nearly 30
#bc like. i started obsessively using condoms only after my abortion
#bc. it's terrifying to try and every control over the sex you're having when you're used to the answer being no
#like. i did not want to ask and be refused i wanted to keep pretending i was in control
#when the truth is the majority of the time i wasn't
#but if i just didn't look at how in control i wasn't. if i didn't ask for it to stop and i didn't ask to change anything.
#i didn't have to know that someone didn't care whether i was ok. so i just didn't ask. for them to stop hurting me or to use condoms.
#but getting pregnant was so horrific for me that demanding condom use became less scary than the alternative
#still got pregnant 3 more times i think but my body dealt with it so it's ok
#but like. the last time i got raped. like the time that made me put my foot down and say something has to change
#and seek help and get therapy and deal with my trauma
#like it only BECAME undeniable rape instead of grudging consent to unwanted sex when i said 'i don't have unprotected sex'
#'if you have to have sex with me put on a fucking condom' and he didn't so i tried to prevent him so he physically forced me
#and that's the fear coming true right? That's the REASON i hadn't wanted to ask before my abortion. that making that hard line in the sand
#doesn't protect you it just makes the other person go mask off and hurt you more
#SO TELL ME WHY
#IT TOOK ANOTHER 4 YEARS AFTER THAT FOR ME TO ACTUALLY START WORKING TOWARDS ACCESSING HORMONAL CONTRACEPTION
#this is also why it's so fucking upsetting that the implant really fucked up my periods so i was bleeding constantly
#bc i finally acted only to find it wasn't a sustainable solution
#right now I'm taking the Pill plus the implant to try and resettle my period
#but tbh if it doesn't work after being on the pill temporarily i might just keep taking the pill
#doctor said it's a good solution bc the pill manages the period disruption but the implant provides backup if you miss a day
#red said
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